Going In Circles
By CatsandDogs
@CatsandDogs (13963)
United States
September 21, 2010 12:52am CST
HI my dearest friends!! I know some of you are wondering what happened to me since I haven't been on here in a while or much of anything as of late. There is SO damned much going on in my life that I don't have time to be on here. I feel like I'm going around and around in circles.... actually, I am. But I did want to let you all know that I haven't forgotten ANY of you!! Nor could I either!! Here's a run down on all that's going on.
My husband's cousin was killed a couple of weeks ago. He was riding his motorcycle and someone hit him and left so it was a hit and run. The cops held his body for evidence and just released it. The wake is tomorrow and the funeral is Wednesday. Hubby is making the trip up to his home town which is a 5 or 6 hour drive for both the wake and the funeral.
As you already know, a week ago today, my God daughter was raped by two men. The men are in jail awaiting trial which is suppose to be in October sometime. Now her mother and I had a falling out a few months prior and because of what happened to her daughter, our God daughter, we've made amends in a strange sort of way. In other words, we've put our anger with each other on the back burner for now. Hubby forgave her of the money ($275.) she owes us in order to help her daughter. Well, today I get a phone call from the mother saying that my God daughter wants to come and live with us. As of right now, I don't know what's going on or if she'll be coming up here to live with us or what because I haven't heard from them since that call. I might hear more from them tomorrow so we'll see how that goes. I do know that the kids in her school have turned against her and want to 'jump' her because some are friends with one of the guys that raped her. So she has a lot to deal with where she's at so maybe it'll be a good thing for her to come up here and live with us.... to get a fresh start.
My mom's health isn't good at all. She's starting to realize that she's on borrowed time and is very upset about it. She told dad that she isn't ready to leave this world yet because she doesn't want to leave her animals or family just yet. They're financially strapped to the T and between my two brothers and I, we're all doing our best to keep them afloat. Yes..., I did say my two brothers and I because they're helping too now and A LOT.
My middle brother is having trouble playing music now because of having MS so the band might fold once and for all. To fill in the blanks, they were playing anywhere between 5 and 7 days a week making good money but most of the clubs have changed their themes in order to bring in more business which left my two brothers without a steady income so they both had to find other jobs to make ends meet all the while still play music with the band all that they can which may come to an end.
There's a number of other things too but I won't get into because it may sound ridiculous but nerve wracking just the same.
Lord God, please lighten my load!! I'm about to lose my deg gone mind!!
So you see folks, I'm so overloaded and going in circles that I just don't have time to be on here but that doesn't mean I've forgotten any of you for I haven't and nor will I!! But I'd love to ask for your prayers because I sure need them right now!! I really do!! I hope and pray that all is well with each and every one of you!! Love and hugs to all of you!!
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15 responses
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
I'll be praying for you cats to God bless and guide you to handle things lightly that won't give you much stress. I think it's alright dealing with you parents problems but perhaps the one with your God daughter staying with you , I think it's not the proper time, since you have so many things to attend to but anyway if you think her stay won't add to your stress and worries, then it's okey. After all of these Cats , the sun will shine and give you smiles.
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@canaussie (221)
• Australia
21 Sep 10
Sending you my prayers and wish that you have the serenity and the wisdom to tackle your life's problem.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
23 Sep 10
Thanks! I'm doing better. I had two days all to myself to think and to try to reason things a bit so I'm feeling a bit better. Thanks a lot!
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
21 Sep 10
First of all, I am so glad that your brothers have stepped up. That has to take alot off of you. It seems that things just never do settle down for you though. I am guessing that your goddaughter cannot come there until court is over. I wish your husband a safe trip and will send prayers for the family.
Step back and take a breath. Good luck with it all. You know how to contact me if you want to talk.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Hi Thoroughrob.... sorry for being so late in answering! I guess I got a little ahead of myself with 'life' that I'm now trying to play catch up.... if I can. lol In any case, thanks for listening!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 10
I can see that you are being grounded by important matters happening in your real world. This is life and we need to divert our attention to our real world problems and to find better solutions, so the virtual world take the backstage. You just can't neglect your aging parents as they might not be around sooner or later. While mylot is definitely here to stay. I can now understand your MIA. Prayers are powerful tools when we have exhausted all possible means to ease our problems. I will remember you in my prayers.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Hi zandi. Sorry for being so late in answering! Life can be so unpredictable at times and during this time, it was so hectic. However, I want to thank you for being so understanding!! And thank you for the prayers!
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Hi jillhill.... right now things are calm but as they always say, the calm before the storm. Shhhhh!! I wipe that thought out of my mind this instant!! 
Oh my.... I certainly don't want to go there! Hope things are good with you!
Oh my.... I certainly don't want to go there! Hope things are good with you!
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
21 Sep 10
Oh, Hon, I know how you feel with not having much spare time to be on here much. And your life sounds like mine, swamped! Isn't it amazing how we somehow manage to cope with a handful of dilemmas sort them somehow, and deal appropriately. Us women are used to wearing 'many hats', aren't we?
Anyway, yes, I will ALWAYS send you my love, hugs and prayers in hopes all of these issues settle down and work themselves out in a positive way for all.
You DO have ALOT on your plate right now. So, please try to remember to take a few minutes each day, to just 'veg' and relax so you can keep your sanity.
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
21 Sep 10
Oh, and during those 'veg' times, just imagine that all of us on mylot are there with you, holding your hand, hugging you, because we love you so damn much!
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
22 Sep 10
I just said a prayer for you and yours. Would you say a prayer for me too. I have had a couple of nightmare drama filled days and nights. Its so unreal you would think it can't be true. Is not something I can go into here. I just want some simple peace, I hate drama so much. I don't personally have drama, its the ones around me and their drama affects me. So happy to hear that your brothers are helping out now, that is great news. Take care Cats, hugs to you too.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
14 Oct 10
I am so sorry for all you have going on
My Condolences to your Hubby and I hope all that went well
Your God Daughter needs to get away from there, it is not her fault but with the Kids carrying on how they are she will never get over this and feel frightened and insecure of herself
I really hope she is ok I know what she is going through and believe me she does not need the Nastiness on top of it all
Hugs to you
@GardenGerty (160611)
• United States
21 Sep 10
I did stop and pray for you right now, and will write you on my list for prayer as well. Just stop in here once in a while and give us an update, Okay? If you do not really have time to participate, you know that is okay. There is a real world outside of MyLot that continues. It sounds as if your god daughter needs you right now. Maybe in some ways she can also help you out as you help your parents. The economy is what it is, I am sorry it is affecting the work your brothers do, and that your brother is having progression in his MS symptoms. Please do some nice things for yourself, and know that you are doing the best that you can with what you have at this time.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
23 Sep 10
Thanks AmbiePam. You are right, it is a lot to deal with. They say God only gives what we can handle but like mother Theresa said, I wish He didn't trust me so much which is exactly how I feel too. I had a couple of days alone to get my thoughts together and it was really healing in a sense, if you know what I mean. I really needed it too.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Sep 10
hi catsanddogs wow I see you are getting that old adage it never rains but it pours. One bad thing after another can fell the strongest of
'us. My your husband's poor cousin the victim of a hit and run
person. Thats horrible. thathas to be the most cowardly act of
all to hit someone and just leave them there and try to save
your own worthless neck. hope they catch the person who hit him
and just ran away.this on top of your god daughter being raped
is just too much for one persocp,en to bear I am sure.I think its
great that your brothers have come around to help.Its sad to
think your mom's health is getting that bad. Cats you have
all my prayers sent your way that you and your family will
have some sunshine agaIn in your life and that God will
really lighten your load for sure. good luck andGod Bless.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Good morning cat, so sorry u have sooo much on u. I'm very sorry to hear about the cousin getting killed. Motorcycles are soo dangerous. I lost one of my so called adopted children from the very same thing a few years back. It is very devastating.
I mentioned to u earlier that i wished the girl would come stay w/y'all & get away from her mother & all the ugliness she has been through. I think that would be a good thing for her & you to have her there.
as for your mom & i don't want to make u mad but i think she likes drama. We are all on borrowed time from the day we are born. She needs to count her blessing & to chill out.
Prayer has been said for you & all your problems. hugs.
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@gdesjardin (1918)
• United States
21 Sep 10
I am so sorry for all the stress you are going through Cats. I was also sorry to here about your cousin. I am so scared of motorcycles, as they are so incredibly dangerous. I am glad that your god daughter might be coming to stay with you. I am sure she will welcome the change in her life and will be away from all the recent bad memories. My parents are in their 80s and they health is starting to go down hill. I can understand that kind of stress. I think the hardest thing with me is watching them slow down some in their older years. Their health is failing, their memory is starting to slip, sometimes I think it is harder on the children to watch. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs, Gerri
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
16 Oct 10
gdesjardin, I'm sorry for being so late in answering! You know the update so I won't bore you with the details. lol But still, I want to thank you for caring enough to comment and wish you the best! Hugs!
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
23 Sep 10
What kind of response is that? If you can't do better than that then please don't bother responding to any of my discussions anymore.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
22 Sep 10
It’s always great to hear from you Cats. You do have a lot going on right now! Condolences for the loss of your husband’s cousin, that is very sad news as is learning of your mum’s failing health. I will pray for you and your family. I hope your goddaughter will be okay; it does sound as though a fresh start may be what she needs as long as you can cope with another member of the family! Don’t forget to consider yourself in all this…Well as I said I will send you some prayers and I look forward to hear how you are doing in a while...
