Better without you!
By bounce58
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
September 21, 2010 11:07pm CST
I think I mentioned a few times here in myLot that I collect farewell emails from people leaving the company where I work at. There was a recent addition to my collection, so I again sifted through most of the good ones that I have to date.
There is a common theme with most of them, which is to wish the company success.
If it were you leaving, and you have already decided that you are moving on to better things, would you want to see the company behind to be successful? To know that you were not good enough? That they were better off without you? That they found somebody better than you?
Will you be a sour grape?
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11 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 Sep 10
If I were let go because after all these years they didn't want to pay me and they see me as a liability when I am not , I would say a Plague on their house! But if I am the one who found a better paying job and it was my idea to leave, I would genuinely wish them luck.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Sep 10
The best way is to make sure your replacement knows Far less than you Ever knew! So when you leave , they are at a lost. Let's face it , give me a situation and I will find the Perfect revenge! Be careful of me . I Need that shirt that says Warning I go from nice to B!tch in six seconds.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
27 Sep 10
OK, so, how do I get a plague on their house again? I'm not wishing this yet where I work at, but I may, if I find a better opportunity somewhere.
Sometimes working conditions here where I am push me into getting the idea of working somewhere else.
In the meantime, I hang on.
Thanks Sarah.
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@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
Of the many companies I've worked with, I never looked back to see what happened after I left. If ever those companies improved without me, good for them. It could mean a lot of things, and that they were better off without me is just one of them. Of course, I accept that there are a lot of people there that are better than me. It's just a fact that people are not indispensable in a company, as other people might think. There would always be someone who will fill the void you left, and that someone could be better, could be worse. But, since I've left the company already, I couldn't care less. My farewell mails mostly say that I'm thankful that they gave me an opportunity to work with them, and that whatever skills I've learned from them, I would be able to use to wherever I would go next.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Sep 10
I guess that's the correct attitude. That as you go, you are always looking to improve yourself and your situation, and thus need not look back. And you're right that if they do get successful, your leaving could just be one factor that might not even have any impact.
I would have loved to get one of your farewell emails to add to my collection.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
29 Dec 10
Thanks for the vote! My farewell letters were all traditionally sent/given to my bosses, so I don't think I'd find a farewell e-mail in my mails. I'll try to locate in my files if I still have soft copies of my farewell mails. (Actually, I really need to find one because I'm planning of leaving my company soon, as soon as my next employer gives me a go signal). Thanks!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Bounce! ~
People Just Say that because it's general, it's the proper thing to say. They want to suck up that last time before leaving the company and by sucking up they hope if they strike out somewhere else they'll be welcomed back at your company.
I would only be a sour grape if I did something stupid and accepted a lower pay because I thought the job I was going to would be easier!
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
29 Sep 10
You are right about 'sucking up' one last time. People have gone and come back in this company where I work at. I guess it's a 'lifeline' if they find that wherever they are going does not work out, then they could always come back knowing that they left in good terms.
Thanks.
@RangaGirl (103)
• Australia
22 Sep 10
Interesting way of looking at it, bounce! I don't think a company's success or failure could be dependant on me (or any one person) so, yes, I could leave and wish them well. That is providing I CHOSE to leave. If I left my current employer, it would be because THEY didn't meet MY expectations and I thought my talents would fit better in a different, more forward-thinking company. I'd still hope they'd adopt some new approaches and succeed. If they didn't, all the hard work I did there was for nothing. Of course, if I was sacked, sour grapes would definitely be involved.
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@abitosunshine (765)
• United States
23 Sep 10
If it were my choice to leave the workplace, moving on to, hopefully bigger and better things, I would surely wish the business and my soon-to-be ex-coworkers well. However, if I were leaving on negative terms, I might not wish the business well or any co-workers I didn't care about for whatever reason.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
22 Sep 10
To be honest whenever I left a place of employment it never occurred to me to care how it was going without me! Whenever I have changed jobs it has been to do something better for myself so I haven’t given the place I left a second thought especially if I was not treated well while I worked there.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
28 Sep 10
It's like that story about Sodom and Gomorrah when they were being destroyed. That people leaving the cities dare not look back, because they were going to be turned into stone, if they did.
In the same analogy, we should not look back at our past employeres even if they are being run to the ground.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
23 Sep 10
I wouldn't mind because if I were leaving it might be because it just wasn't the job for me. I might have been terrible at it but not because I am terrible at everything..lol...Now that is provided I wasn't upset about the way I was treated there..then I might be a sour grape
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Sep 10
I've only left a couple of jobs in my life to move on to things that are better than where I had been in the past and in those situations I didn't really leave a nice note for the company to be successful because I felt to a certain extent that they weren't fair to their employees. That said, the last job that I left was only because I was going to have a new baby to take care of and I did wish them the best of luck because I didn't really want to leave, but I also couldn't afford to pay daycare for two children so that I could continue to work.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
29 Sep 10
Come to think of it, I did have a job where I felt they weren't fair to the employees. It was one of those 'survival jobs' I took in the past, just to pay off bills. I didn't leave any note or email when I left, and I was so happy to leave that place that I never looked back.
Thanks dorann.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
22 Sep 10
Of the few companies I left behind, I have never really looked back. I always wish a company well, especially if I left dear co-workers behind that the company continue to succeed. However, I have never looked back. I suppose if I left it was with good reason and or perhaps better opportunities.
Something I suppose I practice with life I do not go backward in life, not being cruel in anyway. Also I have always had to work very far distances from my home to if I no longer work there I do not choose to opt for the long drive.
I suppose I could pick up the phone every now again, for some reason I have never actually looked back.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
28 Sep 10
In my case, I've actually picked up a phone and called a previous employer. I left that company and joined their customer, so now I call them once in a while being our supplier.
I do ask around to know how the other guys are doing. But maybe I should move on like you do/did, and not look back.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
22 Sep 10
Better things for that particular employee may not be better for everyone in the company. Sometimes it could be a mismatch of job and the employee is just moving onto something that is more suitable.
I think it is nice to do that as there is a feeling of friendliness. If that person is fired, then that's another story.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
28 Sep 10
I could certainly understand being friendly and all, even if you are leaving. But I look at it from my point of view too! If I thought that my talents were not put into good use, or I was not compensated well, then I would always have negative feelings about the company I just left.
Thanks bluemoonpavillion.