Love steps:in brief,be yourself and change for your partner
By yeyelee
@yeyelee (370)
China
September 16, 2010 10:37pm CST
You should be yourself, but change appropriately for your future partner.
Be yourself, you could attract a special group of people who like your displayed characteristics. Once you encounter and choose one of those people, you two start to learn how to understand, respect and tolerate each other,just enter into a so-called run-in period in which you two compromise and change for each other till find a point both could endure and accept.
If it works,you two settle down and make the best of life.If fails,you start to seek another one of those people.
And every change you make,you'll be maturer,and then those people you attract will change too.
This is my own understanding.What's yours?Feel free to share with me.
3 responses
@ReadingFairy23 (66)
• United States
17 Sep 10
For steps to love or being loved. The steps should be simple.
1. The attraction- It what starts it all. The look, the feel, the eye connect and and the intelligent level of the person.
2. Understanding- This is understanding who the person is and not what you want the person to be
3. Growth- Growing together what you experience together.
4. Being vulnerable
I believe it all about the right opportunity. Nothing more, nothing less.
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@ReadingFairy23 (66)
• United States
17 Sep 10
What do you think the two parts are to resolve it ?
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
18 Sep 10
you are absolutely right^^ in all relationships we have in life we change that person and that person change us too^^ we have to change some things sometimes to make the other one happy^^ like for example i love romantic movies but imagine i hated it and my bf loved it. i would watch with him even not liking it bcs i know was important to him^^ also if i like a song and he hates it he would listen with me bcs he knows i like it^^ also people sometimes stop to be so careless and start to care more after have a bf also become more sensitive^^ we all change^^ but as long as we change for better thats great^^
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
24 Sep 10
aww im so happy ^^ you are very sweet to me li^^ yes im very romantic but sadly always find guys that are romantic but not romantic enough :( is like i always am the one that cares more. i have so bad luck in love. i dont know how i even am positive about love ^^ anyway i cant cry and be sad in a corner right?^^ we must cheer up and wait^^ thanks so much li^^ have a very happy day^^
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@yeyelee (370)
• China
18 Sep 10
ahah,thanks for pointing out that we're changing for better.If changing for worse, everything would happen,so terrible.
From your examples,i gradually believe you're a romantic person and know well how to enjoy life.Watching movies and singsing are both my favorites too.
@xtmlove (402)
• China
18 Sep 10
Oh, my friend. I had the same felt that you just said. Because I had made many mistakes in the love. In the past, I thought if you love a girl, you should change yourself to adapt to her. You didn't need care about any other else. But this way was bad to keep the relation of the loves, the girl also didn't like her partner just play up to her. So the love steps: in brief, be yourself and change for your partner are three important factors, we shouldn't ignore any one of them.
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