Who should make the adjustment? Parents or babies
By caecal07
@caecal07 (197)
United States
September 12, 2010 11:31pm CST
A lot of my friends have babies or are having babies. I am always hearing that they bring baby home and put him/her in a basinet in their room. A few months to a few years later they make the transition into their own room. I have recently been wondering why? Parents should be making the baby's life difficult. I don't believe in moving babies around. When I have kids the baby goes in the baby's room and I will probably go too. Wouldn't it be easier for baby if I moved out of its room than if it moved out of mine? I mean I understand that that senario won't work for some people because of living arrangements and such. If your baby would be moving into a bedroom with a sibling that might be hard but everyone I know whose doing this is a first time parent. It seems like common sense to me are people just dumb or unwilling to change? I mean really why be selfish like that and why make your life harder when you go to make that transition?
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@emarie (5442)
• United States
13 Sep 10
Well, I can understand it in both ways. I did have my child in my room for a while because we only had 1 bedroom. It's still kind of like that but its more their room and I do in there to sleep.
But for new parents they mother wants to keep close to their child. My sister had a room for her child but the first few months with the feedings and changing, it's just simpler for her to keep the baby in their room. It is more for the parents convenience, but the children really don't mind where they sleep and it doesn't matter much to them at that point.
@caecal07 (197)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Really the baby doesn't care? Put that baby in a crib in a different room and does it scream? probably your lucky if it doesn't scream... And thats my point is what's convenient for us really whats best for a baby? I mean how much harder would it be for that same parent to sleep on a bed in baby's room?
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
raising or pampering a child is depends on the culture of every parents. You have your own way of doing it and some have their own way too.
In doing discipline in children, it should be the parents will be followed. How come you will adjust to the will of a child where in fact your prime obligation is to lead them in the right position.
Eventually, the child will understand his routine.
To the one you are talking about, it is good to separate your child from the bedroom while thay are still young because sooner or later they will become independent and can easily do things on their own.
@caecal07 (197)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I totally agree that kids should do as their told... but a 2 week old baby doesn't care what its told... We're not talking about a 5 year old being naughty were talking about doing what's easiest for an infant who doesn't choose to do as its told or ignore you it just does what it does.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Hi Caecal,
I have had 4 children and they all slept in their own cribs when they were infants most of the time. I always kept a cradle in my room as well so sometimes they slept there. Once they reach a month or so then they should always be sleeping in their own room. I would not ever move myself into the babies room. What makes it hard for them to adjust is not the change in rooms but the separation from the mother. If you sleep in the babies room each night then once that baby realizes you are there then it will be just the same as if you had let the baby sleep in your own room.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 Sep 10
I see your point but why make any adjustments at all. If the space is not a constraint then put baby in their own room and the parents in their own.
This I have done with both my children and the bedrooms were close to mine and the use of baby monitors came in handy.
So what I get from your discussion that you would move out babies room, and this you find quite easily considering that perhaps you were a single parent. But isn't an adjustment still being made since you would have the room to move into anyways. This being the case as I has listed both in each separate room would be ideal.
@ambercatharine (36)
• United States
13 Sep 10
Are you saying that both parents or just one parent should sleep in the baby's room? Is there a bed in this room? Although I don't have kids yet, I believe I would do what your friends seem to be doing only because I haven't really thought about it as a problem. I don't think moving the child will really change anything in a negative way but I guess I'm not understanding what you believe those are.
@caecal07 (197)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I guess I think its not good for a baby if it feels the need to scream all the time... I think it would make more sense to avert that babies don't like change they adapt rather quickly but I guess It doesn't matter if one or both parents are in there just thinking in terms of how much easier it would be.
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
14 Sep 10
My husband and I have one room and our daughter has another. I found that I cannot sleep when my daughter is in the same room as I am. I hear every single noise, every time she rolls over, or breathes slightly differently. Since my daughter has had her own room since she was born, she has not had to make an adjustment, it is just like it has always been. I nursed, and i would nurse in her room. We had a rocker in there, with a foot rest.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
For me I don't experience about it here in our country Philippines we don't practice it so no adjustment follow.
