straightforward/frank???
By len1415
@len1415 (195)
Philippines
September 15, 2010 1:20am CST
Well as for me, as much as I wanted to, but sometimes it's really hard to tell someone directly what you need to express in words especially when you know for yourself that it can hurt that person's feelings. So most of the time, I just try to hide it and keep it to myself to avoid misunderstandings that might build walls between us. I know it's not a good idea though, but I just thought it can somehow preserve our friendship if I won't tell what's wrong....And I hope it can, cause I also know that instead of making things/relationships better, it may also make it worse...Now I'm confused.... :(
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5 responses
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
15 Sep 10
Keeping issues bottled up just because you don't want to hurt anyone is counterproductive. Accumulation of such incidents will result in your being frustrated and bring negative thoughts in you. While I understand your predicament, I still think you should set a limit for tolerance and then come out with your feelings. You may of course not be direct. Use an anecdote to get your point through. That way it will be easy for you both.
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@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 10
I think that's acceptable, as long as what you are doing is not intended to cheat, to trick, or to bring negative values.
If what you are hiding is related to regulation, law, fairness, or something that can teach a person if you pull it out, then you must speak it out.
You can't make everybody happy, but you can make things better.
@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
15 Sep 10
Sure you can keep it for yourself. But that way you are not helping your friend or yourself. Maybe it is good to talk about it. Obviously it is bothering you, or you would not talk about it. Normally when you talk to that person, you will feel better later on.
But, if you feel the matter is not important, than you can leave it be.
When someone has weird close on, and is happy about it, you should respect that. No reason in ruining someones day over clothing...
Take care.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
16 Sep 10
i'm the kind of person who's frank. I can;t lie to others or keep things to myself. I know there are certain people who might get hurt of my sincerity but that;s the way I am and who loves me, loves me like this.
