Boyfriends should not be a source of inspiration. Wait till you're engaged.

i don't know what to say about this . and i am not married and don't have a grilfriend here. i don't like marrrying and don't like to live with a girlfriend. so tired with her,and families will stress my caree mostly . so i just feel that you are right for this. but i don't know its right or not . when one experienced it and he know right or wrong ,if not i have no word here. but i like your opinion .

It's good to always be inspired. I think it only becomes a different story when you hardly know someone and yet you put his or her needs first. It's hard to say when it's okay to be really committed, but for me I just knew when the time was right. I just trusted what I felt about myself and about him, and I knew. Anyway, we've already been through a lot, so I think it's safe to make him my inspiration. I think maturity also plays a big part here. Many young people feel like "this is it," but most of the time they are wrong. I think the best thing to do is to be very observant of what your partner does. Many people don't know this, but it is through seemingly little insignificant actions and words that a person reveals himself or herself. If you make someone your inspiration and then get disappointed, you don't necessarily lose everything. I think it's ridiculous to think that you will be left with nothing if your loved one leaves you. We just have to remember that even though everyone turns his or her back at us, we could always find love in ourselves. I know it's cold comfort, but we have to hold on to what little we have when we are down. Only in finding good things despite the bad things that happen to us can we live our lives well. If we would always dwell on our disappointments and heartaches, we can never move forward.

in my point of view when you are still 15 or on your teen years it is very early for teens to think that a guy or a girl will be thinking about marriage. its fun to young and inlove and make that person as inspiration. if it did not work out good then you can still find someone and make that person an inspiration. when i was a teen i had a crush on one of my second cousin, during those days i dont even know that she was my cousin. but it help me be inspired in things i do. but during a birthday celebration someone told us that we are cousin and from then on i find someone else to be my inspiration. its okay to be inspired without thinking of marriage and thick and thin specially when you are still young. this only applies when you are matured enough to know the difference between love and marriage. but if you are in the right age i can say that i myself found someone that i can be my inspiration and married her. we are married for 8 years now and has a 4 years old baby boy.

Someone can be your inspiration even if they will not be there forever. You can be inspired by a lot of other people who you will never meet again. Also, even if you are engaged or married, that doesn't mean the love will never end, it can still end even after that.

There is nothing wrong in having someone as an inspiration. In fact you don't need to be in love that person to make him or her your inspiration. A brave person, a hero, a public servant, a priest, a saint, etc. they all can be an inspiration for someone. Love will never die, if it does then it is not true love...

Can I ask also? Do girlfriends should be a source of inspiration too? I know what you feel, It's just girls needed security but the guys needed assurance also. It's just a way of life. I believe that to have a successful relationship the two couples must have a compromise to each other. I also don't believe that source of inspiration stuff also because If I wanted to get what I wanted then I will do my best to get that. I find person that seeks inspiration to other is just so weak. I believe that no inspiration will help you if you don't do something! It's just if you wanted to do it then do it!

I do see your point but inspiration may not be a lifelong type of thing. My best friend inspires me to get in shape. The birth of my daughter was inspiration for me to go back to school. I sometimes use someones negativity to do better with my life. I use those who criticize me to get better grades, improve my salary, and other silly things. Now should these girls through everything out the window and cater to these gentlemen? Absolutely not. However, if they are a temporary inspiration to better themselves then so be it. Sometimes you have to go "all in" so to speak. Heartache is a painful lesson learned but it is part of living, learning and growing up.

I think this can also be a problem for a boy having a girlfriend. In my opinion, it's okay if we look upon our partner as source of inspiration, no matter we are going to be together or not. If our partner has positive values (e.g. delligent, smart, full of courage, etc) I think we can bring that inspiration forever. If our partner chooses someone else to marry, it won't have any connection to what we've got (inspiration) from him. The safest way is not to make our partner as the only source of inspiration.

I agree with you... but then, it depends on how strong the woman feels with her boyfriend. Even those who got married, still end up separating.. some even have 20 years of marriage but did not last. So where's the inspiration in that? Anyway, I think a woman should not focus too much or give too much on a man no matter how much she love him. Having a bf as an inspiration? I dont fully agree with this, even if you are already engaged. Same with the man, should not focus too much or give too much to the woman.

I think there is nothing wrong that boyfriends can be source of inspiration. Actually the source of inspiration can be apply for the person you admire, it can be celebrities because you have already proven that he/she is a good role model or even a friend. There are so many reasons of why we are being inspired of them just because we have seen them on how they are determined to do some actions. I mean for example in my case I've been a source of inspiration to my boyfriend in the sense that he have seen me on how hardworking I am in terms of studying. He was been inspired as well to study in order for him to graduate until he pass the board exam to become a license Civil Engineer. As he told me he was actually a lazy man who does not really like to study. I am actually inspired of him as well for being an optimistic guy and of course he has been supportive to me as well especially to my problems. A best friend that is also a shoulder to cry on at the same time and credible enough to be a problem solver. I think the right term that I should say is that boyfriends should not be a source of turning our world around him, in the sense that he is more than to all people even to our parents. As well as we are tolerating his wrong doings and believing that he is always right while you don't have the strong willed to fight for what is right. In the sense that you are almost giving everything to him for the sake of love or to save the relationship.

How mean can you be Grace????....hahaha. Not all guys are bad. I had been dating my wife for just 9 months before we got married with the registrar of marriges and the after 2 years we were formally mrried in church. I still love her the way I loved her for the first time we met.

hey love basicaly starts when we understands each other; if the love is true from ur side it will never broken; u r suspecious then u say these words; if u believe in ur love the guy whom u loves will be an inspiration for u ; its damn sure .