best friends turned lovers, will it work?

if she/he is so worthy you must take any risk, do not go backward because your are so afraid for something not happened yet.. but if you want to listen my advice, keep away your feeling to him/her, it is better to have gf/by but he/she is not your bestfriend...

Hi dear, I had a detailed subject talk on the same issue few weeks back and many comments were raised on this topic. Either you can revise those from my earlier discussions so that other people’s comments also you can review. As this is your childhood friendship, you know the other person very well. Now you both are good friends and keeping a better relationship as well. You both are now grown up and become matured enough and know things better. I mean to say, the childish nature is gone and you need to show your maturity and this is the time you really is to be. This transition from childhood to a matured stage is the most dangerous time for everyone’s life. Our slender mind desire to be involved in many things which are new to us. A special feeling is getting emerged and we would like to share with the one who is close to us. Here you have your child hood friend to share such feelings. Naturally it happens and will progress slowly. Our desire and wishes pop up in the air and we will get more never experienced feelings though them. We in fact, really enjoy it. Sharing things, feelings, expressions, etc. But, this is a beginning of some exceptional relationship and the togetherness will make more precise and strong desires to make into reality. As you said, your relationship moves to some wrong path and you feel it will lead something more into action. Now you know and even I know what I am talking about. If you really don’t want to get into it, keep your friendship upto the level of friendship only and don’t rag the time for any ‘other things’, purposively. If the other party shows more interest, discourage him from that and you be in public I mean, if you both only somewhere, the chances of any misappropriation is there. If he find that you are ignoring and don’t like the friendship to something else, slowly he will realize that you are not interested and divert form his attempts. Otherwise, if you motivate, of course, he will come forward and it will lead to some unwanted scene. So, all are in your hand only. If you have a desire with your friend, it will happen and if you don’t want to be and wish to continue as a good friend hereafter, that also you can do. In short, everything is in your hand as you are a girl and now grown up. All the rest is left for you. If you want to get your friend as a good friend, treat him in such a way, or if you wish to exploit the chance of friendship to something else, you can do that also. Now all depend on as per your decision only. Best of luck and best regards, Thank-s

Some of the longest relationships begin as friendships. When the friendship turns to a romantic path, it has a head start om surviving. The bonds of love and friendship are already there. if the romance fades, the friendship ia atill something to cherish.

no..sometime the bestfriends become lover is good coz you know it its other and if some bad happen to both of you is just temporally and no get along time coz you both is know it its other alot more of time .

Then go for it but you should tell each other that even if it doesn't end well for you two, you'll still be best friends until the end. If your friendship is true and you're honest with each other, then there's no point in being afraid because you're comfortable with one another. It's better to try than not to try or you'll both regret it someday with the "what ifs". But it's still your decision. This is just my opinion.

You must be ready for the consequences you might encountered in the future,whether it is good or bad.however, its better to be true to your feelings.

Being best friends, in one way, is the best thing. You already know so much about each other. Also, you are probably great at talking with one another and knowing how to communicate. The tough part, and I suspect what you are concerned about, is the transition from close friends to closer romantic friends. Romantic love is different. If the transition into romance has come fairly natural for both of you, I think you will be in good shape. Just make sure one of you is not half-convinced, or faking it. I have also read that if the romance thing does not work out, you will need to apply some effort to go back to where you were before. Very important: make every effort not to hurt each other during the process. A significant hurt, that is hard to forgive, would be one reason that you would not be able to get back together.

I think it could be the start of an amazing relationship. Just because you are best friends doesnt mean if it didnt work out that you would loose that friendship. I dont think it ever hurts to try. If you love each other like best friends imagine how much love you could have for them as their lover and best friend. Good luck with whatever happens :)

Anything can happen. Why not give it a try? Probably the best cure for your worries is for both of you to be honest with yourselves. What ever negative effects will be settled for sure because you've known each other for so long, you're BEST OF FRIENDS, remember. You'll definitely understand each other.

very tough situation though no one has the right to condemn or forbid anyone from falling in love to the best friend. but there will always be consequences. i would not say do not go for it because that would make you unhappy. just weigh things and go for what will make you both happy and comfortable.

Well, if both of you really want to get together, go ahead. I encourage you. You have been best friends for so many years and I reckon each of you must have known each others' likes and dislikes already, and that both of you are too familiar with each other. All the more you should take note of the two words: for granted. The longer and the more you know the person, the more you take him/her for granted. There are no boundaries in love and love is for everyone. Is there any law that states that in order to be love, you cannot be best friends before that? LOL right? So, I think if you or the other party are ready to be loved or ready to love one another, by all means. Who knows if a flower will blossom between both of you and things work out successfully well for you?

it think it would work. knowing each other best is one of the keys to good relationships. it's pretty easy for me to say it because i'm not in your shoes but i think it's worth to take the risk. who knows, your friend could be having the same feelings as yours and just waiting for a perfect chance. it's worth a try than regret it in the end. good luck!

Hello Aarpees :) I can relate to you. I made this mistake of jumping into a affair with my best friend, Later after around a year or so I realised that I had made the biggest mistake. Though we had a great understanding and rapport, posesiveness and emotional blackmailing stepped in, Do's and don'ts crept in, and we started quarrelling over petty issues. Finally I felt like I had lost all my freedom and life had suddenly become hell. Then one fine day we decided to break off mutually and remain friends. but now the relation which existed initially between us before the affair cannot be revived again inspite of trying hard. This usually does not happen in all cases, some people are fortunate enough to find soul mates in their best friends while others are like me are unlucky to loose everything. I would definately advice you to weigh down the "pros and the Cons" before jumping to a decision. Who knows he might be the one for you. All the best to you :)

You can try this kind tricks of mine, I have the same problem as yours but I've tricked her that is why we are in our sweet realtionship now Aarpees. Try to ask her a situation like you have now, ask her about what is her reaction if the time comes that when her best friend fall inlove with her, if her opinion is positive and good to hear, then go for it, you don't have nothing to lose, it's better to love a best friend that strangers. like in a song "don't trust your feeling to a stranger". Do what you're good at in having your feelings work out!

Congratulate you two, at your situation is really not easy, or you will both break, in my opinion express you feeling is better, seize the moment is very impotent, such as go to see a film, brave yourself then tell to her your heart inside and ask her what the feeling about you was. Like a man do not fear.