how would you react if you found out that your sone already has a girlfriend?

I have 2 sons, grown up, happily married, having their family and kids, the marriages are arranged by us, the parents, neither me, nor hubby, nor my sons and daughter had any kind of love affairs.. so no chance of discovering what you say. thanks for this discussion.. kalyani

I dont have a son yet but I am kinda preparing myself about that. I dont exactly know how I would react but of course, that would be something alarming. I wouldnt tell my son not to do it but I have to guide him so that he will know what to do and not commit sin.

I think it would depend on how old he was. If he was 15 or older I think it would be okay as long as they knew what it was suitable to do with each other at what age- but if he was younger than 15 I don't think I'd be very happy with it, as he wouldn't be mature enough to cope with a relationship. It's only natural to worry about your children though, and it doesn't even stop when they reach adulthood! If anything, you worry about them even more when they're not in the family home for you to keep your eye on. You have to let him go, though. If he feels you don't approve of what he's doing, he will carry on doing it but just stop telling you about it, which obviously isn't good for either of you.

hello jenny1015! my eldest son had just turned 13 and i discovered that he already has a girlfriend. it felt kind of weird, knowing that but i didn't want to embarrass my son by acting horrified and all that. i just took it calmly and when i had the chance, i got him cornered alone and i asked him if he would introduce his gf to me. My son just smiled sheepishly and said "maybe". i didn't push the issue for i felt that if he's ready to do that, he will introduce his girl to me. anyway, i just reminded him of the responsibilities of going into relationships and if i can be of help in any way, to feel free to talk to me, anytime. i remember a friend who came to me, crying. when i asked her what's the matter with her, she said that her son already has a gf and she is afraid that he might be marrying soon. Her son was just 17 at that time. She was really sad and horrified that her baby had already a girlfriend. and i jokingly told her, that she must be thankful that her son has a girl, not a boy. it just shows that her son is indeed the junior that they're calling after his father.

My eldest son is only 14 years old and I'm lucky that he still dont want to be in a relationship. But if that will happen to my son I will surely not allow my son to have a girlfriend yet. I'll talk to him and explain why I'm doing this to him. I'm sure he will understand.

It would certainly bother me a lot if he gets a girlfriend at a very young age. But once he's at the right age, there's nothing I could do but to be there for him no matter what. Time passes by so quickly and it would come to a point that your baby once will turn an adult where he has to take care and take control of his personal life all on his own. If that happens, I will remind him that I am his mother and will always be his mother so everytime he will need me I can always be there...