My friends aren't in the same circle

That's a good system you've got there Dorann! That'll be great to have a few good friends and none of them knowing each other. It would help lessen the drama if one has problems. I have a few circles too which I consider my friends, but some of them belong in the same circles. Kind of reminds you of those early-school-years-lessons about sets and subsets.

yes..it must be working good i know and understand...becoz friends though you have too much faith in them but when they are in the same group...may bend to any side at any time and tell all abt u....so its better that they dont know each other...but only at times when u have some kind of get together or such things at your place then...don't they all behave like strangers...and the enjoyment is lacking? for me....i am not in direct contact with any of my friends after marriage...i talk them on phones or on net

Well in a lot of respects I do have Friends in each of the different realms of life and some that I can talk to regarding some things about another one just because they do not really know the other person and so then I feel I can sound off and get some advice and not be so uptight and upset as well. I know for me I have the people I consider Friends at work, then those who I consider friends at my church, then the other friends in my life, and then those who I do Business with as well. For me it is Good to have friends, and be able to talk and share things and know a lot of them will in turn Trust you and look up to you as well.

hi dorannmwin None of my closer friends are in the same circle and my friend , my very best friend is the one I go to when I have any issues with other friends. she is the only one other than my son that I confide in. I trust them and they never ever have let me down.

I have friends in different circles but the one I hang out with the most are the ones that are into the same interests that I'm into, which is anime, manga, etc. Next to them, I'm close to my friends from high school then finally, my friends from college. When I have problems with any of my friends from one group, I do what you do and go to someone that's not from the same group, but I don't do it all the time. Sometimes they won't get what I'm going through cause they don't know the people I'm dealing with, so I think it's best to go to friends who are in the same group. If they're really your friends you wouldn't worry about them spilling your secrets.

Hi dora, i have nice friends, never we will have clashes except with one girl. She is like that very different attitude, i didn't like and also my friends nobody likes her attitude, but still we feel her as friend, because my believe is once we except as a friend we must accept their good and bad sides too. But oflate she is absconding from us. I don't know why. We can't expect the same as we want and we can't ask them to change their attitude. Suppose they changed now because of us/me they may go only to their originality. We can't change the originality. What do you say, because of this may be clashes will arise. But i never prefer or encourge such conflicts in between the friends, rather i want to clarify the mistake etc., Have a good day.

Hi dorannmwin, Having friends in different circles is a great idea. I was just wonder if your friends ever read your discussions here on myLot? What do they think about how you feel about this situation, if they read your discussion, that is? I have several friends at work and we don't see each other over the weekends or holidays. My best friends lives in another state and we talk over the phone are the internet. I guess you can say that I am very protective of my feelings, so I don't let too many people into my life. I have a sister that I share more with than anyone else. If you cannot trust sister, then who? Too many friends bring to much conflict. Conflict is what I don't have time for.

I guess I have friends in both - same circles and different circles. All my friends end up driving me nuts at some point - ha ha - so it's good to talk to those who are outside the circle (so it doesn't come back to you!). At the same time, it's good to talk to those "in" the circle, because they have a better insight as they know the same friend. I mostly end up talking to my hubby about these things though . . . he's the one person I can always count on - hee hee!!

I have a couple of close friends, but because of my past relationships it is hard for me to build friendships. I was older than most of my classmates when I attended college back in 2005 (most of them were starting out and I was almost 30) and felt out of place. I tried to make friends and for a while things worked out great until I had moved in with a couple of young ladies. The people I lived with hated the idea that my boyfriend (now husband) stopped by to see me a lot and they also hated the fact that I was not home much (I worked two jobs) and went to school full time. My boyfriend and I had gotten engaged in DEcember 2006 (Christmas Eve to be exact) and we both wanted to buy a house before our one year anniversary (we got married August 2007 and wanted a house by August 2008). In order for us to do that we both needed to work and had some old debts to pay off before we did this. My roommates thought that since I was older I should do everything for them. As a result, I always said that if people were going to disresepct the most important man in my life then they were not worth being friends with.

Oh, you are lucky. I have the same circle of friends and I also have a different circle of friend. But I tried to introduce them to each other when I can. So, now some of them are becoming friends, too.

hi , yes i have friends who aren't in the same circle . i have catholic friends like me and i also have non catholic friends. I cannot share my religious views on my non catholic friends but we respect each others belief and there is no problem with that and we still remain the best of friends.

I have different circles of friends and quite a few belong in the same circles as I have. I would probably love it when I can let them merge into one big circle, but of course, that's not possible as they have their own likes and dislikes, and different principles in life. Somehow, being in different circles make me diversified and adapt to their environment selectively. I keep myself from saying things about other friends, unless it was brought up, but, I try to be very objective as they all are my friends, anyway.

My two closest friends are in two different circles, and it can lead to conflicts, but I do my best to balance the two. They tolerate each other for things like my birthday or my child's birthday, but other than that they are completely different.

if i am with my friends i am so happy. they make me laugh all the time. you are lucky if you have a lot of friends. they are jut like my true brothers and sisters. hay... i miss them so much.

That's how many of my friends are, they are not in the same circle, and I like it like that. It is so much easier to vent when your friends don't know each other, this way you can get different advice and opinions from them.

It also keeps you out of being in the middle if two friends are having a conflict. but I've never been in a situation where having friends in the same circles was a problem.

Hi. dorannmwin. I have a couple of females that I consider to be my friend that I can count on. I may only share private information with this friend only. I will not tell others things that I may tell her though.

i have hardly any friends here. but the couple i have, yes are in the same circle. reason i love mylot so much. i come here to discuss things about friends. family, etc. another reason ive decided its probably best they dont join mylot because they'd see the things ive said about them