why we must listen?
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
Indonesia
September 22, 2010 2:15am CST
I didn't know how much important is to be a good listener to other people. All I know is when we have friend spoken to us with serious topic or someone who is our leader in an office told us to do these and that, so we have to listen to. How if we are not good at listening? what will happen afterward? I don't mind being told that you are not a good listener but why would I have to, and what is the goodness being a good listener. Has anyone imagined if no one would listen to others? I said I am a good listener, but I think I don't have to be involved in action reacting to listening. Sometime, I didn't listen, but I did and followed in which I think that have to do it. The core is listening competency and then we are making judgment to what we are listening. A good listener is not someone who would listen to other but the ability to make a good and wise judgment to what we listen.
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14 responses
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
24 Sep 10
To be a good listener is being polite. One never knows, you might learn something. However, you are correct when you indicated that some things are not worth our time to listening to. In that case, you should not even pretend to listen.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
..i don't really get the point but i agree that being a good listener does not only mean that everything ends in listening to what other people say...making a good and wise judgment is the key...it isn't really necessary that you take actions to what you've heard..although there are those cases that really requires your reaction to show that you understand and that you are indeed listening by responding to the emotion of the other people...one concrete example is when someone tells you about his/her sad experience, being a good listener does not only listen and then nothing but rather give necessary reaction to respond to other peoples emotion...giving empathy is one of it...
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
23 Sep 10
To become a good listener, we must be very patient and generous. It's difficult. If we don't realize the benefit from listening, we can't do it.
@for1ever1 (18)
• China
23 Sep 10
Yes, I agree with your opinion. We'll easily get exhausted or mad if we are to be a good listener to listen all what we can hear. Anyway, we have to cultivate the ability of distinguishing the content we should listen to from what we are spoken to by others. Just like what you said, we should make a wise judgment before we decide to listen carefully, to save our energy and spend it on what we have to listen to.
@winstonbaltazar (355)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
If you are a good listener, people will love you, cause you always listen very carefully on what they are telling about you, you are showing them importance by listening carefully to them. Also if you are a good listener especially at work, you will not get lost on what your boss is telling you.
@cynthia2010 (35)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
Why we must listen? The ability and need to communicate touches every area of our lives. Everything we do in life requires communication with others. Just try not to communicate with your children,wife/husband or other people at home and see what happens.Refuse to communicate in your personal relationship and see what kind of interesting results you create and asked yourself what it feels when someone does not listen to you.It feels so good when somebody listens to you especially problem
comes. Its a nice feelings when someone listened to your problems.Its a big help at the same time its a learning lesson.
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 10
I think you have already answered the question. Imagine that if nobody would like to listen to you, then nobody will understand you. It's plain simple. We listen to people because we also want people to listen to us.
In my case, I will only listen to someone if they ask me to listen to them. If not, means I've got no business what so ever, so I just leave. So, my only reason to listen to someone is to help them in any way, again if they ask me.
If that's too much, you may keep silent and answer yes or no, that will also do.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
22 Sep 10
Absolutely right! Your last statement speaks well. Listening also opens doors of knowledge and opportunities. Perhaps listening could also save our lives.
@rastogisw (445)
• India
22 Sep 10
NOrmally I am good listener but it happens when I also want to say or tell something but the person does not stop speaking then have to cut there talk and then tell them ...though good listener can only judge how is the other person or what they want to express ...or judge on that basis.
@kimkim888 (145)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
its a big help you u listen to someone. Not just helping them , you can also garner new life experiences....=)
@BOROTOTOY (58)
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22 Sep 10
we listen to learn to know something and to earn respect. next the other person will listen to you as you listen to him when it was his chance to speak up. it is a give and take realtionship. its a bond, betwen speaker and listener.
@glitterwings (144)
• United States
22 Sep 10
It is important to be a good listener so you can understand where other people are coming from. The only good conversation is one that goes two ways, and that requires listening.
@zmluckyseven (541)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 10
i think to be listener is good because when people talk to you and you dont hear it ,the people will disapointted then he/she dont want to talk to you,just imagine if you are talking to people for so long then the people dont hear you at much,it's only my opinion
@chrixopher75 (53)
• United States
22 Sep 10
Most of the time, a good listener is someone who can siply justy keep their mouth shut when they need to. My whole life I've been called a good listener because when people talk to me about life or their problems, I just quietly sit and hear what they have to say. Not just hearing sounds come out of their mouth but legitimately processing what they are saying and forming opinions so that when, and only when, they ask for my opinion I can give them advice that they'll want to take because they can tell I've actually paid attention to them.
As humans, we love to talk about ourselves so when no one is on the receiving end of our dicussions, it's not fun. It's like being interrupted by ignorance. Being a good listener isn't necessary for survival, in the strict definition of the word, but only good listeners are successful in life and in relationships.
