favoritism

is that sister younger or older? i used to feel the same way that you do, i hated that feeling also.. but now that i am a mother, i finally understand why.. i know that my parents love me, but i understand that the level of love is different because i also have a different level of love for my kids.. i thinks its because my older child has been with me for a longer child than my younger child.. in my case with my siblings, we are three and my mom favors my older sister and my father favors my younger sister, i guess its because my mom really had more time with my older sister and my father was always with my yournger sister and aside from that i am the most independent among the three of us so my parents detected that i did not need much of attention..

First a disclaimer. I'm sorry if I end up offending you. I don't mean to. This is the same advise I gave my 28 year old friend. It's unfortunate if your father plays favorites among you and your sister. But I noticed from your profile that you are 20 years old. As an adult, I think we should start carrying out an adult-to-adult relationship with our parents. What I mean is, we start cultivating a life independent from our parents. Like, we no longer seek their approval for every single thing that we do or it's ok that they are not included in some of our plans. And vice versa. We become friends with our parents instead. I'm not saying that we should no longer want affection or attention from them. It's natural to want that. I'm just saying that we've got our own lives to live now that we're adults. So it won't help you if you envy your sister. This feeling of envy ties you down to your family, in a bad way. Because, more often than not, your motivation in doing things will always be "will this get my father's attention." If it doesn't, then you end up feeling sad, and then resentment toward your sister and father. What you should be focusing on is whether YOU like what you're doing, or if YOU approve of your accomplishments or if what you do makes YOU happy. If this favoritism thing has been going on since you were kids, then it's part of the past. You can't do anything about it. What you should do is just keep being affectionate to your dad and sister. Show them how much you love them. But learn to love your own life, apart from anyone else, as well. Your self-worth should not be dependent on the affirmation of others. Love yourself based on how you see yourself not on how others see you. Again, I don't mean to offend you or anything. Just my thoughts. Take care! Mwah!

As a parent and a sister, i would say that favoritism never exist in minds of parents. parents love their children sincerely and equally. It just a plain thoughts of you that they loved your sister more than you. They loved you, you just cant feel it because you are bombarded with thoughts that they didn't love you.

i thought of that too when i was still a kid. i always feel that my mother favors my brother more than me. but i was wrong, she said that her love for both of us are equal. There are just times that she feels my brother needs more attention than i do because she see that i can handle things better than my brother. i knew all this after i talk to my mother about how i feel. try talking to your father as well.

i do feel that i'm my fathers favorite. my sister is my moms favorite. my brother is my grandparents favorite. i guess i don't envy them for i have the attention of my father... they can have my moms and grands...