What do you do when others measure your worth by the way you look?

Guyana
September 22, 2010 8:38am CST
You are not pretty/handsome enough! How many of you have heard this? I was looking at the Tyra Banks show last week and it broke my heart to see how many young ladies were measuring their self worth by how many guys were into them and what others thought of them. I dont know why this was not something I had to deal with much as a child. There were some of those moments but I think its because I had a lot of love and attention in my early childhood that what narrow minded people had to say in my teens never bothered me. Maybe what worked in my favor too was the fact that they weren't that many and my parents always thought me that it was education that was important not looks. I still believe that, even though I get a lot of attention and there are a multitude of people waiting to tell me how pretty I am. I am always upset because most people dont stop long enough to see beyond my outward look to how brilliant I am. I had nothing much to do with the way I look, I am beautiful because that is one of the things God chose to bless me with. So how about you? Have you ever thought you weren't pretty enough or smart enough? Do you measure your self worth by what others say/think of you?
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@nicajoice (188)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
To be honest, I WAS very conscious of what other people think about me. I WAS an insecure girl a few years back. Even to this day, I'm battling self-pity and my sometimes very low self-esteem. But, having developed a more intimate relationship with the Lord, I have realized that God loves me so much no matter what I look or what I do. I believe He has gifted me with so many things that only I possess. I believe that I have talents and skills that others don't have in the same way that they have gifts that I don't have. These days, I try to love and appreciate myself more than I did before. I am also thankful to my family and friends for never failing to appreciate and love my uniqueness. When I look at the mirror, I see God's creation. I may not be the most beautiful woman in the world, but I know I am in God's eye.
• Guyana
22 Sep 10
Right on sister. You are indeed wonderful in God's eyes. Even in the way you look there is purpose. I am glad that you have managed to make your way past those insecurities. I believe that insecurities are the devils way of keeping us from walking in victory. If he can keep you eyes on your failings then you miss seeing the prize before you. Keep on shining and keep believing. i honestly believe that when you believe in yourself the world does too and they believe you. Have you ever seen someone and thought she is not really beautiful but...there is just something there... Well I believe that something is usually confidence or a comfortableness in your own skin. your true beauty is in how you see yourself. No one can take that from you.