How did you cope after loosing a family member????

When i was a child i loat my grandfather. it was a crushing blow. Then in my teen years i lost my father. That was even harder to take. i had lost other family members sonce then but none as devastating as losing a parent. That was until i lost my husband four years ago. Each day is a struggle when you have lost someone who had your heart. i still think of him each day. Life has to go on for the living, but the meories of those we have loved will live on in our hearts.

My father passed away suddenly shortly after I joined myLot. I started a discussion about my first Christmas without my father and how I was going to get through it. Someone suggested I do something to honor him, make something. And I did exactly that. I bought styrofoam hearts and painted them green on one side and red on the other (Christmas colours). Then I decoupaged a picture of my father on one side of each ornament. On the other side I decoupaged a picture (this is a photo copy of a photo as the actual photo won't work) of my father with a member fo my family - a picture of my mom with my dad on one, a picture of my brother with my dad on another, a picture of my sister and my dad on another, etc. I looped a piece of wire into each side of the heart. At Christmas I went to each person individually and gave them each their own ornament. I like doing crafts but have very little patience or time for them, but I was very committed to this craft because it meant something to me. Members of my family loved that I created these ornaments. It's been 4 and a half years since my father passed away very suddenly and the pain has eased but I look at pictures of him and think it seems like just yesterday when he was alive. I do still miss him but I have accepted the fact that he is gone and I pray to him for protection and help. He also comes to me in my dreams with messages, which is comforting. I still wish he was around but life does go on, we all are going to die some day, and I know that he is in a good place now.

I feel your pains flauee.. It is so hard to undergo such instances in our lives, but i think and I believe everything happens for a reason, and only God knows everything He has planned for us.. we lost my mother 4 years ago, and it hurt me so bad because she was gone so fast that we weren't even ready to realize that she was already gone, and is never coming back again.. It was the saddest moment of my life. Our mother was the most influential of all for us..She teaches how to live the way we should.. and all of a sudden she was gone.. Not even goodbyes were said.. I think I was lucky that I had a family of my own that time that I can lean on to, and give my attention to.. I had a baby which my mom used to take care of. At least I wasn't left empty handed.. It was really hard to cope up with the loss of someone very important to our lives.. I guess time will heal every pain and hurt that we feel.. Take the time to heal and i'm sure you will.. Though you would always remember your loved one, but the hurt will definitely diminish..