Is he wierd or what?
By cream97
@cream97 (29086)
United States
September 19, 2010 7:08pm CST
My downstairs neighbor came to our apartment. I know what he came for. He just wants to complain about any noise that is coming from my apartment. Believe me it is not that much. He knows how things are going to be and he still won't leave us alone. I feel like I am killing myself trying to keep my kids as quiet as much as possible. My son and daughter stay fighting as brother and sister all day long. It is very stressful to have to deal with this as a mom. I am sure that you all can at least relate to me when I say, brother and sister that fights. They bicker and they tease each other almost all day long. Well, the guy came upstairs and he knocked at my front door. And guess what, he had his baby son in his arms. The baby is only a month old right now. He knocked on my door for at least three minutes with the baby in his arms. I know that his girlfriend is home in the apartment. Why would he waste his time walking all of the way upstairs with his baby just so that he could talk to us. I did not answer my door. I told my husband about him being at the door. We have talked and talked and talked and talked to this guy. He left us alone for about three months. Now, here he is again starting up the same mess like before! When I pass him on my way outside, he never speaks to me. And he acts so coldly towards me. I have gave up trying. I don't get him at all. He is very strange. I don't know if this guy is just trying to ruin me and my family or he just has some mental problems. I am tired of dealing with him. He leaves me very confused. He has been in and out of his apartment all day long just opening and slamming the door every minute. It is very tiresome. I think that he has some serious problems that he needs to deal with, seriously!
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11 responses
@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Hi Cream. Maybe he was trying to get you to see his baby so you would keep control over your children. He will see as time goes on that children are not as easy as he thinks. He will understand when his child is growing up and making the same kind of noises that all children make. As far as him slamming the door I would call the manager and get her to stay at your apartment and hear it for herself. Some people do have mental problems and can't help being a pain in the bottom. The only advice I can give you is to anoint your home and family and give all your problems to our FATHER in heaven and ask God to fix it. HE can fix the problems if you let HIM God is a great God and can handle more then anyone knows.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Sep 10
I think this guy is obcessed and has too much time on his hands. He does sound VERRRRY strange. You should have to keep your children quiet. I think kids should have house rules and never let kids run, jump or yell in the apartment. Kids need to learn from an early age to be considerate and not run roughshawed over the house. Some activities are for out side. You certainly don't seem like a mother that would let your kids act out overly so anyway. He acts cold toward you because he isn't getting his way. He is probably only with that gal because he does get his way. Men like that are pathetic and should be put up with. I would like to see her leave him. Make him have to get a job. Some people are just no good!!
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@john3l6 (187)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I have been on both ends of this problem. You both have the right to freedoms in your own home. As mentioned earlier ... at night the noise should at least ease up around 10pm. Some people maybe your downstairs neighbor do not sleep soundly or regularly because of other conditions. This makes you very cranky so there would be no reasoning with them in that state. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying that you have any responsibilities as to your neighbors mental or physical health. It just would be the nice if maybe you can get the kids out to play (away from the apartment) or try to save up a little money to take kids to the museum or zoo.
Of course there is always the waiting game to see who moves first. There is a problem still if you can't move and that is if the landlord again puts a person in who don't know about you the upstairs neighbor with kids the cycle will just repeat itself. Its not easy living in an apartment ... I wish God to guide you in finding a home with a yard so you and yours can live in peace.
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@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Hi, Cream.:)
I am feeling sorry to hear that you are having this kind of situation with your neighbors. I know how this thing could be really stressful...
I can relate to your dilemma as a mother for I also have kids who make noises non stop unless I tell them to stop.Kids are normally like that. My mother often told me that I should be glad they are making noises and are so naughty because it shows that they are well and healthy because once they stop being active, there must be something wrong about them.:)
However, your neighbor's case is quite unnatural.Knocking on your door with a baby in his arms is a clear picture of what he is trying to tell you.Maybe, your kids noises are disrupting the baby's sleep. Babies are so sensitive to everything even the slightest movement. This man wants you to tone down your voices upstairs. And since, you said your kids are doing the same thing everyday,he is thinking that you are ignoring his wishes. Banging and slamming his own door is a clear indication that he is giving you a dose of your own medicine.
He dislikes the noises upstairs and it seems to him that you are not doing about it so, he is giving you a noise and making sure that such noise will annoy you.
I am not there to hear all the noises your children are making but it seems that this is where the problem starts.
Have you tried talking to him and asking him what is his problem you upstairs? It is better to talk to him than living a life like that, dear. If he doesn't compromise and see things, ah, there must be something wrong with him, indeed.
Goodluck, Cream. I hope this will be settled soon.:)
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@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 10
I think he still do not understand that why children are like to make noises. He will definitely know it by himself when his baby grow up. I think he is the kind of person that cannot stand children shouting and fighting, but he have to bear with it within 1 year time when his baby grow up. I think at that time, your problem with him will be solve...
@ankster (273)
• India
20 Sep 10
He is wierd.You need not bother.Kids make noise and this any sensible person can undertsand that stopping kid all the time is not possible.If next time he knocks at your door just do not open.People like this may have bad intentions as well.So be cautious and lead your life peacefully without giving such people any importance.He will come to know automatically that you are not bothered about his nuicances and he will stop his silly ways..Dont worry enjoy with your kids
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Sep 10
hi cream so hes back at it again. I hope that new baby howls all night anbd he really cannot get any sleep,then maybe he will leave you
alone. I think his elevator does not go all the way up, he is really nutty. I would go to the manager again and tell him that this constant
banging is too too much.His behavior
is not that of a lucid man at all. shame he could not just up and move out.
is not that of a lucid man at all. shame he could not just up and move out.1 person likes this
@Toofancy (548)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Cream, I definitely would not open my door when he knocks. You don't know what he might do. People who live in apartments have to expect to hear their neighbors. Your kids are going to be kids....and they have every right to be able to bee "at home" when they are at home! Your neighbor needs to get a grip. If it were all hours of the night and you were keeping them awake, that would be one thing. But I think what your family doing is just normal, and he is being unreasonable to you about it. Have you talked to the manager about it? Maybe they could help.
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
20 Sep 10
If he has got mental problems he should be on medication. If my Uncle Joe hadn't been sectioned (on my Mum's request..his sister) then his paranoid schizophrenia would never have been diagnosed and he would not be lucid now on his meds where we can have a decent conversation with him. He is in a controlled environment (not a hospital) with others suffering similar mental health problems to himself.
So, due to me knowing a bit about this I would say that this guy you mention DOES have mental health issues. I'm not saying for a moment that he is a paranoid schizophrenic but, like I say, if he isn't on medication, perhaps he should be?
I'd really hate it for this guy to slip through the net as so many people with mental health issues do in this country if they have no family looking out for them.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 Sep 10
cream this guy is really nutty. Unless he moves on the top floor of any apartment building how does he expect there to be no absolute noise.
We have a young couple who lives upstairs to us. Not only is the couple really loud but they drop heavy things constantly on the floor and their baby is about 2 years old runs around even at 2am, with absolutely no respect for us below as tenants. We spoke to them once with a gentle warning but they obviously do not give two shicks as they do this everyday. It has not driven us to any form of madness but apparently this neighbor of your is out of control.
I do not blame you one bit for not opening the door as there is no telling what type of maddness he was truly caring, baby or not psychos are like that.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Hi there- You are not causing any disruption, having kids is normal. They are supposed to play with each other, make noise and basically BE KIDS! A disruption to neighbors would be having a party, having your music super loud or something but for crying out loud you have kids!! I do not have kids however my neighbors do and they scream out in the yard, play with squeaky toys, with their dog and etc. It does get annoying sometimes I have to admit but I am not going to go over there and tell them oh hey, keep your kids down I am trying to sleep. I understand if it is past 10PM then yeah MAYBE he can complain but if it is before or during the day forget it. He has some issues. You should really consider moving else where if you are renting because it may not be safe. He seems crazy to me!
Good luck.
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