How to get along with Mother-in-laws?

My mother and I get along, probably because she had a very involved mother in law herself. She remembered the tension and arguments. We have a code. When my mother in law is being too demanding etc....then I call her RUTH. Ruth is her mother in law.

Getting along with mother in laws is not that easy. Maybe because they had already a system that you cannot even suggest to change. But despite that you must try to understand why she acts this way. Learn to love your in laws in one way or another and one day you will be surprised. Pray because people cannot change but only God.

my fiance is the only child too and his mother act like she his wife i told her you go have to let go he is a grown man now he have him a family me and our 2 kids she didn't like the fact i told her that she called me rude and disrespectful but i was just speaking my mind and the truth and after i put her in her place she trying to be my bestest friend but i don't even fool with her like that.

I am assuming that you have only been married a short time. Some mothers have a really hard time letting go especially if its her only son. I too in my early years of marriage had problems with my mother-in-law and she had three sons. However, as time when by and she realized I was going to be around and that I was an extension of her family, she was more accepting. Just give her some time she will come around. I'm not saying that you must let her be mean, if that is the case, you must express your feelings to your husband and he should talk to mom. I think you will find she comes around on her own. There is nothing you can really do to help her accept you except to be nice, try to understand her feelings, try to show her that you consider her a part of your family and if things get too bad talk to hubby. By the way, my mother-in-law and I became very good friends, she has since passed away and I miss her every day!