Is it okey to be loyal to your partner but not faithful always?

What!? no way... That not a relationship to me. I believe that when in a relationship you should be faithful always, and if you cant fight your temptations you should be in a relationship.

Hi norberto1968, Having an extra marital affair is not being loyal to your marriage. Just because person who is in the affair doesn't pack their clothes and move out of the house doesn't mean that the marriage is solid. There has to be a reason why the cheating spouse chose to defile their marriage bed. Being disloyal is being unfaithful, whether it is in a marriage or just a relationship. You cannot have both situations and think that it is okay. Someone will be disappointed and hurt. Being disloyal or unfaithful can and most times do wreck a marriage or relationship. How can your friends think they are not be disloyal to their mates? I hope that they are rational intelligent people who can think of about the consequences of their actions (cheating)such as divorce, separation, pain, sorrow, depression, etc.. I think your friends should lookup the meaning of the two words, loyal and faithful.

It is like basically saying: " I'm LOYAL, just not Faithful" That's just being selfish and conceited in my opinion. This is due to the fact that I have been one myself. Though I haven't been married yet, I cheated on my past relationship but still stayed and remained loyal for a couple of years. I kept my dirty little secrets to avoid breaking up. But come to think of it now, I felt so bad, so selfish of me to do that. Its just unfair. If you really love a person, we just have to be fair to them. Instead of doing unfaithful things, why not tell them that we're not happy anymore or just break up from the relationship to avoid hurting that person even more. Like they say, trust is like a broken mirror. once its broken, it can never come out exactly how it was before.

I don't think it's ever "okay" to be unfaithful to your partner. At the end of the day, if you don't feel as though you can be faithful to them, then what is the point of being in a relationship with them in the first place? Your partner deserves to feel as though they are loved by you, and they certainly won't feel this if you end up doing something with another person behind their back.

I think that it is easy to talk the talk and not walk the walk which is exactly what your friends are doing. When you marry, you commit to giving yourself completely to that person. I wonder how your friends would feel if their wives had the same philosophy. I don't see hwo someone could say that they value their family when they are willing to lose it for an hour of pleasure.

i am married. i am loyal and faithful to my husband. it wont be okay if he is loyal yet unfaithful. its like he just stay with me because we have a son nor because of his and my family.. that would be bull****! might as well go on our separate ways while we still have one child. and oh! he must make sure he does his monthly obligations.. and last thing, the last will... MY SON should be on it!!!!

It sounds as if your friends fell out of being in love with their partner. They sound as if they do love their partner, the family they created, the life they built, but they also crave something else that they (for whatever reason) cannot have with their long-time partner. That essentially is a breakdown in communication.