Will you be OK if you died today?

If death come 'a knockin' - Death and readiness
@bounce58 (17385)
Canada
September 14, 2010 6:16pm CST
If it were decided that you will die today, will you warm up(pun) to the idea? I know that the obvious response would be to say ‘No’, but if you think about it, and if you forget being selfish for a minute, and not think of the things you still deserve, do you think you’ll be OK? Have you done everything to at least call it a life? Deep down I think I will be OK. Not because I am stuck, or my life is a failure, or I just want to hide from everybody, or that I don’t deserve any life-favors, but I just think I’m ready. Don’t get me wrong, I would want to see my kids grow up, or experience a few more things in life, but if it were to end right now, I know I’ll ease into the idea. How about you? If not, why don’t you think you’re not ready yet then?
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23 responses
• United States
21 Sep 10
the Only reason I say no these days is a totally selfless reason, It would kill my guy. He would miss me . The light in his life would go out. Before him I was ready to die, in fact I was ready to die when I was 18! Back then since I couldn't see a future I thought I didn't have one. Now I may not have a future but I love my present.
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• United States
23 Sep 10
Yes I know how lucky I am. All I can say is Yes I feel you will find your One. Just don't look. I wasn't looking , He Found me. Just find something you love to do and do it. I wish luck and love.Ok Enough of the mushy stuff!
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
23 Sep 10
Oh how very sweet sarah! That's very loving. I just say this because I know how you love mushy stuff sarah! You do know that you are very lucky, right? Maybe someday I'll be lucky too and i will find my vesion of the gal/guy. Thanks.
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
19 Sep 10
if truly speaking...i have to live for at least 6-7 years more...till my kids need no help of mine in studies etc...at present i am the one who is molding their lives and teaching them the importance of education, hard working and to make them successful in life...i think that i need some more contribution...in their lives...after that too i know that i will like to taste the food of their success..but yes...i accept that till that time they will be grown up and also their father is capable of giving them higher education and will look after them...though i know that life without mom..and my hubby's life without wife will be too difficult...but then at least i can say...that yes...they can make habit of living without me slowly ....
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
23 Sep 10
thanx bounce for appreciation...as i have brought them to this world...i feel its my responsibility to make good humans
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
23 Sep 10
Hello eshaan. This discussion have a relatively good turnout, yet your response is very unique. Most of the people here say they are ready, some say they are not, but you are the only one that asks for a definite number of year to be still alive. Great answer! Thanks.
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I'll not be okey as there are still plans for the family. There are still unfinished business, though when the right time comes we can not say "no". Unfulfilled dreams, unfinished business and everything would just be left behind.
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@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
19 Sep 10
But, when will it stop? When will we be ready? I think as human beings, we will always have that feeling of 'unfinished business' or 'unfulfilled dreams'. Just wishing that we will be ready when the time comes. Thanks bing28!
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 10
I am ready to die at any time. But if possible, I want to live longer. So that my child ready to live without me. My son is 7 years old. So many of my concern. But if I should die more quickly, I hope my son does not lack attention and love. God definitely has his own story, making me die early.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 10
Yes, you are correct. God has his own reasons, to make someone die. And God will take care of, people we leave behind.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
I'm sure that there will be reasons if we go today. And I'm sure that we wouldn't understand why. We can just hope and pray that the people we leave behind are taken cared of. Especially our children. Thanks indahfth.
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@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I still have a lot of things to do with my life. I still haven't found my life's meaning and purpose. I still have a lot to learn and a lot to share to the world. So no, I don't think I'm ready to die yet. But of course, if I'm fated to die now, I don't have any choice do I? Our lives are just borrowed existence and it's only natural to give it all back to our creator. Anyway, I think I will be ready when I'm sure my family is happy, all my loved ones are happy, and I feel like it's ok if I leave them.
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@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
16 Sep 10
Great response! Now I think that the only problem is to bridge where we are right now, to where our family would be happy. Then we could also say with confidence that we are OK if it were our time. Thanks for dropping by.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Would i be OK? Absolutely not! I'm still too young to die and I have alot of things i haven't done in my life or need to accomplish. I still want to be a millionaire or to be a successful Hollywood star and I'm scared and not ready to die yet, please wait until I'm old and wrinkly. =D
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
15 Sep 10
i would be ok with it. i would like to travel but i am happy with everything i have done.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
Hi cher. I hope that you do get to travel. And I hope that the 'go' time is still far far off for you. The most important thing is that you are already happy with everything that you have. Thanks.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Sep 10
I'm not ready because I have to much left to do. I might warm up if I know there is no choice but...then again...I might not. My children need me too much as of now...I do really mean that they have NOONE else. I have to hang around until they are grown or there will be noone for them to turn to.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
Same wish here Jen. I would also like to hang around until my kids don't need me anymore. They are still very young. And selfishly, I would also like to see for myself if they turned out to be good human beings. Validation for me. Thanks.
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Oh, I hope He will not take me yet. I am not just ready to go... Why? I have a tough life with a tough situations facing right now and it seems that asking Him to take me is an easy way out but I am not going to do that because I am not ready yet plus I couldn't be selfish to the people who still need me, my kids... I can only say that I am ready when I have done my part as a parents and when I know that my kids are going to be ok without me.Right now, that are still so dependent on me that I will never be in peace if I go home right now... But, I'm looking forward of the day when I can finally be home with HIM.:)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
When you become a parent, you will learn to fight even the oddest of situation for your kids' sakes.... Thank you for appreciating my two cents worth, Bounce. Have a wonderful day.:)
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
I can tell from your response eurekafemme that you're a fighter. That you don't back down on challenges. Even if you are facing a tough time, you wouldn't take it easy. There is something to be admired for that trait. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
15 Sep 10
I think i'd be ready. I brought up 2 beautiful children that are sucessful. Met my 2 beautiful grandkids..took care of both my parents for many years till their passing. I think I pretty much did all of what i'm here for....ya sometimes I wish I could take a dirt nap.....
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
...dirt nap, interesting term for it! I think no one could ever accuse you of not doing the most significant things in life. I think you've done what is important, and that could be a comforting thought if it was really time to go. Thanks.
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
15 Sep 10
It won't be okay for me. I'd be leaving lots of people in my life, and I know they aren't ready for things like this. I also still have goals to reach, I'm young and I haven't enjoyed life to the fullest yet. Although sometimes the feeling of being gone would be good (freedom from all the stress and whatnot), we should also think of the people around us.
@flauee (92)
15 Sep 10
i aint ready to go yet... i still have things to do... my son is too young to be with out a mother... and i dont want my husband to run off to the sunset and merry someone else and replace me as a wife and mother... selfish it may sound but thats how it is for me...
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
At least you're honest flauee. There is no buts about it. You don't want your husband to replace you, so you are not ready. I don't think it's selfish, it's just being human. Thanks.
@swa5tica (81)
• Bulgaria
15 Sep 10
No. For me will be Ok. But for my wife? For my son? For my family? For my friend? Are they will be Ok? I don't think so! They will be so sad about me. They will never forget my face. Everythng i do... I hate dieing people all over the world. Every second people are dieing and every secound babys are borning...
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
Hello swa5tica. I agree that even if it were going to be OK for us, it would be difficult for our family, friends and love ones. Thanks.
@triondem (151)
• Estonia
15 Sep 10
Nice topic to discuss. Well it wont be Ok, if I die today. Because life's too beautiful.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
Hello triondem. I think the topic wasn't nice enough to merit a few more lines. But I agree with you, that life is too beautiful! Thanks!
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
It's not being selfish but if it's my time to die then so be it. If not, then I prefer to live. I don't do much in my life. Practically bumming and keeping my mom company but I enjoy it. I don't want to take my own life away. I live that to God. In the after life, I think I will be okay. I did try my best to be good.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
20 Sep 10
Great that even if you just consider yourself as just bumming around and just keeping your mom company, the thought of taking your life is far from your thoughts. Maybe this state of your life is just a set up for something big. Thanks for the response.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 10
I wouldn't think i am ready to die just yet.... everything haven't been stable and no, i haven't enjoyed life enough. There are still many that depends on me and i won't be letting them down if possible.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
20 Sep 10
I hope that you do get stable enough in your life. And you do get to enjoy it as most as you can. So that when the time does come, you could actually say that you are ready. Thanks asxenon.
@dollar3235 (2062)
• India
15 Sep 10
Hmmmm......good question. My answer to your question will be "Yes". I am at a point of my life where I have achieved most of the things which I had dreamt in my childhood. Generally, people have two chapters in their life, first chapter is the one where you grow up completing your study and get a job and you are satisfied with it. Second chapter is the one where you get married and once again you have other responsibilities for the rest of your life. As I have completed the first chapter, I think if I get an option, I would certainly choose "Yes" for your question at this point of time in my life...
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
20 Sep 10
So, does this mean that you've completed the first chapter, and not yet the second part, yet you're OK if you were to go today? If so, then that is what I consider a very mature attitude and very self-confident in your situation. Thanks for dropping by.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
If I'll die today,i won't be happy because i still have so many things to achieve/fulfill.I want to success in my chosen field!But my main goal is to keep my family from poverty. . .but if its my time, I'm ready. . .
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
21 Sep 10
Hello arrebaldeB. It is great that even if you think that there are still a lot of things that you want to achieve and fulfill, you are still ready when the time comes. Thanks!
@Punkiee (139)
• India
15 Sep 10
Nope, I have got lots of regrets to make with some promises to complete and also some other important things to do in life but if it is the end its fine i have seen alot to proud of.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
20 Sep 10
Hi Punkiee. I'm sure that everybody has lots of regrets, and broken promises that we still feel need to be mended, but when it's really time, I doubt we can really say NO. Thanks!
• Thailand
15 Sep 10
NO. I also very much to do...
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
20 Sep 10
Sure, thanks for the attempt.