No Friends?
By BrittneeD
@BrittneeD (350)
United States
September 20, 2010 11:26pm CST
Recently, well more like in the last year or so I have lost contact with almost all my friends. I am 19 and after I graduated high school I have stopped hanging out with them as much and I know this happens but the thing is none of us went to college we are all just still around town within ten minutes drive from each other.
I do see them almost every weekend but it just feels so wierd around them especially my 2 friends that are like best friends now.
I have had the same boyfriend for almost 3 years and after I graduated we got engaged and moved out together, we have to worry about bills and keeping food on the table while my friends still live at home and get to spend their money on themselves. They don't have the worries of adults yet and sometimes it really irratates me. Things have become so weird I wouldn't even consider them my friends anymore.
Has this ever happened to you? How did you feel? Did you get new friends that have more in common or try to patch things up? Do you have any suggestions on things I could do with my friends (on the cheap) that could help us reconnect?
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9 responses
@jypsyjulia (912)
• United States
22 Sep 10
I know just how you feel! I am 20 and when I graduated high school it was like I felt like I left the entire world behind me, it was so depressing. And then, I went off to college while my other friends dropped out of high school- so there was that same barrier you're experiencing too. I felt like I was maturing, so to speak, and they were kind of stuck in a rut. They had even said this themselves. Whatever you do, don't forget your friends. But making new ones can't hurt either. Maybe you should try making friends with a young married couple too.
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
22 Sep 10
Hmm that's not good. Is your boyfriend working or both of you are working? Regarding your friends, I think they probably come from more well-to-do families that's why they have the ability to spend money. I had the same situation too.
@pemulabanget (142)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 10
If you still stopped hanging out with other people, everything will became weird. but you had to still comunicate with your friend even by Short message or voice call of your handphone. had no friend will make you so depressed, just enjoy your live at every phase of your age.
@jeffreychan0910 (71)
• Hong Kong
22 Sep 10
Are you a passive person?
If you want to contact with your friends tightly, you should be active to date them..
Or you may spend too much time on your boyfriend, try to make a balance between boyfriend, friends and work.
@aarpees (149)
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21 Sep 10
it happens really, when you feel that indifferences override the friendship.
It's normal, it's a test of friendship.
Because if you are really friends, you will learn to accept, and you will learn to be habituated with it.
But for me,ive seen your friendship as something that pulls all of you back to stagnancy.
If you really care for each other, you would not tolerate such acts..but at the same time, you will not leave them hanging to stagnancy.but rather,you will help each other out.
that's real friendship
@slothgurl (569)
• Enumclaw, Washington
21 Sep 10
This is a normal part of growing up. Anytime you change jobs, move, get out of school, or change schools, your friends usually change too. Sometimes there are a few that stick around no matter what. I still live in the same small town that I grew up in. Sometimes in the grocery store, I run into old friends. Some will talk for a minute, others turn their head and pretend they didn't see me. It is kind of sad, because I miss some of them. But I realize our lives have gone in so many different directions, some of us don't have that much in common anymore. But new friends and neighbors have filled some of the gaps, and life goes on.
My family is on a tight budget so we take lunches to the park, or go window shopping downtown, or take drives to the woods and walk around. Just find things you like to do, and then you meet other people out doing the same thing! Good Luck
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
21 Sep 10
I think you must increse your friend circle.. because as you say that you have not contacted to your friend longer.. so i think now you again try to contact with your old friend.. from schooling.. and also you should make new friends.. can you make me your friend.. i am want to be your friend... because i think friendship is a relation in which 2 person are connected to each other.. and also it is a very good relation.. between two friends.. what do you say about this.. 
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
21 Sep 10
I can relate to you..
After high school, I became less social with my friends. I have been dating my boyfriend for the last three and half years - we do not live together however we both have bills to worry about together and we see each other practically every day. It is quite annoying to see how my friends rely on their parents but all well.. they will understand adult hood when they get older.. Some things I do with my friends a few times a month that do not involve much money is going to the beach, walking around the lake, movie night at a friends house, have a picnic/pot luck..
Good luck :)
