How do you keep your cool?

well.. for me it goes out of control always.. so i try not to involve in those kind of situations.. but most of the times those situations find me..

I'm really not a person that loses my cool on a regular basis. Because of that, I normally will take a deep breath and think about what the best move to make is before I will say anything at all. I know that if I was to speak first without taking the time to think about the situation I would appear to be a very hot-headed person. I also tend to be the kind of person that will ask the questions in advance instead of getting caught up in things right away.

Well,i guess that depends on the situation. It's hard to say when we are not crossing the bridge. I never had experienced being in a situation that i was to fiery or angry. But when i am not in good mood,and someone approach me,i can say directly that i am not in any mood for discussion or problem solving. In that manner i can avoid being irritated or annoyed. With some people who bursts into anger and shouts bad words,maybe,they really hurt,or humiliation that is why they recourse into revenge. We really cannot judge them unless were on their shoe. Unless we know the person well. Becoz there are also people who were used to saying bad words and shouting even with just some simple issues. Have a great weekend

Well I know it made be hard to keep your cool, but me my friends have always say that I am mello and laid back and that I really don't like to get mad. Oh, but one day someone actually made me blow up like for the first time actually it was really weird I thought that I would be able to keep my cool, but I wasn't I just blew up because I guess what caused it is that she was talking bad about my brother and that triggered me. I guess I really don't care if people talk about me, but when they say something bad about someone in my family I just can't control my anger and then she was telling me to respect her right after she told my brother some bad words I don't think so I would not respect anyone like that. Still I never told her any bad words because I didn't want to sink to her level, but wow she even called the cops she was trying to scare us. Anyway it's best to try and stay calm every time, but sometimes their is people that just know which button to hit just to set you off which makes me mad, but I need to be more mello again unless someone says something bad about my family than I don't think that I will be able to hold back. That's what will cause me to surrender to anger.

I find it really hard to keep my cool when I'm upset. I just start crying, so much that I can't even speak properly, and I hate it when that happens _

Agree, it's easier said than done. It's also good to be reminded from time to time. Keeping our cool is a great skill to learn and nurture. And takes lots of practice too. I may not have been able to, years back. But I'm always trying to perfect it now as I believe it holds the key to one's health too. I would usually keep my mouth shut but not my head most of the time fearing by opening it would let my emotions take the better of me. I think it's when we ask and start to believe in some values like keeping cool and be patient we start to see some positive change in the way we speak and act.

i usually walk away from the controntation. i usually try to take a breather before i say anything.

As a therapist and Zen practitioner, I have observed how there are many people who seem to be born with an ability to remain laid-back in the most trying of circumstances and then there are others that will lose their cool at the slightest thing. I firmly believe that one can keep very cool if they practice the art of meditation and contemplation, but it takes quite a while if a person does have a short fuse as he/she would have to realize through his meditation that there is no value at all in getting angry for physical or mental health. I have practiced meditation now on a daily basis for around 30 years, and whilst I do feel angry sometimes at some things, I find that I am a much more relaxed person in general. _Derek

Dear friend, There were times I do know how to kept my angry. But now I do just chat those god mantras or songs. Other god chanting in my mind give some sort of peace in me. Still if I get angry may be it is something I have control myself, may be self control. Actully I rarely get angry.

i find if i don't take things too seriously and maintain a sense of humor that i'm less likely to get angry or have things stress me out.

When situations get heated, it's difficult to keep a cool head. Words said in anger can't be taken back. It's best to not let things get so out of control that there is no way back. It would be so easy just to unleash the anger you may feel. Only consequences may follow. I think the beest solution for a cool head is to remove yourself from the situation. i like to walk away and be by myself until i have time to cool off. Then I can face the situation more clearly.

i am a person who can have a very long patience with people that might have hurt me or irritated me. sometimes, instead of fighting back or shouting at them, i gve them presents. weird as it may seem, but it helps me cool down. that way, that person that pisses me off would somehow realize that i am not the person that he needs to do bad things to.