friends or family?
By jet2r0cks
@jet2r0cks (190)
Philippines
September 19, 2010 7:56am CST
Greetings everyone!
What if you made plans with your friends on one day and it just so happens that you have to meet your family on the same day? Who will you choose to go with?
This happens to me all the time. I make plans to meet up with my friends but at the last minute, my mother tells me we have to go somewhere and meet with our relatives (ugh, she always tells me these things at the last minute _). Most of the time I end up going with my family, cause my mom will just constantly annoy me about it, but I feel bad for having to turn down my friends, specially my boyfriend, since I made plans with them first.
If my mom wouldn't be so mad about it I'd probably choose my friends, cause to be honest I'm not close to my relatives (on my mother's side, on my father's side everyone's nice). They're all so annoying and plastic, and I hate that. Plus they never failed to make me feel out of place. The only relatives from my mother's side that I care about are those from my immediate family (mom, dad, bro), my grandmother, and my younger cousins, cause I get along with them well.
Anyway, what would you guys do if you were in my place?
10 responses
@mdgramisB (26)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
If was in that situation, I'd rather choose my friends than to go with my family. Because what's the use of my presence if they don't even feel me, it's just a waste of my time. Good if they like me because, I will really choose them and in fact, I will be the one to plan to meet up with them. But if I fell that they don't like me then, I'd rather choose my friends. Because I know that I am happy when I am with them, I enjoy their company and they enjoy my company too, so it's nice to be with them.
@jet2r0cks (190)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
This is exactly how I feel! My mom and other relatives think I'm so mean for not liking my cousins, but they're not treating me nice either! With my friends I always feel comfortable and I feel like I get enough attention, and that they care for me. My relatives won't even greet me on my birthday! I hate them so much _
@supperbig (11)
• Vietnam
20 Sep 10
Could you tell me how many friends you have? I'm sure your answer is more than 1. But you have only 1 family. So friends or family?
You could find a lot of friends but you couldn't find another family. The best friends are people who understand family is the most importantest.
Family is number 1, my friend.
@jet2r0cks (190)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
well, my immediate family (mom, dad, bro + grandma) is number 1 for me. However, I can't say the same for my other relatives. Some of them can be really mean and uninviting. They ignore me and make me feel so left out that I just gave up trying to get along with them. One time they pretended to want to get along with me, saying we should wear matching clothes during one family gathering. I didn't want to have a bad relationship with them forever so I went along with it. When I arrived, I noticed that they were wearing matching clothes, but it was different from the one we agreed on! I was so embarrassed and upset _
@kuro123qwer (33)
• India
19 Sep 10
decide honestly who you really want to go with
it wont hurt anyone
@jet2r0cks (190)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
sometimes it does though :( my boyfriend was really hurt the last time I chose family over him, because I always end up choosing to go with my family even though I made plans to go with him first _
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
well this never happens to me but in cases like this i would try to weigh things. Like who are the friends i'm meeting? do i see them often? What is the occasion with the family? does it not happen so often? Well if my dad would say it is important then i'd go with my family, but if it's not necessary for me to be there then i'd probably go with my friends. Well i know both parties will understand whichever i would pick because all my friends are close to my family.
@jet2r0cks (190)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Those are good things to consider, but I don't really have those options __
@etmahawanD (65)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
your situation is just like mine too., sometimes i will choose to go to my friends than going to my relatives because i rather treasure the relationship of friendship than my relatives, because as what you say the are just annoying, and plastic.,though not all relatives are annoying and plastic but still i dont like them.,
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Family first of course. My high school friends and my college friends know that I always prioritize my family. There were times that we also need to go out but suddenly my family had something, so I have to be there. My friends actually understands that anyway.
@zmluckyseven (541)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 10
if im in you place altough im not close to my relatives i will choose family because dont you realize all this time that care and always make you happy or be annoyed is family in all time in you life...friend who understanding you won't get mad that what i call bestfriend the person that always understanding me in every condition altough i always make my bestfriend wait for me but that's what i call real friend
