Would you marry with out your parents?

@elsoft12 (1821)
India
September 18, 2010 6:03am CST
Last month has been very tough.Some one close to me has married without his parents knowing about and still thinks he is hiding the fact.In India,marriage is a family affair and parents celebrates their child's marriage.This particular incident,parents came to know about it and they were hurt.They couldnt sleep or eat and are inconsolable.I dont know what someone had to do it for their parents who toil their life and brought him up for more than 25 years.I feel very bad.
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11 responses
19 Sep 10
i dont know if my dad really wants to be with me when i'll get married, but im sure that my mom and stepdad will be there! :D
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Fine.You invite him from your heart.Iam sure your father will be happy and will surely bless you.After all he is a parent.
19 Sep 10
yep, i'd invite him, he always say he loves me no matter what happen! :P
19 Sep 10
oops again, says*
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
19 Sep 10
When many of us are ready for marriage, we like to have our parents there with us. Marriage is a big step in our lives. It is a new world with a fture shared with someone we love. Having our parents as part of that is something many of us treasure. If I were to get married and my parents could not be with me, I would certainly be disappointed. I would still get married without them. It just wouldn't be the same.
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Yes.I agree with you.Lets make our parents part of our life's most memorable event.Let them live their life in peace.
@garneta (185)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Yes thats painful for the parents,imagine your child get married without their knowledge. Its okay if they ask first for the permission but if they could not come during the ceremony its ok at least they let their parents know about their decision. My boyfriend and i will get married next month and both our parents cold not come because they are far,but then we ask for their blessings.
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Good to know your concern for parents and viceversa.Wishing you a very happy marries life.In India marriage is an event condcuted by the family,hence it is a must for the parents to be present.
@mahrulz (52)
• India
19 Sep 10
Hell no...!!! I will never marry without my parents...!!! i cant just leave the bonds from my birth for some momentary enjoyment,.. i have complete faith on my parents and will never live them alone.. on the other hand..parents should also care abt what their children think and have decided for their future. and should positively co-operate with their children and the children should respect their parents decision..
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Completely agree with you.
@handy91 (113)
• Thailand
19 Sep 10
parents have right to know it, how can they did that to them? Even if their parents don't support their marriage or something, they still need to inform them, a marriage without parents is so sad!
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Absolutely,parents are really unconsolable on knowing this.
• India
19 Sep 10
Yes.I don't Like My Parents.I sure i will marriage with out my parents.
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Well.You will realize the value of parents.Even if you dont like your parents they still love you.Their love is unconditional.So,dont do things that hurt them.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
19 Sep 10
Well, it's up to you. Throw a party. Invite them all. After they show up, make it a wedding party. Spread so much love and joy that they quit letting the hang ups get in the way. Sometimes one needs to nudge things in the right direction.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Oh.. i dont think i could do that. I demand my parents to be there.
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Parents would be more than happy to accept your demand.Its a moment of joy for them to see the life they have created marry and settle in life.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
18 Sep 10
There is no way i marry a girl without my parents presence --- they had really worked hard encouraging us and brought up with all the essentials.So they have every right to celebrate their son's marriage.Sorry about your friends parents...hope things get better in the coming days or months and your friend would be accepted again by his parents..atleast they can be together at the reception.great day.
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
18 Sep 10
The sorry fact is that the reception is over and this guy didnt a look a bit effected by his parents absence.I didnt knew a human being can be so selfish and unconcerned for someone who worked their lives day in and out to bring him up with unconditional love.I cant stop tears rolling down even now imagining the poor parents.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
I can't imagine getting married without my parents there. It would totally break their heart. I don't want to break their heart after they have loved me unconditionally all my life. My family is very close-knit. We inform each other about every major, even some minor, issues about us. Getting married is a pretty big issue, I think. Even if they don't like my future husband, I would still want them there to give me off. Have their blessing, so to speak. I would not enjoy my wedding if my family isn't complete to share it with me. I hope your friend and his parents make up soon. It's undestandable how hurt the parents are. I hope your friend would also do everything he can to make up with his parents soon. There's no point in prolonging the rift between them.
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
18 Sep 10
This is a more of back stabbing than a rift.Family is a part of our lives,it is where we grow and come from.This guy doesnt seem to have any values in Life and has this use and throw policy.
@gharah (49)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
I absolutely wouldn't want to marry without my parent. I have always been looking forward for the day that i walk down the aisle escorted by my parents while my beloved groom is waiting by the altar. Someday, soon i'll get there...it would be one sweet thing to share such blessed moment with the people who cared for you, laughed with you and made you what you are today...
@elsoft12 (1821)
• India
19 Sep 10
Sharing the moment with your parents makes more memorable and enjoyable.At that age,parents need sweet memories and a child it is one's responsibility that they dont miss those moments.