Why some people would do anything for love?
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
September 17, 2010 5:14pm CST
A pleasant day to you,
I am thinking it thoroughly. My friend is so much inlove with her fiancee. As in, she would die for the guy. And even forget her dream to be a famous writer. And not only that, since, she is the eldest, she needs to work very hard to earn a living for her sister and mother as well since they are not that rich to settle some of their obligations.
I know and believed that feeling in love is the most wonderful feeling that an individual can feel. There is no exception on this. Generally, when a person fell in love, he or she feels a tremendous joy. However, in my friend's situation, falling in love terribly at this time is not a perfect timing. As she almost forgot all of her plans in life. Hence, there are times, I want to get angry towards her because, she is not doing the right thing. Nevertheless, I cannot afford to be angry with my friend.
But, I want her to be somehow focus in her plan. Although she is inlove, maybe, she can still work hard to earn a living for her sister and her mother. And with regard to this, I am not that brave to talk to her as to what to do. Since, I know she will not going listen to me.
12 responses
@make_it_real (76)
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22 Sep 10
hi airasheila! Let's put it this way, pretending i am your friend. I would be telling you then not to bother worrying about me! Don't you think that i would turn from being a smart and loving person especially to my family into a stupid lover just that? Ofcourse not! Just let me be for this time, I feel happy and feel like i have reached the greatest dream i never thought it would be this way.
But time will come that she will do what she is thinking her obligations are..for her family. It is not good for some one who wants to do things like that and at the same time, there's something missing in her life and maybe that's the love she's feeling now! I think she knows what exactly her doing. Infact, if she really feel inlove with her fiancee, she must be gaining much love from him as she hardly turn away from him. So just be happy of what she feels about..just try to be her side anytime whatever happen as you are her friend!!!
@princejhaizee (279)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
People do anything for love because they are emotionally blind...
I don't believe that love is blind...only i believed is that If you are in the presence of love...you are in nice and better position in this life. Love is selfish, love doesn't brought hardship, Love doesn't cause any impartiality...
Also love is balance...thus, being crazy in anyone is not love at all...maybe it is infatuation or some emotional problem happened to Him. No one know about what your friend feel about...maybe she is only afraid to be rejected or leave by somebody!
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
You know when people inlove they feel to high and nothing to think but the person she loves. Definitely your friend is really inlove and she doesn't mind if she is doing right for her family. But i know she is still doing right and think about her family and her obligations to help them financially even she is inlove and who knows that he is her inspirations. Try to talk to her as a friend.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
18 Sep 10
Hi airasheila,
If this is your friend's first time being in love, trying to talk to her about where she is head is useless. First time in love, we almost always make huge mistakes. Her age is going to matter here too. Also, if she is very young, she will not want to give up her love of this person and will probably forget some of her other obligations.
Only time will tell whether this relationship will last. If it doesn't last, one would hope that she is intact and can go on with her life with a little more experienced about love affair
You as her friend can try to talk to her about how you are feeling. You already feel that she will not be willing to listen to you, so be there for her when she needs you, if the relationship fails. Who knows, it may just be the right guy for her.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
...i believe there is nothing wrong with falling in love, and i strongly believe, there is no perfect timing when it comes to love..it just come and go without us noticing...what you can do for your friend is to support her with her happiness, you can advise her to at least she could spare some for herself, but you can never force her to do things which is against her own decision...her decision might be wrong in your perspective, but i believe she is in the right age to understand and know her priorities...
@lichengxi (49)
• China
18 Sep 10
people fall in love is stupid. your friend used her way to love her fiancee.so you do not say too much about her way .this is her choose
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
17 Sep 10
Love is love. She is doing that in a proper age. let her enjoy her love and life. Some times she may work double timeharder after some period. whether success or failure the wonderful experience may teach her diferent kind of lessons and give courage to face her problems. so let her love. convey my best wishes to her.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
17 Sep 10
you should still try to talk with her^^ you are her friend and if you think she is not doing the right thing you must tell her^^ real friends are there to say the good and the bad so she wont be angry with you^^ is normal that you are worried bcs sometimes when people are in love they cant see other things thats why maybe she is not focus in her plans. maybe she didnt even think that she should keep working more. sometimes we dont think in things while we are with lover^^ talk with her and tell her^^
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
people do crazy kinds of stuff to prove that their love is worth every single ounce of blood- no matter how stupid that would become. what matters is that they have been able to show how much of themselves they have given to the person they love.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
...i believe there is nothing wrong with falling in love, and i strongly believe, there is no perfect timing when it comes to love..it just come and go without us noticing...what you can do for your friend is to support her with her happiness, you can advise her to at least she could spare some for herself, but you can never force her to do things which is against her own decision...her decision might be wrong in your perspective, but i believe she is in the right age to understand and know her priorities...
@micai89 (6)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
let me share this with you, I read in a book that, "Emotions warms reason but reason rules emotions". In loving someone you shouldn't forget about your self, your ambitions, dreams, wants and also needs. She should love her self more before she could really love her fiancee. As her friend, find the courage to help her see what the real situation is....
