adopted child

I was also adopted straight out of the hospital. My parents never knew who my birthmother was. Their lawyer and the social worker picked me up at the hospital and brought me home. Everything was handled without the two sides ever meeting each other. So, speaking from experience, I think that it is definitely a good thing to tell your neice. She will more than likely have a million questions, so your sister needs to make sure that she is prepared to answer at least most of them (I know she will not have all of the answers). It doesn't really matter now, but trust me when I say that it would have made it easier on my doctor each time that I was pregnant. They always ask about the families' health problems. Well, I personally have no idea. And every time I have gotten sick in my life, the doctor has always wanted to know if my parents or siblings have ever suffered from the same things. (Such as, I have had chronic migraines since I was nine years old. Noone has any idea why.) What age should she be told? I peronally think the sooner the better. The younger she is, the less likely she will be to feel betrayed. My parents told me when I was 4, right before I started kindergarten. We live in a small community, and they didn't want to take the chance that any of the other kids would blindside me. I remember that it didn't really make a difference to me. I didn't care. I still don't care. My parents are my parents. I am just glad that they told me at a young age. Because of that, I didn't feel like they had ever lied to me about it or betrayed me. Whatever your sister decides, I wish her the very best. I think that she has done a wonderful thing with bringing a child into her life to love. I hope that I have helped you by telling you a little about me. If you ever want to talk about it, let me know. I would welcome it. Have a blessed day.