family or career
By ABHY14
@ABHY14 (15)
Philippines
September 14, 2010 9:25am CST
in the early stage of my marrried lyf i thought that love is the only thing to be considered in making a family, but then as time goes by, raising kidz i realize that we have to had a good job, stable job to support our daily necessities, and thats my bigest problem, because as i started workking, my husband get jeolous with my co workers, he is working too but then he had mistress. omg, he always make things difficult for me, as im so mad at all and i lost patience i decide to leave him, and now, i have a new partner and have kidz with him again, i dont know why same problem is encountered, all i want is just to work for the future of my kidz but then he do not trust me, why? i dont know why their mentality is like that, all i am after is for the kidz to have a good future, i want them to finish college.
I think i dont have the luck of a partner, sometimes i always think that i am of badluck at all.. pls tell me what to do i am so confused dont know what to think now...
6 responses
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
I think the reason he is like that is because of his own infidelity. I guess you have a problem because you really don't seem to have so much option as of this moment. But I always believe that there is always a hope and a way.
why not try to think and look on other jobs that may be "safe" for you. I guess this is quite difficult because you may had already like your work now. There may be one party that has to give in, in order for the marriage.
Just don't give so much attention on the thought that you are unlucky.. The more you dwell on it, the more it would be big on your life and decisions..
Good day.
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
There is no question about it anymore.
Family comes first before anything else.
In fact, I have stopped working when I gave birth to my child.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I think the best answer would be to prioritize our family, and the next will follow.
I have heard this from one very succesful man: prioritize your family - do your work well for your family, always think of your family, your loved one when working and rest will follow.
If you only think of yourself, your boss, your own career, your own advancement, then you might not even try hard enough, you might not even aim for the bigger catch. BUT if you always have your family in mind - you will always do better and will not do anything to destroy your boss' trust, the company's trust.
When you think of your family, you know you will not betray your family and they will be the first one to be affected - ALL THE TIME. when you lose your job, what will your family eat? if you get promoted, your family will enjoy better benefits... right? so we think of them (our family) and we will always want the best for us, for our company and of course for our family!
@arrebaldeB (32)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Maybe you need to give up your career nor losing your family.And let your husband work for you and make a small business just in your house. .a store can be?!Because career over family is a wrong choice because whatever you do, family is family,your related in blood?!. . while career?it might lost anytime. .
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Family is most important, but sometimes that means that one of the parents in the relationship has to focus on their career so that the family can have that stability that is needed to raise grounded children. Currently, it is my husband that is focusing on his career. He is taking on extra responsibilities with work, which means that I am taking on more of the house work and raising of our child. In the long run, this will help our family be more stable because we will not have to be living pay check to pay check, and may actually get our family out of debt.
