friends asking for things

There are certain things that I don't feel comfortable doing for myself. However, I tend to ask my mother to do things that I don't know how to do for me instead of asking friends because I don't feel comfortable asking a lot of my friends. There are certain areas that I don't mind asking for help in. However, I think that if you ask too much of your friends, there will be times that asking of our friends will cost us our friendships.

Sounds like you are multi-talented. Some people no matter how many one on one lessons they get just cannot quite capture the talent. So you are a dear friend, hopefully they truly appreciate you, if not with a form of payment with at least their gestures.

As far as the plucking goes, if they wear glasses normally it may be hard for them to do a good job. It would be for me now, if I tried to. It also can be that they just enjoy the extra personal attention and feeling pampered. What a nice thing to do for them. Not everyone feels comfortable with sewing, but that is more time consuming. Maybe you should invite her to bring her sewing stuff and then offer to watch her do it. If it is not an inconvenience, I guess it would not be too bad, but if it is inconvenient for you, you will need to tell them "NO"

I had to do that for a friend because she couldn't see what to pluck. I mean she could drive, so she could see well enough for that. But for the life of her, she couldn't see the exact places she needed to pluck on her eyebrows.

if i have friends like that... and im not to busy or im not bothered to do what they are asking me, i would be happy to do it for them, not that im saying your not... there are people that even though its easy for others to do, it is hard for them even if one thinks its really easy. some people are just talented and can learn many different things even at a young age, just like you. example i've been sewing since i learned how to put thread in the needle, but my daughter dont, im thinking its not in her talent to do that. consider yourself talented then... im in my 30s and i dont still dont know how to pluck (shape) my brows... lol . if i need it, i go to a salon and pay the beautician to trim it for me.

I'm sorry to say this but I think it is happening because you are allowing it to happen. Did you ever try teaching them how to do these things on their own ? It will lessen your load if they know how. More importantly, they have no excuse anymore to ask you because thay already learned how to do it. But then again, they are probably enjoying doing these things with you as your bonding time. If that's the case and you are not too happy about it, you can always tell them so. You are friends anyway. If it's not happening out of bonding and you feel that you are being taken advantage of, you can always talk to them. If that is not an option, you canalways find excuses until they learn it on their own.

Well, actually I also don't know how to pluck my eyebrows, as I don't do that. There are many of my friends who do not know how to sew too, so I am not surprise your friends do not know that. As for myself, I'm not good at sewing too. I just didn't have the interest to learn.

hi doormouse some people have talents at one thing while others dont and no matter how young or old they just cannot do certain thing. I do not mind helping my friends if its not something I do not know how to do and by the same token I often ask for their help in something they are good at and I am really not. lol lol

hiii nice to see you here...wat about you..Are you doing that for your friends...IF they are close to you there is no problem doing that for your friends..I too having many friends and they also tell many things for me when they needed so at that time i may be helping them which can i do..And also i will also tell some works for them which i am needed so at that time they also helping me...So that friends are needed so helping for the close helping is not at all a problem thing..So that help them..Happy mylotting dear friend..have a nice day..keep smiling...

I have never wanted or needed to pluck my eyebrows,or anyone elses come to that.I know that there is this one person that plucks her eyebrows,she plucks them so that it looks like just a thin line,it just do not look right the way she plucks hers.A few of my friends that do it as a job that are trained and qualified to do this do it as a side line,also at the college they ask for people to have theirs done,to use them to train on.As for sewing, there are people out there that can sew,but they hate sewing things.Now that there are cheaper clothes,curtains etc,i tend to throw things away and buy new things,rather than sewing them.

I am not a person who plucks their eyebrows. I think my brows are fine just the way they are. However, those who do I can understand asking someone else to do it. As I can see it being hard to have to trust a mirror to do it for you. As far as seeing it goes and what not. The sowing. Now that's something I'm not sure about. I can do it myself, but sometimes I may ask for help. I rarely have to sow anything, but when I do I don't mind asking for help. However, I'm blind so I expect to have to ask for some kind of help sometime. If them asking for help, with no ligit excuse bothers you so. Then I suggest you make this point quite clear to them. Its best to sit down and talk out your problems, if they really are that much of an issue. If your friends care, and really are friends. They should understand and learn to do those things themselves.

Ask both your friends to help each other.

Some people just dont mature when it comes to doing things. And some just choose not to do it because it's easier for them to ask someone to do it for them. I've learned that you should always learn to do somethings your self because people arent always going to be there to do it for you. Continue to do it for them, but hey! Why not teach them how to do it thereselves also make it fun that way they will learn on their own and not have to depend on you all the time. It will be better for you and them LOL

So,you wanted to say that you have fed up with them?In that case,just ignore them,stop doing the thing that you don like,stop do what they want.And they will learnt to do it themselves

When one takes care of something for you, you tend to just take it forgranted really. Just like how we usually take forgranted our parents or moms who cook for us, then when it's our time to cook, we realize or wished we learned when we were younger. It's the same case with your friends. Though the samples or scenarios given are quite simple, they would never learn to do those things if you are always available to help them out. Try not to be available suddenly, and they will have to do it themselves - thus enabling them to learn. Sometimes giving less is helping too.

I see you're a sensible person.When i was eight,i was just playing in the mud,haha. It's really difficult to refuse our friends' requests.But we must learn this skill and use it.In your case,why not teach them how to sew and pluck eyebrows.As the saying goes,give a man a fish and he will eat for a day,teach a man to fish and he will eat for the rest of his life.So just tell them what you think and teach them how to "fish".

I agree that maybe we could do this some times only. But if a friend would often ask you to do it, that's a big NO-NO! Well, I only help when I really know what to do. And in your case, it seems like your friends really trust you in doing those stuff. They see you as an expert.