Do you afraid to say "No" to the others resquests???
By xtmlove
@xtmlove (402)
China
September 18, 2010 9:43am CST
Sometimes we have to say "No" to others when ask us for help. Why? One situation may be that we are not capable of doing the things they ask us to do. The other situation may be that we are unwilling to do what they ask us to do, because their requests may be unreasonable or even illegal. On the both occasions we should say directly to them: "No". But some people were afraid to say it that maybe influence their relationship. What do you think about this question?
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23 responses
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Sep 10
No I am not scared at all to accept the requests of others. No matter how many discussions or comments they have given. This is because when i started myLotting i had sent requests and all had accepted me.
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@zhangzhang0378 (4)
• China
19 Sep 10
be honest learn to stand up for yourself and defend yourself do not worry about hurting orther people .in this world you have to learn to be rough .so there is no law to say no in the country .do not be a push over and let others control or buly you learn to stay in control ``thank u .
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@ggeeta (154)
• India
19 Sep 10
Sometimes when people are close to us and they request us for something, we can't easily say 'NO' to them. It may be the fear that tomorrow we also might get into the same situation and we also might need help from our relatives. there are certain situations which are quite sensitive to deal with relatives and close friends, but yes, when it is such a situation where I can really not afford and there is no other way then saying a big NO i can in no way accept their request. whatever it may be. Helping others must not be at the cost of losing myself.
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@iamdee (158)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Yes few years ago, I could hardly say no to my friends' requests. However, now that I'm learning to become more mature, I also learned to say no particularly to those requests which I know would take much of my time and I might not be able to handle them at the end of the day. I guess there is nothing wrong in telling the truth and say no to others requests if you think that you cannot manage their request. Sometimes also, if we never learn to say no, there are people who tend to take advantage of our kindness.We should really think carefully about their request before we grant it or not. Of course, if the request is not good in nature, it is always better to say no to it before a damage will occur.
@lichengxi (49)
• China
18 Sep 10
i say no easily. sometime i can find some excuese to them
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@nanythatsatrip (20)
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19 Sep 10
i never really asked that to myself, but thinking about it now, i guess im really afraid to say "no", i guess i dont want to hurt some of them, thats bad xp, sometimes is just good say "no" !
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@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I have a very dear friend who I also work for. We are quite close. I'm never afraid to say no to his requests for favors but I do my best to help out when he needs it. One thing I can say about him is that he does not take me for granted. He always expresses his appreciation for my help. Therefore, it's very easy to be there for him when he needs help. He always does the same for me too.
However, there's only so much of me to go around and I have a pretty full schedule. So when other people ask a request or favor, I have no problem saying no. I don't always say no but most of the time I have no choice but to decline their request.
I've learned a long time ago that if one spreads himself or herself too thin, they will be of no benefit to anyone including themselves. So I pick and chose who I will help.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Illegal would be the end of our "friendship", because to me, if someone is willing to ask me to do something illegal, then they are not really a friend.
As for what they ask for help, it depends greatly on the amount of help, and in what way they ask, and their history.
For example if someone asks for money, and I happen to know this person is constantly broke, and is completely irresponsible with money, then no. I don't give drunks a drink, nor do I have spend thrifts money.
On the other hand if I know a person has just had some bad luck, or just needs a quick hand, or something like this, then I will help if it is in my power to help.
@AvI0907 (230)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 10
for me, is really hard to say no when my friends requested me for help even im not willing to help due to some reasons of no time or busy on personal stuff. Normally, i will accept their requested. i will done my personal stuff and after that focus to their rescue. If the rescue is emergency, so, i would put away my work and focusing their rescue. Sometimes is annoying me while i sacrifice my time for them. However, if the rescue is emergency or major, i dont mind for helping them even sacrifice my time.
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@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
I am not afraid to say no to others requests if I know that I can't! It's better to say no rather than giving myself a problem if I can't do it or make it. And the person is relying on me then suddenly I will say sorry. Not nice!!!
@kuaixueshiqing (161)
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19 Sep 10
I think those who are afraid to say no to others requests always fear to offtend others.In fact it is neccessary for them to do this,if the requests are unreasonable,just say no.
@larryfeng (3)
• China
19 Sep 10
long time ago, my teacher told me that in a long time you should learn to say no. at that time , i didn't get what it meant. but now, i got it, many occassions, i find for me it is very difficult to pronounce a "NO", but, i realize that if you are not willing to do, just refuse it. the sea is not always quiet and smooth, great waves dont influence its beauty.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
19 Sep 10
In my case it is really DEPENDS! on what kind of circumstances and sometimes depending on a person. For example my friend wants me to enroll a ballet instead of painting. I really refuse her offer but then she is forcing me to do so. I was really pissed off since she can't respect my point but then I didn't follow her request so then I still continue my painting.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 10
Sometimes, we do need to say No to others for certain situation/things that we think are really impossible to achieve. However sometimes we don't necessary say the work "No" directly. You could say... for example "Maybe if we do this, that would be better... :p"
Have a nice day!
@lovelypinkkitty (19)
• Vietnam
19 Sep 10
Yes, I fear that they will not happy or will think bad about me and in the future they will do something bad to me. It is common in my country so that it's better to having a good communication.
@gzadlawan (76)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
For me, it would be better to say it straight. Saying "NO" would rather be alright than giving a false hope to the one asking for help.. Just be honest and that you can avoid such misunderstanding.
@johney264 (544)
• China
19 Sep 10
this question may ignore some thing important element, for example : requestor is your neighbor, your family members, how do you respond to them, you can't unwilling to do this. another example some body have gave you money or some thing valuable, asking you for something even illegal now, you must be not so unwilling, if the requestor is a officer or celebrity, what would you respond?
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