How will you gauge true friendship?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
Philippines
September 18, 2010 7:24am CST
I happen to have two assistants whom I think I am close with. However, I just learned recently that there are things that they cannot tell me. They haven't told me honestly their issues. All along, I thought I have this open communication with them.
Then there is this friend of mine who never talked to me. What I mean is that we seem not to talk to each other. I tried opening casual conversations but there seems to be a gap between us. We've been friends for six years yet it seems I don't know this person. It seems she has a lot of secrets.
Are they really my friends?
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7 responses
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
19 Sep 10
True friendship is something that ia there without asking. We can give or receive true friendship. True friendship never asks why. A true friend is there is times of joy and sorrow and need. Tru friendship is what we count on to be always be there for us.@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Good day sender621.
You sound like an idealist. Thanks for your input. That's how I view it too.
Best regards.
@GemmaR (8517)
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18 Sep 10
The way that I know whether a friend is true or not is whether you can tell them anything whilst knowing that they would never tell anyone else what you've told them.
I would say that they are probably your friends, but maybe just not your best friends. I have a lot of people that I would call friends, but I know that there are a lot of things that I might not know about them.
If you know that they would always be there for you if you needed them, than I would say that they are your real friends and you should enjoy their friendship while it is strong.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Thanks GemmaR.
I hope I would reach that stage where we would be able to talk openly and be able to tell each other what we think. As to how you call it, a strong relationship.
You see, I would rather have few close friends who would really be there when I need them than have lots of friends or casual friends who are not reliable. I guess I am being selfish.
Anyway, as long as I have the opportunity to talk with her, I will do so and let time tell what will happen of us.
Best regards.
@enthusiasticone (348)
• China
19 Sep 10
hello ,i don't think that friendship need some more words, and jus try to say some words with him , and i think friends need some words too. just speak to each other with our hearts . but you friend don't , so this is dangerous for friendship . so just get some help from your other friends. then resove it (help him) then good friendship will come here.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Hi enthusiasticone.
She's a bit secretive and maybe you are right, not an expressive one. gennyK gave me a sensible answer and somehow a reminder to be more patient and considerate.
You too somehow gave me a good advice of helping her being more open. I'll just have to think of the right way of opening the topic to her. Maybe she doesn't like some traits that I have.
@secrekept (42)
•
18 Sep 10
It really does not matter if they don't tell the secrets.
Everyone have their own secrets they don't want to tell. So let them be and still be their friends.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Don't you think that friends share secrets? I believe you can tell more to a friend than to members of your family.
Anyway, they may just be my acquaintances and not real friends.
Thanks for your input.
@bluidkiti (37)
• United States
18 Sep 10
True friends to me are those that are there through all the times. The good times, bad time and in between times. I have a couple of best friends that are like sisters to me. We don't talk to each other all the time but stay in tough a few times during the month. We are definitely there for each other though when the chips are down - anytime - night or day - 24/7.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
You are so lucky having them. You see, I have one friend that does the same for me. But he's not here in our country anymore. He works abroad. I miss that instant where an actual would immediately attend to you in times of your needs.
Keep your friends and good luck to you.
@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hi there... On my own point of view there are a lot of different type of friends.. There are some who are just a casual friend, whom you see to day and not there tomorrow. There are also some whom we called true friend,they sticks with you through thick and thin..On the other hand, in your situation maybe you've been friends for a long time but trust to each other didnt knock on the door of your friendship. maybe you should try to confront her, maybe she has some issues with you that youre not aware of. by confronting her might resolve and save your friendship with her. remember, that you might have a lot of friends but only few who are true.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Thanks for your advice. I may consider asking her but not in a confrontational way. I think we haven't reach that level yet. But I will try to do it as well. I just need to find the right timing.
Thanks again and happy mylotting.
