Will you sacrifice your dream just to earn more?
By beauty_denia
@beauty_denia (41)
Philippines
September 14, 2010 1:02am CST
Life is full of ups and downs, sometimes we feel that we can control our life and the directions that we like to go. I told myself before that I will be a very successful Professional Information Technologist after college, but things didn't turn out the way I planned it to be, I was not happy with my profession. The feeling of fulfillment and satisfaction was not there anymore, so, I decided to go back to school and take up a course that is totally different from my previous course. I took up BSN (nursing), finally it is in this profession that I find myself dreaming and aiming to be a loving, compassionate and caring nurse. Somehow my dreams have come true, I'm Licensed Nurse and 100% love this caring profession. After months of satisfaction and fulfillment in providing outmost care to patients that needs care I felt sad because my salary is not enough even to sustain my family needs for the month, pay for state board exam and reviews. Love my work so much but at the same time I'm responsible for my family's future as well as the breadwinner.
Last week, a friend came to visit and told me that there are job opportunities abroad, jobs that offer good salary and enough to support and give my family a beautiful future. She told me that why not apply as a caregiver and earn more than to stay in my country were nurses doesn't earn much. It is a tempting offer, that's why I'm such in a dilemma because of my love for my profession and the good paying jobs abroad. If only I can afford to finance my review and future state board exam so that I can practice my work as a nurse and earn enough to give my family a beautiful future.
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13 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Sep 10
Hi beauty_denia
Welcome to MyLot.
I think it all depends on two things - First, what is more important to you - the money or your dream. Second, can your dream wait till you satisfy your lust for money.
For me, I have no lust for making big money. Yes, money is essential to me but I am more happy keeping my requirement to the minimum - so that I can live and also save something for my bad times. This does give me time to chase my dreams. On the dreams front too... I do not have anything too big - just to be able to bring smiles on the faces of other people.
Maybe this is because of my age and my ill health but this is all that I have at the moment.
Happy Mylotting.
@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Hello Thesids :), thank you for the comment, you're precisely right, we should always put priority to what make us happy and how to contribute to others. For me my happiness and priority is my family and the same time my profession as a nurse that help others. I always feel fulfilled whenever I practiced the Caring profession. :)
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
14 Sep 10
Have you considered private nursing on the side, or some other such thing. In this way you can make your dreams your reality or in some other way.
Turn your passions to profit, just think of how. Focus on solutions not problems. I have faith in you!
Working abroad has its up and downs, perhaps you can be a nurse elsewhere, then earn enough to bring your family to where you go, I know many foreigners that can afford to live here, and they send money home each month to support their families, and after a while they bring their families over, and I am happy for each and every one.
If you don't like your circumstances CHANGE them.
Sincerely and With Appreciation.
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@cyberbucks (199)
• India
14 Sep 10
Yes,i totally agree with Cjscott,try private nursing,you love your work you got experience too.You will definetly get a job which will totally satisfy your financial and personal needs without going abroad.
@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Thank you CJscott and cyberbucks for the comment , boost of confidences and advices :), I greatly appreciated your advices and for spending your precious time ,thank you.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
You know this is the sad things here in our place. Even we are qualified to some good and reputable jobs as we spent all our resources just to finished our dream course in college and at the end we earned low income. And, the opportunity or offer from other country tempted us to grab just to sustain the needs of our family. In this case our profession is subject to set aside just to earn more. Putting myself on your shoes and for the sake of my family, I will grab the opportunity just to earn big but i will continue doing what i love. For only, the satisfaction and love of my career as RN. We are happy if we are satisfied to what we are doing right now. To serve people is great! Be happy!
@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Hi mods, to be part in this Caring Profession is so fulfilling and satisfying. Helping and providing outmost care to our clients who needs it is incomparable. Because of financial difficulties and aiming for our family's future needs always tempt us to set aside momentarily our happiness in serving with compassion. But no matter what work we're in the love and passion for Nursing will always be there.I just hope the governement will give good financial compensation to the members of the health team.
@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Thank you so much for the time and for reminding how beautiful to be a nurse is :)
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
we created our dreams in order to fulfill it..there are dreams that we cannot reach out it is because we change our way of direction..sometimes we have to choice for the better...but the dicession we have to select, even though we are in the midst of fulfillment what it cannot satisfied us, why? it is because this is not what our want to be..this things cannot make us to make happy..so what supposed to do is choose what make us to satisfy..
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@ree_yah (462)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
hi!! i can relate to you so much because ive got the same dilemma in the past years...
uknow what happened??? i realised that y family is more important.. i spent 2 years in the states. my kids were far from me. my husband cant attend to their needs especially that they are both girls in their pubertal stage.
they were not able to appreciate the beauty of it all. i felt so bad. then when i came home, it felt so strange, in two years time.. the girls grew so fast. they got big and i sont know how to handel them this time. they changed a lot.
after 2 years i decided not to go back. me and my husband looked for a job where we have salaries that is enough to make us survive everyday. not too much money but at least ive got to enjoy my family while theyre still with me.
always remember, lifes too short!
neway, goodluck to ur decision.. :)
@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
thanks Ree_yah, I greatly appreciated your advice and comment. Thank you for allowing me to see the possible consequences that me and my husband will face in the future.
@magnetizer89 (105)
• India
14 Sep 10
the ques u asked is really a good one... for me my dream is to earn money no matter about the way.. so sacrificing dreams to earn is not for me.. because my dream is to earn money.. but according to me 80-90% of people around here can sacrifice their dreams to earn money.. because everything is money in life... somewhere in life u will feel like wat to do with the dream lets earn some money.. so there are few people who will not gonna sacrifice their dreams for the money.. but many will gonna do this...
@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Hi magnetizer89, thank you for the comment :), yes it's true that many will sacrifice their dreams just to earn money, especially if your going to allocate it for your future family and needs.
@sylvia13 (1850)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
15 Sep 10
The love for your job is what you have at the moment. The rest are just hopes and dreams. Last night I watched an interesting documentary about this family who was trying to leave Ecuador to search for a better life in the USA. Leaving wife and kids the husband paid some money and went first, but he was caught and had to return home. Soon after they decided that the wife should go next, so heart torn she left her husband and kids, including a small 2 year old and went. After a difficult and traumatic trip she arrived and started to work in the new country, but she had to admit that the money did not compensate being together with her family, so after 5 months she had to return. I am also a migrant and have to admit that the grass sure looks greener on the other side of the fence sometimes!
@jessyhlr1981 (56)
• China
14 Sep 10
dear denia, after reading ur passage, I want to show my respect to u. U r a beautiful as well as strong lady that support ur family and do well in ur profession. I'm sorry to hear that even though u r doing excellent and can find complete satisfaction as well as fulfillment from ur current work, this job can't pay u enough to sustain a decent life for ur family. That is life in many cases. Yeah, it is really tempting that u could earn a great more abroad, yet at the same time ur family will miss u a great lot, and u'll miss them too. But if that job of caregiver is also what u r good at and what u like, why not go for one year at first? just to go through the current financial problem and u may find many more opportunities in nurse field which u love and pays u more as well. Good luck!
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@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Hi Jessyhlr1981 :) thank you for the comment and advices, yes I will consider what you have told me, it's true that at the moment we are experiencing some difficulties. I guess a year is not bad since I'll be doing it for my family anyway. And I hope a year of good paying job will allow me to save for my requirements in the state board exam and to finance my new family. Thank you, I deeply appreciated your time and advice.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
15 Sep 10
I think it is depend on your own choice.. if you give preference to money then you can sacrifice your dreams.. for money.. and if you give preference to dreams then you can achieve your dreams.. but for this you should do you best..and also efforts from your hearts..
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
14 Sep 10
Wow it must be a real difficult situation for you. I have been in your place before once but it was not actually jobs which i was in. But i made a choice that time and i have been separated from my girlfriend for making that choice but till today i have no regrets about that.
You should try your luck abroad if it's not working out at where you are right now. I wish you the very best and i am sure once you have got the taste of how it is you could then make a choice between the two of them but you know what they say...
THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE HOME.
Cheers!
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@beauty_denia (41)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Hi raviteja_ravi84 thank you for the comment, you right there's no place like home :) but sometimes we have to leave home for our family members long time benefit :) thank you for wishing well for me .
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 10
I think when we are young, you can still sacrifice your dream for money. However, do keep your dream with you and when you earn enough, proceed with your dream full time. Meanwhile, you can still do what you like... just through part time so that we keep our dreams close to us :D
Hopefully you will be able to fulfill your dreams and your wealth in the near future.
Good luck!!
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@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
14 Sep 10
Dreams will always be dreams, only a minority of them can turn into reality. We can be dreaming about anything and even preparing to work towards that goal. However that's just based on what we see and hear happening on others. It's a totally different thing when we are in it, experiencing on our own.
We can dream to be the a millionaire but how long can we be staying happy being one? Dreams should not be too far fetched and goals are what make us interested because we try it before. If the sacrifice is worth it, don't bother about the money. When life reaches the end of its journey, u are responsible for yourself.
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