Is it really that difficult to understand Women?
By theSids
@thesids (22180)
Bhubaneswar, India
September 13, 2010 1:33am CST
Well, I have heard it many a times that a woman is quite difficult to understand. Sometimes I totally disagree with this but sometimes, I think that it is quite difficult. My mom, my cousin sisters, a couple of my friends and even my wife... They are so very difficult to predict at times... Any reasons? I don't seem to know.
Please share your thoughts and help me.
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21 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
13 Sep 10
You don't have to understand a women, sweetie.
The only things men need to understand about us, is this:
1. Listen when we talk to you.
2. Do as we tell you.
3. Never argue, you will loose that one.
4. Never bother us when we are busy.
5. Eat what you get or go to bed hungry.
6. Just love us, we CANNOT be replaced.
TATA.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Sep 10
I think so... Had seen this in many movies but I think that they base this one on facts. Thanks saphrina for this one. It helps me realize -
this somewhere gives the power to do many things that they couldnt have if they were men... Like epitomes of Love, Caring something that we men can just think of but never make it a reality.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Sep 10
Hi Saphrina.
Must say that I have no other way out when it comes to #3 with my wife. #1 and #5 with my mom. Yes, I do listen a lot to what they all say but at times when I differ I have faced the consequences sometimes they are 100% correct. And yes, I 1000% (not a typo) agree that the Women are irreplaceable...
But still I am unable to say for sure that I understand them (esp. my wife) with 100% accuracy. Maybe I need to follow a stricter 100% rule for some time and see the results.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
13 Sep 10
I guess the only way to predict their reaction towards things is to see it from their point of view. Yeah, i believe it's not an easy thing to understand them, probably because we don't seem to understand how it is to be a women. We are from mars and they are from venus.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Sep 10
Very rightly said voldrox. Maybe this is one of the major factors that we dont seem to understand them and more predict their reactions - "i believe it's not an easy thing to understand them, probably because we don't seem to understand how it is to be a women".
But is it that very necessary to understand something or predict with accuracy? Just for thought - I think we dont have to get into everything to understand or predict how they react?
@supermommyjem (101)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I think it is true depending on the mood of a woman. Sometimes I also feel that I don't understand myself especially on decision making that is why I always consult my husband. I believe woman has more desires in life than man that is why they worry too much for their family but for a man to understand a woman, he should be affectionate and spend time with a woman no matter what because that is what a woman really loves then surely you will understand her.
@supermommyjem (101)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I would also like to share that you look for Bryan Adams song "Have you ever really loved a woman?" It is well said on the lyrics on how to understand a woman. That song is really romantic!
@ankster (273)
• India
13 Sep 10
Iam A woman and I beleive it is not at all difficult to understand woman.As everyone is aware men are less sensitive and emotional than woman so its obvious they become late in understanding women emotions and feelings and when they understand it becomes too late so they term it that women are difficult to predict.Its men who lack in understanding skills and when women finally gets tired of men;s insensitivity and practicality she behaves in a different way which men find it hard to understand.Have we ever thought a women gives her whole day in understanding what men wants from morning till night and she fulfills her all duty towards men silently and in return she expects little bit consideration and love and men in their egos fails to fulfill simple need of women that is love and repsect and when women shows her anger men call it as unpredicted behaviour.Why cannot men put in some extra efforts like women in understanding her basic need that is love and concern..I only wish to suggest you spend more time with your wife,couins and mother.You will know what thet really want and never ever you will face this dilemma.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Sep 10
Well, I think I have to disagree with you on personal relations with many women around. I have never been an egoistic when it comes to women and have a belief that Women are superior beings who are gifted with many traits that make them essentially superior to men. I think some of my friends at MyLot would agree to this (if they have been to my thread here - http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2376551.aspx and many other responses to others' threads).
@paulbankonline (145)
• India
13 Sep 10
Oh Sid what a discussion! I am not going to comment on it rather I would like to congratulate you on selecting this topic. definitely all women will like this post as they always want to overpower us but failed.
On the other hand men will definitely like this because seeing this they will remember of their wives in home and their torture and want to express their pain here.
So Sid awesome Man. I like this
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Sep 10
Thanks Paul but unfortunately, the reason to start this thread is a personal experience that happened with my wife and mom and me 3 days back and the effects of that continued till today. However today, I was shocked and surprised to see the changes and just failed to understand them. The words - "Women are the most complicated creations of God" - just crossed my mind and I sought for thought and opinions here.
I wanted to put the entire happenings as they unfolded during the last few days but as this is published on Internet they would consider it as it were on record and I would need to seek permissions from the others(my mom and wife) who are involved...
@barelal (111)
• India
13 Sep 10
in some fields i think its very difficult to understand a woman. women are so choosy, selective and of greedy nature in some fields but they have more mercy then a man. they believe in taking revenge as compared to boys, i have seen that. an example of their critical nature is that they show so much of mercy on poor people and also they actively participate in helping them. now while making a relation ship, like marriage, i had never seen a girl marrying a poor guy even if the guy loves her truly from heart. instead of this a man can marry a poor girl. this shows some weird nature of girls. whatever may be but i love my mummy more than daddy because she is of so carrying nature.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Sep 10
Well, I disagree in the Marriage part here with you because I am a live example. When we got married, she knew that I am a poor guy with some critical illness and will not be able to earn and support our family again. Yet, she loves me and we are together for over three years now.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Oct 10
I think it is because Some women say one thing and do the complete opposite. I don't but there are some that do. This is the only reason I can come up with.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
14 Sep 10
There brains are physically different then ours. Science has proven this, they are better at somethings, we are better at others things, and we will never understand them and whatever they believe they will never understand us.
I liked one analogy, a mans brain is like a waffle, a womans brain is like a plate of spaghetti.
What do you make of that?
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
19 Sep 10
I think it's impossible for some men to understand women. xD I always think of it like human beings are programmed with a certain algorithm. Men are simple like a + b = c. Women are not quite that simple. Women are more like (pi/2 - arcsin x) squared over arctan y. Only those that are really skilled with math would ever be able to understand. xD And even then the answer is never definite.
I always feel bad for my hubby because he tries hard to pay attention and understand what I'm talking about, but I can always tell when he's slipping. He just gives me that blank look and I know he's got no idea...lol.
Then again, in a lot of ways, it's sometimes difficult to understand why men do what they do. It doesn't always make sense to us women.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 10
Hi,
People do says " woman is so difficult to understand".
I as a woman don't think it is right.
Woman is also a human being and as long as you have a good
relationship with her,then it is not difficult to understand her
character well.
Of course, woman is more moody on certain times. and as her boyfriend/
husband,you guys have to be more tolerate and try to understand their
feeling well. Try to pamper her more and everything will be fine.
@manbir84 (134)
• India
16 Sep 10
Yes sometimes they are hard to predict.I think the reason behind that they have mysterious nature.I think the women see and think about world little bit different from men.Their needs and happiness are very different from men.These many more little aspects that make women unpredictable.
@chona0912 (103)
•
14 Sep 10
hi , i'm a woman , and i don't think we are difficult to understand. Its just that man are insensitive to the needs od womwn.
@SinfulRose (3527)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Sep 10
I don't think that one needs to understand a person completely. If one is like that, oh yes, you may know his/her needs. But on the other hand, where's the fun in that? The reason why humans have relationships is because one wants to understand someone and to see how that someone grows being with him/her.
But answering your question, I think this is the particular answer. Sometimes, women think with their heads but most of the time, women use their hearts. Intelligent women may use their brains in work but they feel when they're at home. The reason why men sometimes can't understand women is because men tend to think with their brains alone. Understanding humans take a lot of time, sometimes a lifetime. But hey, who stops their relationships because it's long and tedious? (^_^)
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
I am a woman.:) Like men, we also have that strange attitude sometimes. We have the tendency to expect men or everybody around us to know what we are thinking or want even without us telling about it.:) We expect things from people and when we get disappointed we tend to really be so sensitive about it...
Sometimes, there could also be some physical factors that may affect our mood swings like menstruation or hormonal change even that menopausal stage.:(
Moreover, we ALWAYS want to be taken cared of and loved.LOL
@avinandy1980 (52)
• India
13 Sep 10
Yeah, I am totally agree with you. Its very hard to understand a woman due to their nature of feelings. A girl always seek importance. But if you give her more importance she will think you less important for her. They always expect more and more but when they will get it they will not give the proper value. You never can predict a woman what does she want. But anyhow a woman is having very important part in our society. So I think respect is the best way to judge a woman. Cause if you give a woman respect then only she will be able to express herself to you.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Is it really that difficult to understand Women? Before I answer as a women perhaps my question would be; is really so easy to understand a man??
I suppose if there was a third option then there would be really great answers. Outside of saying that at times we can be unpredictable. Many can be difficult as well.
Be well.
@ruz001 (11)
•
14 Sep 10
Yeah! Women really difficult to understand: they wants us to communicate and follow them at all times, they want to be taking care of, they want us guys to treated them like little girls once in a while. grrrrr... There mind changes fast, You should be always understand them or else it's over.
@pastorlamont (184)
• United States
13 Sep 10
Well, sometimes it can be difficult because we are not on the same wavelength. What I mean is...you've gotta go back to the beginning...Adam and Eve baby. Now think with me for a moment...when God created Adam, the first thing He told him to do was go to work! The first thing God gave Adam was a job!! Now, when God formed Eve, the first thing He gave her was Adam! The first thing Eve understood was relationships...the first thing Adam understood was work and self - worth. These are 2 totally different things. I mean, when I get together with my male friends, we're not whipping out baby pics and asking how our shirts make us too sleezy...(LOL) - no, most of the time we're talking sports, jobs, etc. Also, there's the emotional make - up of a man versus a woman...because relationship is her social foundation...you'll find that her emotions are higher, and many times, this can and will effect her moods, likes and dislikes...ranging from puzzling to out right insane!
You know, a woman is like a Rubix cube...you get one of the colors solid on 1 side, then the other sides are all mixed up, you go to work on those and the first one you figured out falls apart!!! The beautiful thing about it though is, if you truly love your wife, or women in general...the figuring out part is rather interesting...it also let's them know that they are worthy of your most attention...yeah it's difficult, but at least it can be fun!