Could you forgive your husband and mother?
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
September 21, 2010 9:55am CST
I was watching a movie about three women who are all dealing with their own personal crisis but the lean on each other through it all. There are a few situations that they deal with which I found interesting but there's one I am still unsure if I'm settled with how it was dealt with.
Let's say that your husband is determined to have kids, but you're not ready yet. You just made it to the top of your career plateau and you want enjoy it a bit. You also know that with this promotion there will be more responsibility put on your shoulders.
So your husband and your mother scheme together to ensure that you get pregnant. They tamper with your birth control pills, replacing them with placebos. You find out you are pregnant and that's when you find out what they did.
Could you easily forgive them? Could you understand why they did what they did?
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13 responses
@toaspromo (2)
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22 Sep 10
you can always do there is a sying that what comes arround, goes around if you plan to raised kids in the future there is law of karma think about it
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
22 Sep 10
I would forgitve them but I would resent it. If they could manipulate my life in this way, they might do it again at another point. That is utterly not showing respect.
@brean_rhea (176)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
i could definitely understand them...i may be angry for finding it out, but what they did is not a criminal thing....they just wanted an angel for you, and that's the baby they want you to bear...
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
22 Sep 10
I would NEVER forgive such a thing. That is just the lowest of the low and absolutely disgusting. It's degrading, insulting and underhanded to completely disregard your career goals in an effort to force you into some gender stereotypes wife-and-mother role. It's just plain wrong.
I personally will never have children and anyone close to me is well aware of that fact. No one would even dare do such a thing to me. My mother fully respects my decision to remain childfree and I would never so much as date a man who wanted me to give him children, much less allow him into my life or get married. My husband is just as against children as I am.
@shaggin (72184)
• United States
21 Sep 10
No way could I ever forgive them! That would be a horrible HUGE lie. That to me should be punishable by law. For them to tamper with someones medicine honestly probably is illegal. I am hoping the movie you watched was just fiction lol. I do not want any more kids. To have someone force you to purposefully get pregnant is beyond wrong. If your not ready for children then its the wrong time to have them no matter who wants you to have them!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
21 Sep 10
I could forgive them. I'd be a bit upset but I could forgive them. I'd let them know how I felt about them going behind my back though. I would still try to prosper in my career as best I could. Of course I am not the type of person to want to go up in a career chain, I am happy just being in the position I am hired on to be.
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
21 Sep 10
No, I couldn't forgive them. They have completely ignored my wishes in the matter and I am the one who has to carry the child for 9 months, give birth, and care for the child for 18 or more years. Having children is a very personal choice and if they couldn't respect my feelings then it is clear that they don't respect me.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 10
Hi,
For this kind of situation, I should forgive both my husband and
my mother. No matter what, being pregnant is a good news and as a woman,
I should not blame others.
I should be happy to be a mother and get myself ready for motherhood.
Of course, if you have a career,you can also have a child.
Since you still want to continue to work afetr giving birth, you can
consider to let your child taking care by your relatives or employ nanny
to help to take care of your child.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Sep 10
I suppose if a person was completely ready and accepting of a child at that time it could eventually be forgiven.
But it is a sense of betrayal one that I would honestly find difficult to easily forgive as then I have to wonder what else can they scheme thinking what is best for me or not.
Shouldn't I as a person have some say in what direction my life should go. hmmm
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
21 Sep 10
it's not a matter of forgieving them...after all a baby is a baby and it's yours, and as long as that baby is with the man you love I don't see the problem in it. seeing myself in this situation I would just accept it and try to raise my children as good as I can
