bf/gf wants to still live with parents after you marry. would you agree?^^

Hi sweet. After we get married we still live with his parents. At first I don't like the idea of living with them, cause I've heard many stories from other people and friends that it's not really easy to live with the in-laws. But since we have no choice we're still living with my in-laws till now. It's not that simple since I'm the one who will adjust and I can't do stuff that I want to do without compromising them.

I think this discussion is addressed to ladies.If so, I am out of place.But still I would like to share some ideas. We live in India where the family ties are very strong. We have a system of family living known as Hindu Joint Family where father mother and their father mother if alive son daughter in law and grand children ..all live in one house. The income is pooled and the head of the family normally takes care of all the needs of the entire family members. Mostly his decision is final.The household work like cooking and cleaning is done by lady members with a mutual understanding they share.. being guided by the elderly lady. I am talking of recent years, also in present it is continued in many families in India.This system is followed by many irrespective of their religion.It is a way of living not connected with any religion.Of late with advancement of scientific knowledge and interaction with people of different countries and regions this concept of joint living is gradually fading for various reasons.I am not here to in depth in the reasons but it has entered into the minds of young ladies who marry now to live separately.Whatever may be.. the concept had benefits of its own.Even in India recently married young ladies want to live separately as they feel uncomfortable in joint families.I for me cannot say my opinion being a male......

Hi Sweetloveforeve, No, I would not want to do that at all. I would not do that. When I turned 18, I was out of my parents house and there was no way that I was going to live in someone elses parents house. If a guy wants to still live with the parents then to me it shows a lack of responsibility and something the future wife might want to take into consideration.

Not just no but HELL NO. We lived with her parents for about a month while the mobile home company was setting up our new place on our property, and I almost went insane. It caused problems for me personally, and it caused problems for me at work. It took the company longer than it was supposed to take them to do the job, and then we had to wait for the electric company to come out and do the inspection before we could have our power turned on. Otherwise, the house was ready us to move in. I was trying to be patient, but I had had all of living with her parents that I could tolerate, so I told her one morning as I was leaving for work that I was coming home that night and staying in our house whether we had electricity or not. We had already gone without power once before for two weeks after Hurricane Ivan, so I knew that I could survive without electricity for at least a couple of days until the power company could do what they had to do, so I had made my mind up to come home one way or the other. Thankfully, she called me at work about lunch time that day to tell me that our electricity was finally on. It was almost two months before I went back over to their house LOL

Hi dear, The base of all people has changed. Our customs and traditional life pattern also changed a lot. Many are approached the practical way of life and convenience is the basic motivation behind it. For a short period of time, ie upto get settled, we can stay with parents if all are in a understanding and good relationship. As everyone gives importance to their own choice and opinion, the separate life make more sensible. As a personal opinion, I like to be with my parents. Because they are still my parents and I love them so much and vice versa. We at home, all are good friends and have a much open life style. The mutual understanding among all makes us so happy and anyone from my family to live separately after marriage is not thinking now. But all the arrangements are done for it. Whenever they are busier with their own children and responsibility, the emergency of separate life will arise and then will do so. Regards, Thank-s

thats very terible to even think about it, those things only happen in indian movies i dont think they happen else where. where i am from if a man is not ready to take care of a lady,he wouldnt even talk about marriage. Even when the marriage wasnt planned for like becoming pregnant outa wedluck. So to me i think its absurd.No offence.

When you marry, you are building s future with someone. it is time to strike out on the world together. still living with your parents after marriage can be a step back in that goal. If living with your parents is necessary to reaching that point where you can build something together with your new partner, then i see nothing wrong with it. If you are afraid of leaving your parents, your married relaationship could suffer a blow. You have to make the choice of what is right for you and the one you marry. What will bring you happiness together is what you should follow.

HELL NO! Let's Face it, no one likes their mother-in-laws, and your MIL hates her MIL and so on. And take it from me, first hand, it's excruiating, painful, and stressful. its tough on a marriage when you live in someone else's household because you gotta abide by their rules and still try to work with your partner.

I would not want that as well. The relationship between the husband and wife will not grow. I have a sister who live with us together with her child and her husband live with his mother. The end result, the guy cheated on her and she hated him. They're both in a verge of separation. The problem here is that they both remain dependent to their parents. Thus, they were not able to really live an independent married life even though they have a child already.

I wouldn`t be so delighted, but if we don`t have no choice, i would say yes, but for a short period of time, until we find a place to live. I don`t think is normal to still live with your parents, of his parents after you get married, but it depends on them, if they are nice people or not, but usually parents get involved in your relationship with him, and things could get bad.

definitely NO! when you marry you start a new life with your partner so you should have your own house.and sometimes if your with your in laws you can't do what you want to do and also you'll feel like all eyes is on you..

hi.. i also think like you.. if you stay with you parent after marrid is uncomfortable and sometime can make faithing each other if got misunderstanding. also you must do some work house to make you parents like you. espicly if you in you husband parents.

u can do all your honeymoon everyday if ever you have your own house. it is really a bit awkward if you stay with the house of your parents. at the time you got married that means that both of you should separate from your parents and have your own house.

I absolutely disagree with living with your parents after you get married. It is part of marriage that you go out on your own and build a family. If you have your parents around then you are not truly living the married life. You should rely on each other and not your parents at that point in your relationship.

My answer is certainly NO. I would not want to live with my bf's parents after we marry because I just think its not appropriate. I it is because I believe that if a couple decides to get married, they can already support themselves and their family. Hence, both are independent enough to buy their own house or find a place to live instead of living under the roof of your partner's parents.. or worse, his/her extended family. That is really uncomfortable. I wouldn't want to force myself in that house. Thanks for sharing by the way. Best of luck

Maybe just live for 1 or 2 years. Ask for parents' advice and opinion first before making any decision. Of course both parties---boy and girl, needs to seek each others' opinion too.

Big NO! I am saying this based on experience. My sister's family still lives with us. She has 4 kids and a nanny. I honestly feel bad about it because they are not giving their share to the family expenses. My parents are 75 years old and still works really hard just to sustain everyone in the family. At that age, my parents should just be relaxing but they are not! I honestly think it is unfair. Once you get married, you should be able to live separated from your parents so that you can really gauge and challenge yourselves in the status that you both decided on.

i dont think there is anything wrong to live with his folks most especially if you are just starting out yourselves. ut it is wiser to save up so that you can have a home of your own. it gives a different satisfaction if you have your own house to live.

my dear sweetloveforeve ,you are very sweet and charming girl,for your question ,if we decide and agree on a subject then i will follow ,if disagree and he or she insists ,then we have to forgo marriage plan ,thanks for sharing,once again you are beautiful.

I object.Because i know my mom is kind of bad-tempered,i'm afraid there would be tension and disharmony between them.I have got the answer in advance from the relation between my mother and grandmother.So in order not to be involved in such things,i'll try my best to prevent this thing from happening,stifle it in the cradle .