Would you give a stranger a lift in your car if you feel (s)he is really in need

@rajeshfgh (1629)
India
September 16, 2010 2:18pm CST
I can across this strange incident a couple of days back, when I saw a couple give a lift to a stranger on the street in their car. I don't know if she was really in an emergency situation, but I began thinking if I would do the same. Thinking about it now, I assume that it may depend on the situation and the age of the person to really make me reach out. What about you, what would you do?
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22 responses
• United States
17 Sep 10
i don't typically pick up strangers. however, there was a day that I saw an elderly man walking along the side of the highway. He reminded me of my Uncle Albert so I turned around to go pick him up. When he got in the car.. it WAS my Uncle Albert! Was he glad to see me! I was so glad I picked the "stranger" up!
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Ha ha, that was quite an incident. Probably, some heavenly power made you turn around and pick up the person who turned out to be your very own uncle!
• United States
21 Sep 10
I don't know that for sure, but Uncle Albert kept telling me I was his angel! lol!
• Singapore
17 Sep 10
I am glad you did too!
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
17 Sep 10
I have given lift to several people while driving alone.I generally feel such people are either in emergency or unable to wait for public transport.In fact not many ask for lift now a days.I also feel why not give lift when it is possible and not inconvenient to us?What is wrong?If you start thinking whether we should give lift or not over and over again from different angles we invariably come to the conclusion that we need not give lift. Is not my view correct?Secondly we often decline lift for either we are in a hurry or going to a different place than the destiny of lift seeker or there is no place in the car to accamodate him or her.These ideas arise on the spot.Suppose you do no like or wish to give lift you will simply ignore their request.Therefore I am of the opinion that unless we apprehend some danger to person or property of ours{unless say if you are driving alone and in night some three or four people ask a lift on a high way} We can give lift if asked for.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
I fully agree with what you say. If you are not filled to capacity in your car and if you feel that the person really needs a lift, there is no harm really in giving a lift to anybody - be it a needy person or not. Also, I have also seen that people don't ask for lifts now-a-days unless it is really an emergency. It surely won't do people harm to offer lifts to women or children what are stranded or waiting for the public transport to reach their respective destinations.
• India
21 Sep 10
Yes. You have right attitude. Life is short and let us help each other in a way possible.No sacrifices are need here.At first glance we can know whether it is emergency or not. In case of emergency we should help by giving lift.God will certainly bless such people.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Because I live in a large city that has been known for violence at times in different parts of the city, I would not. However, I would call the police immediately to get help for them. It could be too risky since I am a female. I have heard of situations where one friend or acquaintance faked an accident or emergency, the driver stopped and the car was stolen leaving the driver stranded. Really can't remember where this happened and it hasn't been real recent.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Well, that's a very good idea which you've suggested, that of calling the cops to help the person out. But, I am not so sure that the police in every country is as efficient as is required and the person who is in need may not be attended on time or it may be too late when the authorities arrive.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
21 Sep 10
The police move fast here and it would be safer for me to stay in the car and make the call.
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
20 Sep 10
I would not dare to do it if I was alone driving the car but if I was not and felt that some one really needed help I would go ahead and give a lift.But a lot of unwanted incidents of crime also happen this way.We can't be too sure of anyone now but then we cannot also suspect each and everyone.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yes, exactly one bad person doesn't make the whole crowd bad. One needs to be extra careful and find from one's experience if the person really needs a lift and if (s)he doesn't have a malicious mind or intention.
@momof3kids (1894)
• Singapore
17 Sep 10
I dun drive but my sister does. Once she gave a lift to a woman with a kid standing by the side of the road waiting for a taxi. It was raining so she didnt give it a second thought and gave them a lift. Cannot be more impressed with my sister!! :))
• Singapore
17 Sep 10
On my second thought, it all depends I guess. In this case of woman and kid standing in the rain, it seems obvious and no harm came to my sister. Thats the only time I heard about my sister giving a lift so I am glad that was a genuine case.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Hi moma, this is what I meant by the impulse reaction of my earlier reply. See, your sister didn't think much about giving the lift to the woman and the kid. It was an instinctive reaction and it just comes to you. Sitting in your house, later on you can ponder over it, but at that crucial moment it is some heavenly signal which tells your to just do it.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
20 Sep 10
i know it is not clever thing to give lift to a stranger.. but according to the place, time , person and my mood , i will do this.......
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
yeah, it all depends on your frame of mind at that moment. It is like a split second decision that your mind and heart makes and you just stick with that. You may feel happy about the decision or repent it later, is a different matter altogether.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
I think it should depend on the circumstance. If the hospital is somewhere near and it's a public place, then perhaps I would think of giving the person a lift. But, I think it would be safer for the both of you if you just hailed a cab for them or call 911. I don't want to risk my life for being gullible in these times.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yes, you are right. It all depends on the circumstance and how you deal with it. Your dealing with the circumstance depends a lot on how you have been brought up, the surroundings, ambiance, the friends you had, the way your parents and teachers taught you and finally your own gut feeling and the way your persona is. It is a mixture of all this, which is what I guess, they call "experience" which teaches a person what is right and what is wrong. To always follow what is right and leave alone what is wrong.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
17 Sep 10
First of everything, those who go in a car are considered to be rich.. They will never stop their car for giving a lift...I haven't seen anybody stopping their car for giving a lift for the needy.. Ok, i'm 20 years old and i have crossed almost of all situations like coming after seeing a movie in the midnight ... i don't have a car, it was a few years ago.. I was coming home from a long distance..i landed in the metro city at 2 o in the clock in the morning, where u could not find a bus running in the city..Getting an auto in that time is very difficult, we will pay their amount, but nobody comes on that time.. Getting a taxi is also pretty difficult... I saw some cars passed us, i tried some , but none stopped.. In my 20 years of life, i have never seen a car stopping and giving a lift.. This will never happen in the million of light years in my place.. I have seen bikers giving lift for the needy.. I too own a bike and i too stop my bike if somebody is asking for a lift, if the bus stand is pretty away from that place, i would surely stop..
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Nice to know that even though you have never been given lift by anybody you are still willing to give lift to somebody in need. I am truly heartened to hear that. Also, I don't fully agree with you on the people owning cars to be rich and never help the poor or other fellow humans. I know quite a few millionaires who donate generously to charities and other events and don't even want their names to be made public. Even the rich have heart and we all humans are made of the same body parts, it's only the exterior of a wealthy person which is different but internally we all are the same - we have the same feeling, same pain and same joy - just in different amounts.
• Singapore
17 Sep 10
It's hard to trust people nowadays. You don't know their true intention, whether they are really in need or want to commit a crime. I don't really encourage drivers giving a lift to strangers especially at night or you're alone. It's best not to do it as what I've said previously, you can't trust anyone nowadays. It's hard. If I have maybe a few friends with me, I think I'll consider but definitely not when I'm alone.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
I agree, it is risky to give a lift when you are alone in your car and also when there are more than one person who wants the lift in your car. The person's age also would matter a lot as one can assess if the other person really needs a lift.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
17 Sep 10
When i was younger my father woud give a helping hand to anyone, stranger or not. Times have changed a lot since then. I would like to say that I would give a stranger a ride if they were in need but you just don;t knoow who you ight be might be inviting.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
It all depends on the type of person you are. If you're the kinder type you would think very little before lending your hand to others to help. But, if you're the inquisitive type, then maybe you would weight the pros and cons before making the final decision. But, being inquisitive is really good in today's world, lest you be taken advantage of.
@jet2r0cks (190)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
It could be very dangerous to let a strange person inside your car, especially if you're alone. It would be easy to say that it's okay to let a stranger in your car if he or she looks harmless, but looks aren't exactly a good indicator of what a person really is. As for me, I probably wouldn't let a random person in my car (but then again, I don't have a car -_-) cause I wouldn't know how to defend myself x_x That's another thing to consider though - if you're absolutely sure that if something goes wrong, you'll be able to defend yourself, then I guess it's okay. Still, I think it's best not to take chances.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yeah, it's like - better safe than sorry. One needs to be very careful when one is alone. But, I like your concern of helping others who are in need. Cheers!
@gazdac (36)
• Romania
17 Sep 10
Well it depends on the person; if there is a person that i can tell that (s)he can't hurt me, than i think i would give a lift. Also it depends if i am alone or not in the car, because it is more likely to give a lift if i am with somebody i know. Another thing that depends on is the our, because it isn't very likely to give a lift to someone in the middle of the night. But in the most situations i think i would give a lift because i know how is to need a lift :D
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
I agree, it depends on a lot of factors as you have rightly pointed out. Yeah, I remember the day it rained a lot here and everybody was wishing to get a lift, but alas on that day, it rained so heavily that all road transport have to a grinding halt. So, there was only one option - that of walking home or just staying put in one's office or home.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
17 Sep 10
Yes I will do it if I'm not in any relationship or in any marriage. I won't wantny spouse to have any wrong ideas about me giving a lift to a complete stranger. There are times whereby we will be in a rush or in vulnerable moments. For those driving, they won't know the agony of waiting by the roadside for almost an hour but there's no available taxis. That's the time I will judge on my own to determine if they really need a lift. However I will only be offering my lift to women as I need to protect myself being a women as well. Sorry guys out there, u are on your own.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
haha, I wonder what will happen to us.. poor boys. Anyway, I really appreciate your concerns and your willingness to help women. Your this simple decision itself will make a world of difference to people around you. As for the decision of not giving lift to the boys, I think there would be no harm in enhancing your radar of lift-getters to small boys and older men - they are probably harmless! Not to say that all other guys are harmful!
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• India
17 Sep 10
Well I don't own a Car.But I would definetely love to help anyone who is really deserving a help.Most of the time in my life I have got help from stranger when I really needed it.But yeah there are also some frauds you will find more often if you are helping people too much.So ask your brain rather than your heart otherwise you may also invite some big troubles unnecessarily.Try to help old peoples even if they are not asking you for lift.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
I respect your message of listening to your mind more than your heart - especially in today's world. Also, helping children and the aged without them asking for is a really sweet gesture which I am sure everybody would appreciate and expect out of everybody.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Hello rajesh. These days it can be very dangerous to pick up strangers. Having said that I will say that I have given strangers a ride. It was an older lady and it was extremly hot. I could see she was having trouble and her face was very red. Other than situations like that I wouldn't give just any stranger a ride. I would also give a stranded woman with children a ride too. But in most situations I would have not given a man or teen agers a ride.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yeah, fair enough. You have really done the right thing. This is what I mean by life's experience as I have written in a response in an earlier post in the same discussion. Sometimes, you simply know that the person is really in need and your senses (or experience) tells you to help the person and you go ahead to help others. Experience is the best teacher in this world.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 10
hi rajeshfgh not here in Southern Calioforina where I would not know the person at all, I would not give or take rides from strangers.But in the state where I w as born and lived for thirty years in our small farm community nobody passes anyone strandes as town are far apart and neighbors usually help each other. its a matter of safety as you do no leave anyone stranded in the country as some roads are not all that frequently travedled so help anyone, we never worried as there were very few bad people there. here I would not risk it as the life you save might be your own.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yeah, I guess what you are pointing towards is the difference between an urban and rural setting. It is quite right, in an urban setting you don't know each other and people don't have time for each other either. Also, unemployment and other evils spark off more in cities and this drives people to crime. In a village setting, where the population is very less, and people literally know each other by names, it is quite different. It is the trust between the people who know each other which drives people to help each other. Yeah, one needs to be better safe than sorry.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Hi rejeshfgn, I have to be honest here, I probably would not give a stranger a ride. That is a very difficult thing for me to say, because I really like helping people. However, in today's society, you can not tell the good people from people who would do you and your family harm. So, my first thought when I see someone in need of a ride is, to keep going (self-preservation). It is truly sad, that we have being forced, by corrupted individuals in our society, not to trust anyone. In our minds, we know that all people are not bad people, but how do we distinguish the good people from the bad ones? It is very difficult, because most people look ordinary or normal. Committing a deviant act is not just done by people of less intelligence or people who are not rational. Some hitchhikers or stangers deliberately set out to rob or do worse to gullible people. Anyone who pick ups a stranger or hitchhiker, male or female, is taking a huge risk with their life.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
I understand what you are saying. It is like a handful of devious minded people are changing the perception of how we think about the human race as a whole. It is like a single rotten apple affecting all other apples in the basket. But, what one may experience is a power from somewhere which tells him/her what is right and what is wrong. How else would you explain that you readily help someone while at other times you simply walk past a needy person without even looking at the person. I think it is somewhere heavenly that sends us an impulse to go forward and act or to help somebody. I believe in this concept as I have seen the cowardest of persons going out and committing an act of bravery. I have no other explanation for such occurrences.
@rastogisw (445)
• India
16 Sep 10
Well normally neither I take lifts and nor I give lifts to other as you never know that whether they are really needy or just making you fool but showing themselves helpless. I dont think so that I would give as I scared of all these kinds of frauds.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yeah, one needs to be very careful, lest they take advantage of our good intentions. You never know what the person on the other side has in his mind. But, experience in life would surely make us understand when a person is really in need and I thinking lending out our hand by way of a lift will surely be a very good thing to do.
• China
17 Sep 10
if is i i will observe first,must let this stranger according to own observation situation in the decision build my vehicle.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Yes, it is experience what you are talking about - experience to judge the good from the bad, the right from the wrong which gives you the power to make decisions and most of the times it turns out to be the right decision.
• Romania
17 Sep 10
I'm an egoist and if I don't know the person I don't stop the car.I don't know if is right or not but this is who I am.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
20 Sep 10
Ah, well said. Everybody is not equal and neither do everybody behave he same. I appreciate you telling everybody on the face about your nature and I respect your decision.