Favoritism on my twin sisters

@mjeims (14)
Philippines
September 19, 2010 11:47am CST
Recently I just bought a cellphone and I was told to just give the old phone to my sister. Unfortunately for me they are twins and I only got one old phone. I tried my best to be fair, I even asked them to play a paper-rock-scissor game and to have the phone as a reward to the winner...but since they don't want to do it I just had to make a hard choice. I did weighed the why's and what's between the two of them but despite having knowing that the younger of the twins deserved the phone (my mom even says so) I gave to the older of the two telling them that "Let's just do this by who's older.". After doing that I felt guilty afterward since I saw my younger sister cry. It's not like I don't love the both of them, but sometimes I feel that I'm more inclined to spoil the older twin. If you were in my situation what could you have done?
5 responses
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
so,you are spoiling the older sister,is that? it's really hard to choose who to give the phone with. actually,i have a twin sister,but we are the eldest among four sisters.and if ever i have to let go of my old phone,it would be also my problem. who to give it,to my sister next to me or the youngest... actually,i was planning to buy new phone in the near future, and to give out my old phone was really hard to decide who to give it to.but then,i was thinking i could sell it to add the money to buy a new one instead. it is very hard who to give it to. but then since my other sister have a job,i would definitely give my phone to the younger one. but then,to tell you the truth,they both needs a cellphone now.so it;'s really hard to tell who to give it to. if i were in your shoe,i would definitely not give them both my phone to be fair.i would sell it instead and give the money to both my sisters instead.just to be fair.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
well,you have done the thing without thinking it first,didn't you? i just hope the other one won't be jealous or felt bad because of it.
@mjeims (14)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
That might have been the best course of action on my part as well.
• United States
19 Sep 10
That is hard because you have two sisters and only one phone. I would have waited until the time is right and tell them, you will give them a few weeks or so and see who deserves it (ex. if they get good grades, good test scores, helping out doing chores, etc) and then that person gets your phone. If you and your mom believed your younger sister deserves the phone then why did you go opposite?!
@mjeims (14)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
That's why I felt bad too. However every time that I thought that one of them is highly regarded than the other I cannot help but see that the older twin felt bad.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
i wouldn't have given the cellphone to either of them in the first place, in order to avoid anything that will cause hard feelings towards the other.... i would've just kept it or given it away to someone else to be really fair. that's what i'd do if that were me.
@mjeims (14)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
I've also thought about it but then I thought that they would also think bad of me when I give it out to another person rather than my siblings.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 10
Hi, If I were in this situation, I would not give my old handphone to both of them,instead I will just keep my old handphone for spare.It is because they are twins and if you were to give either one the handphone,another sister for sure will feel sad and unhappy and to avoid this situation happened,therefore, just keep old handphone to yourself. For twins,it is best to give each of them the same thing,at least, they feel fair and have the same equality.
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
I will give the cellphone to them. But I will tell them to use it on scheduled basis. Like today the older will used it and tomorrow the younger will use it. In this manner, they both have the phone. :)