Can You Plz Care to "Stop Annoying Me"
By sunnycool
@sunnycool (12714)
India
September 16, 2010 11:46am CST
There was one friend of mine in my college --- We had some misunderstanding over issues of his GF and he started being indifferent with me.And i came to know about the reason behind from another common friend.
Reason ---- He asked me something regarding his GF and as usual i gave a frank answer without hiding anything.He just walked away that day as if every thing was fine with my answer.Instead of talking to me directly "of my answer offending him" .... he started playing around spreading BS stuff amongst others about me.
If you're not ready to accept the truth then why on earth you would question someone like me who is so used to give straight forward answers ... I do not have to lie about your GF to make you feel good or better!
I stopped talking to him...right from the day i came to know his true colors.Its been three years now and i never cared to talk to him...but he keeps on bothering me sending requests in various sites (i seldom visit those sites though) i have registered long back.The notifiers land in my inbox and damn he keeps on adding me expecting to be good friends again.
Each and every time i think of him ... only thing which strikes my mind is the way he played with me around showing his attitude.And there is no way i can accept him as my friend in my lifetime again!
I'M NOT ONE OF THOSE NORMAL GUYS WHO TEND TO FORGET THE $HIT THEY HAVE BEEN OFFERED IN THE PAST AND START BEING NICE AS IF NOTHING EVER HAPPENED!
Once i'm done with something then i do not have to go back or think about those who backstabbed me.I give a fcuking $hit to those who played with me...you call me being arrogant,rude or whatever .... BUT THAT IS ME!
I know that people love to spend their lives in Lies ... every thing in this world isn't so perfect...if you call me being inhuman coz i speak truth with no second thoughts then i give a $hit to you.
Well you may ask as what makes me to come up with discussion NOW --- coz History repeated again and someone i had completely trusted had played with me!
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10 responses
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
16 Sep 10
Since I am completely clueless of what you told your ex buddy, you should know there are things that might not be necessary to say. If he asked you something like do you think she is pretty and smart but you tell him 'no I find her ugly and dumb', of course he would get mad. Maybe the way you said it turned to sound like an insult. maybe he didn't expect to hear that from you so maybe you should say it in a different way without sounding harsh. She's ugly and dumb = she's not my type, ignorant and stupid (what I intended to call my driving instructor) = indelicate, idiot and immature = silly. Sometimes his email has been hacked or something and it keeps on sending spam mails to everybody on his list. I have a sworn ennemy and i know he hates me as much as I do. But I still get spam emails like offers or something like that so i just delete them.
Since the whole thing is happening again with another person, I think it is time you confront him with a talk face to face. You might want to explain yourself and you probably don't want to loose anymore friends in the future because of things you say. When it happens once, ok it was a misenderstanding. When it happens twice because of the same problem, then maybe there is something wrong...can it happen a third time?
If it still doesn't work out with your friend, just brush it off. Is it worth to get a pain in the butt getting angry at the person? i.e. ask yourself these questions: Is this person going to fill my stomach with food later on? Is this person going to make me rich? Is this person going to affect my carreer somehow? If the answer is no, then it's better to get over it as soon as possible.
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Sep 10
He is no stranger to me ---- we have been friends for an year and he knows about me very well -- as whats my nature! As of my answer he knew ... that he would be getting the right answer which would hurt him for sure (than a biased one).What makes me angry is he could have talked to me directly than to play around or he could have asked me that he expects me to lie before questioning me.
How come he takes it for granted that he can show his attitude to me without revealing the reason behind him being indifferent! Well that isn't me actually...if i have got any problem then i would talk to them directly like a man than to spread BS stuff like a girl.
The notifiers aren't spam ones --- those are FR's in various sites and he is pretty much sure that it is me...and i did let him know that there isn't any option left to accept him.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
17 Sep 10
It happens there are ignorant people like that in the world. I don't do stuff like that because i have more improtant stuff to do. It hapenned to me that I had a misunderstanding with a classmate. He told the teachers and the principle that he failed his classes because I leave the class to often to go at the washroom and i am late to class sometimes...which is ridiculous. How can you blame others for your own failures? Teachers from universities also recruit employers and if there is a serious bad rumor about me, I am doe for it. However, I don't think the teachers will take him seriously...I get get good grades and i didn't cheat...that's all that should matter. I am 24 and he is 30 years old...way to show his maturity.... That person you were talking about isn't a true friend. I agree that when you have a problem you just go talk to the person and fix it as an adult. Seems like your friend isn't ready for adulthood yet 
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
18 Sep 10
haha all it takes is a second to show him as what i have got for the $hit he offered to me --- but i do not even wish to touch him so mean he is in my opinion!
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Nope, I can't stop annoying you, because that is one of my responsibilities, and I take my responsibilities very seriously. Besides, if I stopped annoying you, then you would think that I didn't love you any more!
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
17 Sep 10
How am I being diverted from my duties?
I am here annoying you, right? Therefore, my duties have been fulfilled. Besides, we are not even going to mention the fact that I let you play "connect the freckles" the other night ... 
I am here annoying you, right? Therefore, my duties have been fulfilled. Besides, we are not even going to mention the fact that I let you play "connect the freckles" the other night ... 
but is there any sister hood of man???@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Sep 10
how come you say we're brothers lol ... if i'm not wrong you're a woman right 
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
17 Sep 10
Hiya sunny,
It is hard to ignore someone but you can do it. If you don´t want him as your Friend and he keeps pestering you like that just do not take any notice of him. He could well be just playing around with you seeing as I can´t see any other motive. He just want´s to be paid attention to more than anything. Just don´t give him the attention and in the end he will give up. In the end might mean various months but even the most hard headed ones do cease in the end.
Sorry you have to go through that but ignoring him is the best medicine.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
19 Sep 10
Hiya sunny,
You want him to talk to you directly instead of playing around all the time. That is annoying yes because he won´t talk to you outright.
Must be very frustrating for you sometimes.
Still don´t give up he might just pop up and start talking to you like he always did.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
24 Sep 10
It would have been much better if he had talked to me directly then --- i think its too late to discuss about it now and i have got no plans to talk to him either!
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Sep 10
I have been ignoring my friend for years now and he least bothers me now except those occassional FR's.I really do not get as what would they get by playing around with others feelings 
.They got no guts to talk to me directly so they dance around like freaking vampires behind those dark woods.
.They got no guts to talk to me directly so they dance around like freaking vampires behind those dark woods.
@vandana7 (100638)
• India
16 Sep 10
Kiddo - even though we are not related, somewhere we do have common genes!!!
I too am inclined to amputate relationships, friendships, whichever ships that have hurt me. :)
And so I am arrogant, rude, .... :)
Learn your lessons, learn them well. Next time, you will know which of your friends is abnormal. You can keep them at arms distance. :) You will get over it. I know you will. I did. :)
is sunny make some noises in the bed?@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Sep 10
Ahhh you must have seen many of that kind .... it isn't that easy to forget! And i can never get them out of my mind 
@meluan --- i think you should be going to bed now...you had provided enough hints
@meluan --- i think you should be going to bed now...you had provided enough hints 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Sep 10
We are very similar in this respect. This is why I give people the benefit of the doubt because I know in my heart of heart when I am done, I am done. I do not go backwards in life, unfortunately.
I would probably send an email message and say bro I am done - That's it - Leave me alone!!!
Pretty forward but this may get him to get the message.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Sep 10
I never accepted his FR's in any of those sites --- he is in FB too and his FR is still pending there...that should send him enough signs that i'm not interested in him anymore.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Sep 10
In some cases silence is said to be the best weapon! And i'm going to stick to that phrase!he keeps on sending FR once in a while though.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
17 Sep 10
I would get the message apparently he keeps asking for friend so he obviously does not get it yet. 
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
17 Sep 10
I can sure relate to that because that is how I am too. If I drop somebody, they can consider themselves permanently dropped. LOL. Yeah, and if they cannot stand the truth then why do they ask us questions?
Life is too short for silly little games, and besides, as they say where I cam from, "There are other fish in the sea." That means if somebody doesn't treat us right, there are plenty of other people who will.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
18 Sep 10
SIGH --- there are some people who are like me lol.The phrase you have mentioned doesn't hold good for lovers right!
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 10
Well you know, there's an expression, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me." If somebody has betrayed your trust, it's just natural not to want to give them a chance to do it again. As for the first guy, why not just tell him straight out? Maybe he will go away and leave you alone. What's up with the second one?
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
18 Sep 10
I would reply if he sends me another FR.As of second one...i got nothing to talk about and i just cant take that this particular person had fun with me(such a great actor)...i have never lied to them and have been loyal yet some can never get their instincts right
@davidshin (143)
• United States
17 Sep 10
yo i kno how u feel, being backstabbed, but i gotta say u should give ur friend another chance. after all u cant get closer in a relationship or friendship without fights. u dont have to pretend as if nothing happened just ask y he did and try to figure things out. i mean if the rumors he spread were intense and complete bs u can just catch up with him ask him y he did him, and depending on his answer, give him a punch or two in the mouth, but holding grudges will only lead more bad relationships.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
17 Sep 10
Welcome to Mylot David!
If i'm not wrong i didn't mention anything about holding grudges in my main post ... I do not believe in taking revenge or anything of that sort for something they had done to me long back.I tend to loose my anger over backstabbing and playing around with people ... all i can do is land a huge punch on their face on the spot and i would keep each and every BS thing they had offered in my mind thats it.I least care about them from then on.I cannot give him a second chance!
@akp100 (13640)
• India
17 Sep 10
You are too dangerous for asking question !!!!! ha ha
well i think you have done right thing.. everyone want sweet answers with cream..nobody wants to accept the truth.. and if they can't accept they shouldn't ask too.. If he was your good friend then you can give him another chance as he is approaching to you. But I don't think things can be changed................... "As it is very hard to change Human Nature"
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
18 Sep 10
I had revealed it to him as i presumed he wouldn't misunderstand me --- otherwise i would have skipped his question.
Me being Dangerous...depends on the questions you ask 
