can we learn to love someone?^^
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
Portugal
September 17, 2010 3:55pm CST
hi guys^^ do you believe that we can learn to love someone?^^ about me im not sure. i prefer to wait for a guy that i love and that he loves me too than be with someone that loves me and i dont love. bcs we might never love that person. love is not something we can choose. it just happens^^ what you guys think? please share^^
6 responses
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
yes^^ but if also you feel something at least^^ if feel nothing and just decide you will love that person can turn out bad and someone get hurt. i think we must let feelings happen without try something without love. bcs if we cant love that person we already gave fake hopes and person be heartbroken bcs our mistake. we must always be with someone for love only^^ thanks for your answer^^
@tlinstrom (8)
• South Africa
19 Sep 10
I don't believe that you can learn to love someone if you don't. You might force yourself to believe you love him, but in the back of your mind you would always be searching for that special person that takes your breath away. I believe that once you are in love with someone, you have to learn to keep on loving them, but there has got to be some chemistry to start out with. Love won't stay alive by itself - it needs to be fed, nutured and maintained just like anything else in this world.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
yes i totally agree^^ i like when you say its needed chemistry at least^^ thats what i said to people that comment already and im happy you agree with me^^ is not easy to just decide i will love this guy bcs he loves me so much and i feel nothing for him. is like forcing to love that person. noone be happy like that. neither me neither guy that loved me right?^^ at least thats how i think^^ we must let feelings happen and dont force things^^ we can find other sweet guy that loves us and we love back^^ we all have the right person^^ so why try something that can work bad and hurt someone?^^ better not^^ thanks for your answer^^
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Sep 10
No I really couldn't, I would want to be in love and would expect the other to be in love with me also.
I really do not understand the concept of what learning to love is, as I have always known that you either are or you are not.
It is almost like living with someone you no longer love.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
yes i agree with you^^ also is not fair for that person that he/she loves you and you dont feel the same way and is trying to feel. i mean maybe we can never even feel that way. everyone deserves to love and be loved back so i totally agree with you^^ true love is that^^ and is true learn to love doesnt exist^^ or we love or we dont^^ it just happens^^ cant be taught^^ thanks for your answer^^
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
learning to love someone.....that would depend on how much it should really be done. i mean if someone, particularly, your parents would dictate you that you should learn to love a certain person, then maybe that would be really difficult. but when you come to think of it, don't we really start from learning to love a person, then eventually realizing that we have learned to love a person?
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
i think we just feel that feeling^^ not really learn ^^ i mean sure then we start love the person but first we need to feel a connection i think^^ at least for me i feel that way^^ also sure if parents dictate us that is too hard. i dont like arranged marriages at all. that should end. everyone should be free to choose who they want love^^ thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^
@amuiri (8)
• Kenya
17 Sep 10
Dear sweetloveforeve, I believe you can learn to love someone. After the initial introduction, getting along is something one chooses to do. You may discover very adorable characteristics in your lover and this can increase your love. On the flip side, if you discover negative aspects, you may end the relationship. You also must make some efforts to keep your love aglow.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
i understand what you mean^^ but better is be with someone we love and that loves us back^^ you are right knowing the person we can fall but also maybe doesnt happen and then we just gave fake hopes to the person^^ anyway i understand what you mean^^ like if someone act bad and you see someone sweet that loves you and you give a chance^^ but we must at least feel something too to do that so things go ok^^ thanks for your answer^^
@the_dan (7)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 10
yes, i believe that we can learn to love someone.
to learn to love someone is not easy, need more time and more logic thinking.
if we want to be the best lover for our couple, we must to learn about love him/her , him/her interesting, him/her like and anything. and we can understand about him/her want. so there is not problem in relation.
thanks, just it.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
but love feelings just happen is like is not something we can choose^^ i cant just say i will love that guy bcs he loves me. i mean can give a chance yes but if feel at least a bit of feelings^^ without feel nothing is very bad. and unfair. we must be with someone that loves us and we love back too^^ thats my way^^ but i understand your point^^ if people try it can happen but a true love happens alone without being like forced you know^^ thanks for your answer^^
