I had so much fun! ^_^
By wiwa05
@wiwa05 (230)
Philippines
September 19, 2010 11:51am CST
I had so much fun tonight! It's been a long time since I had dinner with my friends. We had a lively conversation, making jokes, and sharing the latest news...
However, when we started talking about our plans in life, we all felt afraid to go separate ways for wherever we go to fulfill our dreams. It's like time is running so fast that we could barely catch it to make it slow so we could still be young and enjoy life as a single (in a relationship but not married), without a serious commitment to undergo yet. Soon, we will be in separate ways but I just hope to see them one day without changes of how we treat each other (as brothers and sisters). Hope nothing will ever change... : c
Have you felt this? Have you met some of your long lost friends again and felt that something has changed in your friendship? What did you mostly do?
9 responses
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
i always enjoy the company of my friends. they live far away from me now, so whenever we have a reunion, i always have a blast...and we always reminisce about our past lives together, living in the same apartment, going to the same school. we've been friends for years now, since first year in college. and now we're all working adults now and we have our own lives. some of us have married .... but yeah i hope things will always be great, no matter what happens, no matter what changes occur.. we cannot avoid change anyway... so i just cherish whatever we have, and whatever we've had.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
i think i've already come to that point over and over again , with different people...and the only option is to accept the reality of change, of life, of everything....sometimes i just have to let them go, but i'll keep the memories for as long as i live. ;)
@bisonpowers (26)
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19 Sep 10
I feel that most people will experience this; as we go through life we meet and make friends with more and more people. In turn it gets harder and harder to maintain these relationships as we would wish because we simply don't have enough time on our hand to maintain them all. I went from seeing school friends every day and night - then going to university and seeing school friends every summer but university friends during term time, then getting a job and seeing school friends perhaps twice a year and university friends a little bit more, then you get another job and by this point you can be in a serious relationship and have kids so there simply is not time.
Personally I don't have kids but still find it tough because of all my other interests. At the moment I live within a ten minute walk of most of my school friends but see them about twice a year apart from the one whom I do see more often. One people move away though it gets harder and harder because although we don't feel it we actually change a fair bit in one year and so do all of you friends, a group of five people that has not met for a year has five years worth of change in total so it can be noticeable when you finally meet and then of course the next time you meet it's ten years worth of change!!!!!!!
Hope this helps, it is possible to maintain relationships but take lot of time and effort and sadly often life gets in the way. The important thing is that you cherish the moments you are close and accept the flow of time and not to beat yourself up about the way things change or blame yourself for losing touch.
Best wishes!
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
20 Sep 10
As you all grow into a different stage in life, there will be changes. But with a little effort, you can maintain the friendships you have. You will still be able to go out for a nice dinner, but you may have to check husbands plans, or hire a babysitter.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
22 Sep 10
After going through many changes in life, I changed a lot and viewed my friends very differently. It did make me sad at first because i was attached to them, but i realize that those growths of mine are beautiful in it's own way. Eventually, i may meet someone new who will be in a similar stage with me and that would be another cherishing friendship.
@nalston1 (37)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Change is an inevitable part of life. Life is constantly evolving and relationships will too. Yes, I have noticed a difference after a long absence from each other, a good relationship will stand the test of time for the better. The memories from these relationships are strong, but will need to be enhanced. New memories bridge with the old and in turn the relationship becomes revived and more stable. When we meet we play catch up and talk about all the good things that have happened in our lives. (The bad stuff is for a later meeting). Sometimes relationships are revived through the exchange of contact information. The social websites have been a big help in re-connecting and maintaining friendships. Otherwise, we enjoy the moment and then continue on our life's journey and its relationships along the way.
@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Its normal, I think we all go through that stage but it doesn't really matter if what plans we have to as long as we keep in touch always consider the technology we have geez, its always great to know that somebody invented cellphone and internet ! In this way, our friends can be get in touch with no matter what or where life takes us, with this kind of technology I think we can still get along with friends and gather if our schedule is okay together then I don't find it such a lonely thing to think of. Smile !~
@johney264 (544)
• China
20 Sep 10
Yes I have experienced, together with friends some time can let you forgot time, that is a wonderful feeling. But I hate long time no see. because when some time resee I usual full of sorrow, every friend of me for the work or the career must apart and go their own path. how bitter the feeling.
@bisonpowers (26)
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19 Sep 10
I feel that most people will experience this; as we go through life we meet and make friends with more and more people. In turn it gets harder and harder to maintain these relationships as we would wish because we simply don't have enough time on our hand to maintain them all. I went from seeing school friends every day and night - then going to university and seeing school friends every summer but university friends during term time, then getting a job and seeing school friends perhaps twice a year and university friends a little bit more, then you get another job and by this point you can be in a serious relationship and have kids so there simply is not time.
Personally I don't have kids but still find it tough because of all my other interests. At the moment I live within a ten minute walk of most of my school friends but see them about twice a year apart from the one whom I do see more often. One people move away though it gets harder and harder because although we don't feel it we actually change a fair bit in one year and so do all of you friends, a group of five people that has not met for a year has five years worth of change in total so it can be noticeable when you finally meet and then of course the next time you meet it's ten years worth of change!!!!!!!
Hope this helps, it is possible to maintain relationships but take lot of time and effort and sadly often life gets in the way. The important thing is that you cherish the moments you are close and accept the flow of time and not to beat yourself up about the way things change or blame yourself for losing touch.
Best wishes!