what do you think about friendships that had a rough gap before??
By genevy04
@genevy04 (793)
Philippines
September 19, 2010 8:45am CST
So yesterday, Friend A texted me and asked me to go to her house because she wanted me to help her reunite with our Friend B. They have had the gap for 4 months now, as more and more gossips have been build up concerning them..Friend A had the most contribution about the spreading gossips about our other friend, and they went to the extent of having it filed to our Barangay for hearings.. It was shameful and I know friend A realized it now, so she decided to admit her fault for that..
So I did went to them, and have them talk with about the problem.. The conversation went on smoothly and I was glad they were finally talking. In the end they were okay..
But I was thinking if a friendship once had a rough history, can they still be able to recover from it? I mean will their friendship will still be the same as before?
What do you think about it myLotters??
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3 responses
@shotgun647 (144)
• United States
19 Sep 10
Wow that's a tough question to answer. I guess it depends on how much the people value their friendship and how much they love each other. The more they do, the easier they will find it to forgive and forget. However, very few people actually forget, and that's where the problem is. The memory will remain there, and that will keep the friendship from ever being as nice as it was in the beginning.
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@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Hi there shotgun,
Well I just hope they would be easy on what has happened in the past, so that everything would go back to how it was before.. Though that friendship has just started this summer, I think 5 months, and then they had the gap for 4 months. So I can't really say they have ventured enough for that friendship..I am just happy enough that the war has been over now..
Oh well, I always hope for the best, and we'll see about that..
Thanks for responding shotgun..
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
hmmm...i wonder who are they? do i know them? i guess not!
well,anyways,they have been friends for such a short period of time and most of it was turned into rough times. but if the one wants to reunite and the one agrees,it is a nice thing to happen. but we can't say that they will still be friends who can trust each other full enough.
when damage has done,you can't change the fact that there will always be misunderstandings that will come. it also depends on them. but as i have observed in many situations like this,there will always have misunderstandings.
and once you have hurt a person's feelings,there will always have a wound on it,and that wound will left a mark which will remain as part of them.
however,it can be prevented if they do want to be friends and do anything to be in good terms with each other...
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Hi there annavi!
Nope you don't know them.. They are my daughter's classmate's moms.. And yes we have been friends for such a short time and it wasn't blissful at most times..Yes they have reunited, and it's a relief for me because I find it hard to mingle with them because they are both my friends..
Hmm.. well actually just today something happened again.. It's about an issue of the lost cellphone from the owner of our kids' school. Anyway I guess I won't elaborate anymore.. It's just that, the friend ( who was the one who texted me to help her) gave an statement about someone and was proven wrong.. So tomorrow I am planning to talk to her because there are things she said that I didn't like..
Why can't she just admit that she really said it when she was confronted by the one concerned? How can she say things that won't even help her, and in fact will only add up to her fault?
For me, If I was the "not so very nice" person, I won't be friends with her anymore..because I wouldn't want to give her any chance to do the same thing she did with my friend.. She is very good in making up stories and I don't like my friends to be like that..
But my friend gave her a chance, so,,so be it.. I'm just glad they're okay now.. But we still are cautious about being friends with her..
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
ooohhh...seems like this is the story you brought up in your other discussion huh?
well,i do hope for the better of your "friends".
i believe no one likes to have friends who loves to make up stories with...
it's just not right to live with full of lies or pretentions,is it?
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
hmmm...i wonder who are they? do i know them? i guess not!
well,anyways,they have been friends for such a short period of time and most of it was turned into rough times. but if the one wants to reunite and the one agrees,it is a nice thing to happen. but we can't say that they will still be friends who can trust each other full enough.
when damage has done,you can't change the fact that there will always be misunderstandings that will come. it also depends on them. but as i have observed in many situations like this,there will always have misunderstandings.
and once you have hurt a person's feelings,there will always have a wound on it,and that wound will left a mark which will remain as part of them.
however,it can be prevented if they do want to be friends and do anything to be in good terms with each other...
