Do you discuss personal matters with someone in public?
@starlight_starbright (810)
Philippines
September 18, 2010 6:16am CST
It made me wonder why some people talk about very personal things while riding in a bus. I took a bus today and it was so crowded. Two females caught my attention when one woman was loudly telling the other woman about how lousy her husband is. She talks about stuffs which I think people around, including me are not interested listening to.
Have you experienced this situation? Are you comfortable hearing other people's discussions? Do you do this?
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9 responses
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
19 Sep 10
I personally think that it would be wrong to do this! I don't like disclosing private information to members of the public! I really think that some aspects of your life need to be kept secret. That's not to say that anything is wrong or your are holding back something illegal, you may well be, but some people really make it a habit to interfere in your business when really they should just keep their big noses out!
I have noticed people like that on the bus though! They talk so loud and I guess they really don't care whether the whole world learns their business or not. I'm more of a private person and I do care, I don't want others knowing my business and I tend not to have private conversations on the bus as I know that there will be a lot of big ears that are open and ready to take in any information! I think that some of the information that these people come out with can be quite embarrassing. Well, rather them than me! Andrew
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Hey Andrew!
Yes I agree with you. It's annoying to hear other people talking about their lives especially in public transport. Hmmm...if we try to look at it,oftentimes they are just caught up in the middle of excitement. If the topicis humurous,some people might give a smile on that. It's like sharing one's joy to others. Though they are making such nuisance around. On the other spilling the beans to everyone would be very unhealthy. Having some time with the right person and a right place indeed would more effective if you wanted someone to talk you. Thanks for sharing!
@anaisaac21 (16)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
No. I dont do that specially in a public place. You're just disrespecting your self and putting yourself into shame..and some people around you that are listening not knowing that they might take advantage of the situation..I have respect to myself and respect to the people I talk with.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
18 Sep 10
I try my best not to discuss all of my personal matters out in public. Everyone doesn't need to hear about things that should be private. Out in public, you just never know who is listening to your conversation. Out in public, you should only talk about what you don't mind having repeated.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Yeah...sometimes it's annoying to hear people having loud conversations but it's very uncomfortable to hear someone talk about very personal things to someone no matter how low their voices are. Thanks!
@AvI0907 (230)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 10
Yes, i been such situation before and really uncomfortable for me to listen their story. For me,i would not allowed my self to do that. I only will discuss my personal stuff with my best friend. Usually, the lake which nearby by my college would be the place for me because there is peaceful and not crowded by people at night. So, there only the place for me to discuss my personal stuff with my best friend.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Great! A good place where you can relax and be assured that only you and your best friend could hear what you have to say is a good sign of being responsible. It wouldn't be nice to let other people know about your story other than the one you are talking to... :-)
@shotgun647 (144)
• United States
18 Sep 10
I usually avoid doing so. However, sometimes discussions start and eventually it reaches the point that you're talking about personal matters. I guess when it happens I just stick to whispering. If necessary I'll just resort to telling the person that perhaps we should continue talking about whatever it is later on.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hmmm...it's true. We could not avoid starting a topic about personal matters and especially when you're in groups you get overwhelmed of the situation. Whispering is okay. One way to somehow avoid to being so vulgar about something is, you could try using polite words. Maybe choice of words matters sometimes...thanks!
@mksgamon09 (21)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
I don't really discuss personal matters in public places. It's not a good attitude that people can hear some peoples other matter. I feel awkward and ashame spreading out my personal problems in public.
@Cherryd41 (1119)
• United States
22 Sep 10
Hi Starlight
I don't talk about my personal business out in public either especially not to bad mouth a family member. I sometimes talk about generic things to co workers if we're talking among ourselves regarding every day living issues such as finances, health ,relationships, but I never go into detail and I know these people so I can't imagine why anyone would want to do that with a stranger.
My mother always use to tell us our business is our business don't go tellin everybody what goes on in this house its not their business
@juryse (752)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Sometimes it can get annoy especially if they are talking in a loud voice. But I guess knowing that you don't know the people around you makes you talk about it. Me? Really depends on who I'm talking to and the place. And I'm not to keen on talking on stuff that are too private.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
No I do't do that stuff. I don't want people to know what's going on my life cause I think people would just talk and talk, and this will not my life any better. Being discreet is a trait everyone must learn when in public!