Scary!!! Longterm plans in a fresh relationship
By turist1
@turist1 (175)
Bulgaria
September 17, 2010 4:42am CST
Come on... we've been seeing each other for only 2 months now and he's planning our next summer vacation? It's scary!Do you like this place, or that. Should we go June or maybe August. I totally freaked out. I didn't know what to tell him. I just stood their star?inig at the wall infront of me. Thank god my Boss rang and we ended the conversation. But that does not mean that the discussion will end there. Is it a bit too soon to make such long plans.
And I thought only guys have commitment problems.
Don't get me wrong. I do have feeling for him. I just hate making such a long term plans.
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8 responses
@BOROTOTOY (58)
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18 Sep 10
oks. long term plans are good until the time plans become reality, its still good to make plans, the next thing you know, plans becomes reality. aand alas! you are two become the most planning person on earth. be happy, or else...just dont keep the plans in the future.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
He sounds like he's really going for the big thing. He sounds like he's really into you, which is a good thing, isn't it? It depends though. Do you know this guy thoroughly? If not, then it is better to stall and wait for the right time when you are already confident that you will be safe and happy on your long vacay with him.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
17 Sep 10
If you have had bad experiences in the past I am sure this could impact fresh new relationships as perhaps it is a way of not setting yourself up for disappointment.
On the other hand, look at the fresh side of things, sounds like a keeper, someone who is considering a long standing relationship.
Naturally you could speak to him and explain you uneasiness of long term since it is only two months. Making plans however does not mean investing money. All meaningful relationships like to look at the longevity.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
you must understand that people view love in different degrees. he might be thinking of being with you in a long t3rm basis maybe because he has found something special in you which he thinks would somehow lead to a lifetime partnership. on the other hand, if you are not up to the idea, maybe it would be better to talk things over and you, most especially, assess yourself on how much are you willing to go on with the relationship.
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
maybe at this point he's already too much into you that's why he's already prepared to make some long term plans. He's already seeing you to be his company until vacation or maybe even longer than that. You like him yes, that's no question, but maybe at this point he's more ready than you are. Don't be afraid, just get along with the topic. These are just plans and it can change.
@lemarque (42)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hahaha really scary! Well he really feels that "you are the one" for his life. Seems that way to me. But if he really loves you well that's an act. But in your case it seems like he's still out of your league. But I hope it all works our for the next months.
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
17 Sep 10
There are all kinds of factors, feelings and forces that come into play as a relationship is developing and growing. Sometimes everything is smooth and easy, other times there are growing pains. Sometimes we need a few minutes to stop and adjust.
I would hope you can share your feelings with this guy. Tell him the discussion was just a bit overwhelming and you need his kind patience. Two months is not long; this relationship is still a baby. Yet, there is nothing abnormal about the excitement of a relationship generating a desire for future plans.
Hope you can sort it out and enjoy!
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Opps! I think there is nothing wrong there my friend. Take the brighter side of it, maybe he is planning so that he knows how to budget it and save. It is more scary when he will propose to you and ask you to get marry at that early stage. Besides, he is asking your opinion, that means he is also thinking of what interests you. It maybe too soon though because that is one year to go...Moreover, when two persons are very much in love, there is no length of time to plan. It can be sooner which you can never imagine. Whirlwind relationships do exist.
