The wrong one gets the blame...................

I do lose my temper at times but I don't direct my anger at other people. I direct it at the surroundings, which is strange of me. So instead of people, I scold objects, LOL. Well, you have to control your anger a little bit and er, when you are about to scold other people close to you, prevent it from happening by directing your anger to objects instead. I think that'll stop your pain from pushing the blame to other people when they are not the ones doing it.

I am not very calm person and sometimes do scream on quite innocent persons, or as it happens, on right persons but at wrong time. Not often though.... It feels really bad later, but I don't about karma...

saphy, it happens, what to do. It is good to keep cool.Still sometimes we need to behave freaking stupid too if things go beyond limits.I don't take it out on someone close to me unless they cross the limits even after warnings.TATA

I do understand about what you feel. Well, what has been done is done. But, you sure can improve your future. You may learn some breathing techniques or meditations to help yourself calm down. That's because that kind of emotion will act on impulse (you follow it straight when you feel angry or something like that). So, try to stand still or be silent for a while until you find the way out. Good luck and I hope everything will be better over there.

Hi saphy, If the wrong one gets the blame there is little to fret but when it is otherway round it is difficult. It is difficult always to measure how much one deserves for one's action. This is the situation mainly that determines the course of action. Though not intended sometime the not deserving one becomes victim of your bad humor.

That's a part of life and more a psychological fact. When you are upset and angry, you want to take it out anyhow. If you wont, there are many chances of this having a bad impact on your health- sooner or later depends on what your present age is and how well your health is. I learned it from a doctor who was attending to my late grandfather after he had his first and only heart attack. This happens with almost everyone and personally I feel that the realization that you were wrong in taking it out on a wrong person, actually helps in making the relationship stronger. In my case, it has helped me make a stronger bond with my younger brother. It will take some time and after that you would realize this. Take Care. Sids

Hi. saphrina. Yes. I have gotten angry at an innocent person. It has happened many times before. The best thing that I always will try to do is to apologize to them. Hopefully, they will forgive you. And if they don't then it is there loss. It should not be any hard feelings since you have apologized to them and meant it.

I have been in a bad mood and taken it out on the wrong person and I too have felt so bad especially when that person is my daughter and she has to take the brunt of my grumpy mood. The best thing to do when that happens is to apologise and explain what really upset you. You’re only human and bound to make mistakes.

It happens to me as well.My wife is the one to get the lashings from me whatever happens at home whether its the kids fault or my parents fault.So I think its a common thing which should be overcome by our own self conscience.

You have been through a very rough time lately, that's just how I notice it. Anyway we all get to do crazy things when we are really angry and sometimes its unavoidable to lash out or pound all your anger to innocent people specially when they come in a pretty bad time. No matter what you do in the end you are still responsible for your actions because you cannot always say you don't mean it. Whenever you are angry and some innocent person just suddenly became annoying tell him/her to stop in a very calm way and just close your eyes and walk away. I was always the guy to take all the blame whenever my girlfriend gets pretty angry. When she is like that I just shut up and just let her breath for awhile but I wont ever leave her side because I want to let her know that no matter what I'm there for her. When she is a little calm thats when I start talking in the most gentle fashion and comfort her or sometimes I buy her ice cream just to make her smile a bit. Anyway enough of my stories just try to be clear of things whenever your angry and control yourself because as you notice whenever your angry you get to pound on innocent people. I again offer you my box. You can pound every blame on me I will understand and thats the least I could do for being your friend Smile Saph! It's not the end of the world yet

For me yes because the wrong is not correct that's why they blame so that they might get you good and you are not wrong.

I know your feeling exactly and my sentiments to you. As my live in boyfriend gets all my rafts and the dear that he is just takes it and it makes me feel worse. The good thing about this is that we recognize it is not the correct thing to do and well we have to try really hard not to continue to do so, as many people get tired of our behavior and we perhaps may lose a dear friend in the process..

Sometimes emotions just overtake us. Well, cool down and do some apologizing if necessary. Mostly I was the one at the receiving end and I would cry out the unfairness of it all but that coming from close ones, I would just forgive them. I hope your someone will do that too. All the best....

I've done this, and had it happen to me too. Just let some dust settle.....

I know that the roomie sometimes gets the temper I don't want to target at Maggie, she just drives me crazy sometimes!!!

Hmm.. Keep your cool, Saphy. Regrets are always found on the last part so chilling sometimes takes a while. LOL. But judging you , saphy. You are waaaaaaaaay better than those people. I get that a lot. Like being blamed that I didn't do. I hate it though sometimes it's hard for me to take off the frustration but in the end, I know I can get a good night sleep because I know I didn't do anything wrong. Let God be their judge. Let's see who gets slap by His lightning. LOL

Don't be too hard on yourself. I have done the very same thing & felt like a dirty dog afterwards. Maybe whoever u lashed out will understand when u apologize to them. I really never blamed anyone else when i did that.

Hi Saphy - it is not the fault of karma. LOL. Frankly, I am inclined to be slow in reactions. :) Take a long time to get really really mad. :) When I am mad, nobody can really undo it - perhaps till I cool down. :) May be - I might view things wrongly in that "mad phase". But to the best of my knowledge and belief, I give everybody a fair chance, and try not to be prejudiced in my view. This is the reason I never carry the guilt of having blamed Peter for Pan's mistakes. :) Of course, others my hold a different opinion.

Good evening dear Saphrina , well to be completely honest , it had been already happenned to me too to descharge myself on someone i care and loove , or simply on a friend whom havent done absolutely nothing to me , simply because there was someone either at work either in the entourage whom said or done resomething that was rude or untruth , and i should of actually deal with these persons whom dont seem to have enough education that i should say what i had to say , so i cann evoid doing something or saying something stupid to persons i care about. Have a great evening dear friend Florin