Grown Children Fighting With Mom
By Wordjunkie
@Wordjunkie (435)
Canada
September 15, 2010 6:22pm CST
This family I know are going through a crisis. The father has been dead for several years and the mom remarried. The mom has been diagnosed with cancer and was told that they cannot do a lot for her, she does not have much time left. The mom in her many decisions that she had to make, decided that she wanted to be buried in her current husband's burial lot. Her grown children were furious and have been arguing with her ever since and have stopped talking to her. Many of her relatives think it is awful of her and think the children are right. I think they are wrong and should respect their mothers wishes regardless of their feelings. I think they should spend as much time with her as possible as they will soon lose her. Is it just me ? What do you think?
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@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
16 Sep 10
Yes, it must be hard enough for her to deal with the issues she's dealing with and now to deal with her children not agreeing with what she wants done.
@msupert1 (44)
• United States
16 Sep 10
That is so sad! If it were my mom I would be more concerned with keeping her as happy as possible and showing her how much I love her then arguing about petty stuff. I think they are wasting their last moments on the wrong things and will regret it once she is gone. I hope they can look past her decesion and accept it even tho they dont agree with it.
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
16 Sep 10
Yes, they are wasting the time they have left with her. I would, like you, want to spend time with her and make her feel loved regardless of what she has decided to do, even if I thought differently. It is a hard thing to face when you know you will lose a loved one soon, but I would support them irregardless of what decisions they'd make. Some often do not wish to go through the struggle of battling a disease like cancer and decide that they cannot go through that. I would not like it if a loved one of mine made that choice but I would respect it.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Sep 10
This is quite a sensitive circumstance, however I too would have to agree that what the mother would want would be best.
Hopefully they will see things differently and allow her to rest in peace.
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
16 Sep 10
Yes, I agree. It is a very sensitive circumstance one in which I am not comfortable expressing my opinion. Everyone has a right to decide about what will be done when they die. It is not so strange that she would ask to be buried with her current husband, they are husband and wife now. She had a very happy life with her first husband but that was a long time ago and she has made a new life for herself. Her children were all grown when she married this second man, you would think they would want her to be happy and at peace with what time she has left.
