Is it possible to find a true friend?

in Jan of 2009, my husband got so seriously ill that he was hospitalized for 5-1/2 months. While he's made remarkable strides, he is handicapped and will probably never recover to his pre-illness levels. Believe me, that experience taught me that I handed out the title of friend much too freely. The person that I considered my BFF called me a total of 3 times in the 15 months since he came home from the hospital. We sold our home in April and moved out of state. The last time that she called was 2 weeks before our move and she asked if she could come over to say goodbye and she never showed up and she never called. So many people that I considered to be acquaintances were there for me and I realized that these were the people who were my true friends. It's easy to talk the talk and much harder to walk the walk. In your situation, you could sit down with your friend and have a frank conversation with him. Perhaps, youve done something that offended him without realizing it. If you just viewed the relationship as being closer than he did, I would just accept it and walk away. There is a person out there who is worthy of being your best friend.

I have been on the same situation like you before when I was still in elementary. I treated her as my best friend and I thought she felt the same with me. But then things change and she found a new best friend, of course I was hurt badly. But that doesn't stop me from having friends and getting close again to one of them and treating her as my new best friend.Even now that we're both married, nothing has change. We are still as close as before we even call each other BFF (best friends for life).We still see each other when we have time. We update each other's lives even if we're busy and miles apart. Don't worry you'll get over that. In time you will just have another best friend who will take the place of the other one you lose.

Hi Winstonbaltazar and welcome to my lot. I am 56 years old and to this day I have found only one person that I can call a true friend. And he is my husband! I have had many ladies ( I thought were my friends) only to find out it was all a lie. It is hard to really find someone that has the same kinds of goals and ambitions as you. But that could be my fault as much as it was theirs. I have always been able to meet someone and tell you in a few minutes if I would be able to trust and or be friends with them. I think the best place to find friends to hang out with isn't in bars or places where they have no morals about what they do. I think the best place to find a decent person to hang out with is at a good church. Too bad for me and my husband there isn't a church around here that teaches the truth about Gods word so we won't go to them. We have been to several churches around here but none really taught us as much as the preacher we watch on TV. http://www.shepherdschapel.com/index.htm Now if this church was close we would be there every time the doors was open. Good luck on finding a good friend. I would pray about it and ask Gods advice.

some people are really just so unlucky when it comes to friendship.like me,i had few friends whom i considered as best friends, but they turned me down.when i was in high school, these friends often asked me to do favors for them.i did, just so they'd let me be their best friend too.but they just fade one by one as the years go by....i didnt missed them even once,because im content now with what i have in life.friends or no friends, the world will keep on turning and life goes on.go out there and make new friends, who knows, maybe you'll get lucky this time to find a treasure in a friend.

nowadays it is very difficult to find a real friend because some people would just like to be your friend if you have a lot of money...........

It's difficult to find a true friend .we must take out real feeling to contact with some people ,because what we treat others is just like what others treat us .we sometimes must pay some things,such as time ,money and so on.if you think that somebody is not worth making friends,you can end this ,don't waste much time and energy. wish to have a good time in your life.

I am in a similar situation with you but it includes a lot more people than just one for me. But still, I think there can be a great friend out there, but I think, I realize now that it is not about being attached with that friend but being by each others side when were really need it.

i do believe our couple is our best friends...she or he is a best place to share, to hear our feelings and moods, we can hug them each other and suport and crictis what we are doing

It is possible to try a true friend. I believe that you have to be careful with who you let in and out of your life and you have to be very cautious. I have had what happened to you so many times and I have been burned by so many friends, I just tend not to trust people any more and they have to honestly get my trust before they are truly labeled as a true friend or even a best friend. I had two friends who I grew up with. One friend, well he stopped talking to me after graduating from highschool, he got really popular and our friendship just fell down from there and my other good friend that I grew up with we spent many years together after high school and we been through a lot together and then one day she just stopped talking to me. To this day I still don't know what happened. Just one thing you should learn is that no matter who comes in and out of your life, you live and you learn and you will become more cautious of the people that you become friends with and you'll find that being like that will eventually bring you a long some really good friends. Because we all need at least one friend in our life. I to this day have one friend and I can truely say that she is my best friend and that I can tell her anything. That is how much I trust her. Those are the type of friends you should have in your life and that you will know that they will be there for you no matter what. Through the good times and the bad times, and not just when they need something. I've had friends in my life that just used me because they were having problems in their life or they needed some money and when they got whatever they wanted then, they would just not talk to you until they needed something else again. Be cautious of friends like that as well. Don't worry once again, you will find a good friend one day.

i have met this problem and have same experience.although we know each for 15 year and grow up together in same school and even we work together and lived for several years now.finally she still hurt me and make me disppointed. i could not believe true friendship from that time.but i find that my mind is wrong.because i find a true friend when i work someone can really help me and let me find happy from them.so i find that this mind is too narrow.although it is too hard to find true friend.but time can certificate the friendship'importance between people

best and true friends are hard to find, i guess i just lucky to have one for almost 8 years now. it is just important that you keep the communication open and feel free to talk things out so you will know what's on each others minds because sometimes we can't avoid to assume things.

The person whom you are treating as bestfriend treats you like a "regular friend" is quite normal. Our perception of our relationship is within us so are other people. There are people whom you treat special but do not reciprocate the same treatment. As long as he does not betray you of your trust and does not talk bad things on your back, then I guess it does not matter if you call him best friend or not. Dwell more on the fact the you are comfortable being with the person, and he accepts you unconditionally and that is all that should matter between friends or best friends.

There is a differences between true friend and friend. A true friend is the one you have been known for a long time, and tested, while a friend is something like an acquaintance only. You can stll find a true friend whom you can put your trust. Just look around.

Yes, i was in such a situation. My "best" friend was betrayed me. Wi was not only best friend, a feel him like my brother... Like a real brother, that i don't have. He stole from me a lot of money. I know him it 12 years. I helped him in all of my life and after all of that he stole $3000 from me. This was my savings. He took them and want to one casino. You know what's happen there. You will never have a real friend. There is no such a word... Well, there is word, but there is a real man, who can be a real friend in this life. If you think that you can have a real friend, i don't blame you! But this is only a dream, my 'friend'.

I think problem with almost all of us is that we always trying to look for best friend but never try to be a best friend. I am not pointing out your case but i have seen so many other peoples who always complains that there are no good friends in this world. So i think we should try to be a good friend for others and life will be full of happiness. I am practicing this and i am so happy.

Not impossible to find a true friend. There are many good people around to be a good friend of yours if you want... Be good to them also...have a great day!

yes it is possible.. because if someone is your best friend.. then he/she would be your true friend.. yes really.. because i have also a friend when i was in 11th standard.. and now our friendships are 10 years old.. so i can say he is my best and true friend.. because i shared everything with him.. so he is my true friend..

Well honestly right now I don't know if my close friends are treating me as their best friend as well. But then I just keeping it deep inside that I am treating them as my best friend for some reasons like I trusted them and they have been supportive to me.

Everything is possible.It's not you cann't find true friends,but you haven't encountered such persons.True friends need to understand and respect each other.People always say a friend is never known till a man has need.I do agree with this. Now that your friend regarded you as a simple friend,just accept this,and find other ture ones.Maybe you feel it's not worthy for your trust and kindness to him before.

One thing why we cant find or have that "true friend" would probably because we are expecting him/her to be this and that. We expect him/her to have the qualities we are searching for which we don't possess. Advise: try not to look for your true friend. Let fate do the job. One day, he may just knock on your door and asks you something both of you are interested in so much. One thing, know who your friends are. Thanks.