What is seriously wrong with this man downstairs?
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
September 19, 2010 2:48pm CST
My kids and I was in the kitchen. I was checking on some chicken that I had cooking in the pot. My son and I was standing still and my daughter was standing right next to the kitchen table. My daughter must have moved the kitchen chair slightly and it ended up falling on the floor. We don't have a heavy kitchen chair. We only have a lightweight chair. The kitchen chair fell to the floor and as soon as it fell, my downstairs neighbor hit his ceiling really hard. The kitchen chair accidentally fell on my daughter causing her to cry. I don't appreciate this man hitting on his ceiling. His girlfriend recently had a baby boy. So if this baby is inside of this apartment while he is hitting his ceiling then he is scaring his own son. I am so sick and tired of dealing with this man. I can't even live in my own apartment without him always bumping his ceiling all of the time. Just because, he heard noise, that does not give him the right to hit his ceiling to get our attention. We are people just like he is. I am just fed up with him. I am tired of telling the manager about how he keeps on treating us. No one did anything wrong at all. He is truly a neighbor from Hell!
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16 responses
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
19 Sep 10
I wish that I could tell you that the situation was going to get any better but it probably won't. Have you tried talking to him one on one? I had a neighbor who was constantly complaining about our yard. I invited her out for lunch and at the end of the day, she was angry with the prior owners for putting bamboo in as a privacy hedge as it blocked her view of the mountains. I told her that we bought the house because we fell in love with the backyard but would compromise by trimming the bamboo that bordered their home to a level that would allow them to have the view that they wanted. We did so and became the best of friends. My point is that things aren't always about what they seem. If that doesn't work, the only way that you are going to have any peace is to move, I'm afraid to say. Good luck.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Sep 10
Hi. LaurenInLA. I have talked to this man. My husband has even talked to him. No matter what conversation that he has with him, he will still do the same thing over and over again. It is like he watches us while we are in our apartment. He agreed that our kids should be able to be normal kids. But he still will hit his ceiling very hard. It does not matter how much we talk to him, he will do the same thing again.
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
19 Sep 10
In this case, I'm afraid that you are going to have to get the landlord involved or consider moving. I know that's not what you want to hear but your peace of mind is worth the trouble.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Sep 10
You are right! My peace of mind is very important! As a matter of fact, my family and I plan to be moving out of this apartment some time this month anyway. I can't wait until it happens too. I have put up with this man for too long. He has to understand that this apartment is not a house. He will have to either deal with any noise or just move on out!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Sep 10
OMG! Is he paranoid or something?
If he has a baby in his apartment, can't he see what's happening? What's he doing?
I'm sorry you have to live like this. My neighbor also complain when my kids are a bit raucous, and jumping around. But it's because she has a dog, who's more sensitive than humans. And she is always nice about it letting us know, so we try to be careful too out of respect.
But if you have something like this neighbor of yours. Uggh!
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
20 Sep 10
This is surely a pretty bad way to treat your neighbors; and unfortunately we are also the victim of the neighbors' ill-behavior at times! It sucks a lot! As such, I understand you could do nothing on that occasion but these people simply won't understand your difficulties. It's sad! I learnt that man is a social being! And I suspect, we are gradually heading towards a society that does not have any respect for other humans. It's unfortunate but it is true.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Hi Cream,
This man sounds just crazy! Apartment living has it's ups and downs. Living in a downstairs apartment is handier and so much easier when you have kids. The downside is that the noises in the apartment above you are going to be amplified. It's life. You can't walk on eggshells. I'm sorry, Cream but you seem to be dealing with it a whole lot better than I would. If he was doing that to me, I would probably find a way to play back. Maybe I'd play Barnie at top volume. Or rock out to the Chipmunks. I know I'd suddenly get a whole lot clumsier. If he calls the cops ....Oh well, it is not against the law and eventually the cops will tire of being called out for such nonsense. And When I passed this man in the hall or out in the yard, I smile and say "Hey there! How's it going?". You have to be the neighbor from hell back.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
20 Sep 10
If that was happening to me, then I think that I would probably be tempted to put on the heaviest and loudest pair of shoes that I had and stomp around the apartment for a while, perhaps while I was vacuuming or dancing for exercise or something like that.
Of course, that probably is not the best approach to the situation and would mostly likely just cause more problems than anything, but it does sound tempting, doesn't it?
Of course, that probably is not the best approach to the situation and would mostly likely just cause more problems than anything, but it does sound tempting, doesn't it?1 person likes this
@susan1960 (8)
• United States
21 Sep 10
you know looking at all your discussion on this it really seems creepy. Is it possible to move? I know that would be a big inconvenience but he seems really obsessed with bothering you. And it seems like it might be escalating in the wrong direction. Just be careful.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Sep 10
hi cream oh my that man is a real jerk, right a neighbor from
hell. I do believe that there is not one mylotter here who has
lived in an upstairs apartment and had a chair go over. He is
just looking for a fight from what I can see. I dropped my shoes
mind you and they really did not make that much sound but our
own neighbor from hell started to bang on the ceiling again. My
son said when we moved out he hoped she had inhaled a lot of that
ceiling texture as is contains asbestos and maybe get a lung disease.
I just wished she had never moved in below us. our other neighbor was a really sweet lady about my own age and friendly too. 
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@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
20 Sep 10
He must spend his day listening for every little noise you all might make, thats stupid. Is there a way that you could get moved to a different apartment if theres one empty, somewhere away from him? It would be good if you could get moved, that way you won't have to put up with him all the time, I'd be scared to even walk around my apartment.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
19 Sep 10
Wow, I read your last discussion about this man before reading this one...what a total jerk he is! Some people are ridiculous and will react to any little noise that they feel invades their *space* but obviously he has not problem invading your peace and quiet.
@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Sep 10
Is this bumping he does definitely attributed to you folks? Maybe he is just noisy himself. Not? I think he is a mean hearted, ugly spirited man. Self centered and selfish.
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@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
20 Sep 10
I feel really badly for you. I don't have a neighbor from Hell like you. Sounds like the Building manager or landlord will do nothing for you about this individual. I guess the only way to get some peace and quiet is to move away from this person. Maybe he is one of those people that is cranky about everything and there is nothing you can do to change him.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I am so sorry about your annoying neighbor :( I wrote on your other post a few minutes ago. I can't believe you have to deal with this everyday. I hope he moves out!!
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
19 Sep 10
You know cream, I wonder if maybe all these things this guy has done is on the verge of harassment??? Have you kept a record of what he has done, including dates and times? If so, maybe look into seeing if you can file charges against this guy, because he obviously is not going to stop and he needs to know that apartment living does mean hearing disturbances occasionally from the neighbor.
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
19 Sep 10
This is awful! I know exactly how you feel! I had a neighbor years ago who did the same thing to me. It is so frustrating, makes it so you are afraid to move in your own home. Have you considered going to the manager and asking to be moved to another unit away from the man? I know it is a drastic step but it may make the manager realize how much this man is bothering you. If you get to move to another unit you will at least be rid of him! This is what I did about this man that was bothering me but I didn't end up moving at all, they moved out shortly after so I didn't have to move at all. I hope you find an answer for this problem. :)
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