what would you do if your boyfriend's mom disapprove of you?

Well that is really hard.. but I just think you shouldnt let him choose..coz for all we know we can only have one parents.. and his love for you and his mom is totally different and cannot be compared.. Well I think if your future mother in law doesnt like you..you should really try your best to please her..like for example cleaning the house really well.. and even though you dont like everytime you have to change the position of your stuff in the house..you should ask her where she want it to be..and when your cooking you should always ask what she like and dont let her wash the dish... always go for what she like even though you dont want it..atleast your bf mom will think that you dont wanna change everything.. And if it still doesnt work.. that is the time to talk to her..and tell everything that you are thinking..and say that you are willing to change whatever she doesnt like.. and most importantly tell THEM YOUR PREGNANT.. well i wish you all the best..hope everyhting will be fine

A pleasant day to you Jade14, With reference to your main topic, I remember those years when I was in the same boat. Wherein, we (me & boyfriend) truly love each other. As in, we can really move mountains in the love that we have had. But, when I've met his mom, I dont know what to do. After I met his mom, I feel so annoyed and pressured. Annoyed in the sense, that, she was indirectly saying that I am not the right partner to her son. And that, if I am the right one, she told me that her son, was not yet ready to settle into a married life. Aside from that, she was saying a lot of negative words indirectly. Just to wreck our relationship. Time, days, months are turning, our relationship slowly wrecking because of the attitude of his mom. I wont lay it down here due to a long story. Until one day, I asked myself, if I can live with this situation. Or if my boyfriend can defend me from his mom. The hearthbreaking part of it was, he dont know what to say. For this reason, I need to be strong and decide as early as I can. And the decision I have had was, a break-up with him. Though I love him very much, I need to stand on to my decision. And that, he even not able to defend me towards his mom. On your situation, since you are pregnant, I think, you should inform your boyfriend because he is the father of that child. However, still be strong for you do not know what is on their mind. That, maybe, for a period, they will be kind to you. But, giving the benefit of a doubt, perhaps, try to give them a chance for the sake that you will be soon a mother. Be strong and take courage for yourself and for your coming baby. For that child will be a blessing for you.

Hello Jade, if I were in your situation, I will leave the guy permanently because this guy cannot even defend you with his mom. Looking at it, he wont be a good husband to you in the future. He listens to your mom and doesnt even bother to see your side right? If i were you i will just demand a support from him but will never live with him ever. If he really loves you, he will contact you in anyway or just make some alternative just to be with you. This guy dont have a balls and he is not totally worth it for you. My partner's mom also hates me because she wants him to have a rich girlfriend, well sorry for her because im not rich and his son loves me. We have a child and they told him to leave me because the child was not really his own, it hurts a lot and I leave my partner because of it. But he chooses me, I guess i am lucky because he choose to stay by my side and our baby than listening to his mother. Be strong, your baby will need a mom but not necesarily a father, if the baby comes out, all your burden and sadness will be wipe off.

My boyfriend's mother is always ironic towards me and acts like we live in an old village. I don't like his family much...actually, it's their way of thinking I don't like. But I try to treat them as they treat me. I am always myself around them and don't try to make a good impression. I do what I want and I can always back it up. My boyfriend is "mommy's boy" and that annoys me a lot, that's why I chose for us to stay with my family for awhile and get our own place in a few months. My family is behaving perfectly towards us and the problems are practically solved. I only occasionally have to put up with his parents' nagging and criticism so it doesn't bother me now. I suggest you live with your family, not his. And get your own place as soon as possible. It's even better to have roommates (friends, classmates, etc) than his family. Good luck.

i think u must stay away from ur boyfriend and try to realise him that he must be ve some sense to understand how much u love him and moreover if he really loves u he won't go with mom n if he don,t then let him go as he never loves u in future

A difficult situation but so normal. Also i have lived various experinces of this type and can still define myself a boy. The conditioning of who it loves to us is normal but in my opinion you must estimate the advantages and the disvantages. Be strong and explain your reasons. A relationship is lived by two people, not one. Have a nice day

That can be rough. It really puts your boyfriend in a hard situation. If the shoe were on the other foot, and your parent didn't like your boyfriend, try seeing it from that point of view. Hopefully things will smooth over. I'd try and make the best of the situation. Making him choose doesn't always turn out well.I know it can be hard..good luck

I am not sure why you would have been living with your boyfriend and his mom in the first place. How old is he, and why is he still living with his mom? I know that this is going to be difficult to hear, but if he really loved you, then he would have never chosen his mom over you, in my opinion. He might not have given up his relationship with his mom, and you really couldn't expect him to, but he would have at least tried to move out and have a relationship with you. That way, he could still visit his mom and have a relationship with her, but it wouldn't put a strain on the relationship between the two of you, especially since I read in a previous response that you said that he knows that you are pregnant. It sounds like he is not ready for a relationship, and he definitely is not ready to be a father.

I would try to finsd something in common with her. It can be very awkward to have a boyfriend and have to tip toe around his mother's feelings all of the time. i would try to find a way to share something with her. In time, i think her attitude would change.

This is a really tough situation. If I were you, I just let him know that I'm pregnant and he is going to be a father soon. Just want to let him know. Give him time to think of the situation. Wait for his response. I will stay with my family and continue my life as a mother. He will ask for another chance because he loves me, not because I'm pregnant. But still would give it a try for a second chance.

Before you left the house did you and your boyfriend talk? Did you clarify things ..issues such as siding on his mom, that you feel bad about the status you are in ...everything about your relationship? Tell him that your pregnant and asked him if he's ready. State your feeling this time with his mom. If you need to be there again, plan and ready. It's worth to try again for your baby. Yet if your boyfriend seem irresponsible to take care of you and your baby, don't push it. It's better to be alone than with someone who doesn't care for you and your baby. believe me its going to be hell if you push it.

ohh.....if the moms of my boyfriend will dis approve me ,,,,, she has nothing to do cause her son loves me and i do love her son too.,......

My dear friend, I know and i understand your situation very well because we are both girls and im your friend.since the very start i dont like your relationship with him because he is very young and since i know him as well i dont like him for you really because he is still too young to take decisions in life as you said he just listens to his mother.I was surprised when you called me at the hotel telling me you are already on but as a friend i didnt want to disagree on you but wish for the happiness since i felt that you were so happy being with him but the moment you open up your situation to me i was not surprised because i knew it that you will encounter these kinds of problem with him.But what i didnt expected is you being pregnant again because its very hard we have the same situation and i just hope you will be brave facing the future with your baby. GOODLUCK MY FRIEND!