i cant take it anymore

You have your work cut out, that's for sure! Try the reward system! Give him a reward when he pleases you, and see if that will bring him around. Take something he likes away when he displeases. Try not to make too many rules (for him to break) and try to be friends with him. Try reading a story from a storybook with pictures. Show him the pictures and explain what they are. You are right about not giving in, no matter what. If you ever did he would be completely out of your control. Try to have fun with him as much as you can, get on his good side and see if things get better. You are doing many things that are right! hang in there and keep trying to bring him around to your way of thinking. I feel that you will get the upper hand eventually! I hope this helps! You need all the help you can get! Good luck and lots of Love!

Has your son been tested for ADD or ADHD? I hate to say this, but it really does sound like he has ADD or ADHD, and if you don't get it treated, it could ruin his life. It's not just you he's hurting, he's hurting himself. I have a nephew, and a few friends who have ADHD, and they only thing that you can do is medicate them and get them some help. This is not going to go away.

I am a primary school teacher and I am the parent of three children. I suggest that you try to catch your son being good and then praise him. Try to ignore any bad behavior unless it is dangerous then it must be stopped straight away. Instead of shouting it is better to use different tones of voice for maximum affect. Sometimes whispering makes a child listen carefully and hang onto every word. You could have picture timetables so your son knows what will happen next. You need to use positive language like if your son throws something you could ask him to put his hands in his lap. It is not good to use words like 'no' or 'don't'. You need to set him some tasks where he will be successful and get some praise. Due to your son's short attention span he will need frequently changed activities. Remember with the slightest amount of good behavior you give your son praise. I saw a poster called one hundred words and sentences to praise your child. If you try some catch him being good and praise comes to him you will have an uphill walk to getting a bright smile.

In a situation like this, I find that the best thing to do with my daughter is to try to treat her like an equal. She is going to be eight years old in December and while she doesn't have attention problems, she is a very gifted child and that in and of itself has a lot of challenges. There are times that she will deliberately not listen to me because what I'm saying is on the wrong level for her. That said, she reacts a lot better when I talk to her as an equal as opposed to talking down to her like she is a child.

The mother of the kids I have in charge (I'm a part-time teacher for kids with mild learning problems) has the same issue with her seven years old son. If your family doctor said that she can't do anything unless the school said something, then you only have to go and talk with the teachers, and try to figure out the way your son is behaving at school. Tell them your problems and confront with them, and I'm sure you'll find a solution together. If the school accepts to help you (and I'm sure they will, since it's their work to help you to raise your children), then you'll have more possibilities to contact your doctor again and decide together what to do to help your son. The mother of my pupil talked with the teachers, and they decided to look for a good psychologist specialized with kids. The boy just started to see that psychologist, but he already helped him a lot. He's much more calm, he listens what we are telling him and whines a lot more over little things.

Are his behaviors affecting his school work? Is he only acting out at home? I know that no parent wants to put their child on medication, and the potential stigma of having to. Talk with the doctors, his pediatrician and possibly a psychiatrist. Get input from teachers and the school counselor or social worker. There are some cases, when you have tried everything, that medication can be at least a temporary solution, until you can build in the necessary supports of a behavior management plan. I have a student who has such severe behaviors that he has to earn each and every, everything both at home and at school. His inattention and hyperactivity has hurt his little siblings, his impulse control issues makes him dangerous on the playground at times. Have your son pick a small prize that he wants, picking his favorite dinner, and he earns it by doing something small. Following directions (at this stage, not even the first time, but by the third time) he is asked for a series of household tasks. If his attention problems are so great, and things like doing chores, are a chore to get done, have a list on the wall written in large BOLD letters, and he crosses it off when he is done. Written reminders of positive behaviors everywhere.

Hi. bsollace. I know how you feel. I am dealing with issues with my son too. He can get really nasty at times. He will yell and stomp the floor. He also will talk back and get really nasty when he speaks. I try not to lose my temper because I don't want my neighbors to think that I am abusing him or anything. I will just calmly talk to him. His father has even talked with him too. In situations as this it is best to pray and ask God to cease the stress and turmoil. Only he knows a way out of this stress. That is what I usually will do. I hope that things will get better for you and for me.

some kids are really like that, energetic but kinda annoying. but we as parents have to be more patient about it, you're right we dont need to yell all the time just to get their attention and stop them from being annoying or something. a good talk will do, but if they dont listen still then give them something they wouldnt forget, i was once tired of understanding my little boy when he was 3yrs old, i lost my temper and put him in a closet, locked him up in the dark, while talking and yelling outside, and let my anger out. i told him until he learned his lesson that's the only time he can go out. but i never left him i was outside praying and hoping that it will be the first and last time im gonna do this, it hurts me also but i had to discipline him in a way he wanted to. after an hour he knocked from inside and when i opened it he was crying and begging for forgiveness. i cried too and hate myself then, but you know what's the good thing about it, every time he do stupid things or act annoying, i always remind him about the dark closet and he will stop, because he doesnt want it to happen again. now that he's 6 already everything seems so easy, i guess good Lord listened to me. being a parent is not an easy task, it takes a lot of work, patience, understanding and love.. give them attention but dont give them too much, explain things they dont understand, eventually they will grow up and will behave as big boys or girls. im not saying you follow what i did if you think it wont work, but find other things to stop him from behaving like that, you could seek professional help too if you cant manage anymore. best of luck to all the parents in world! we can make it! we were once kids too so let's put our shoes into them sometimes. God bless! :)

I really don't have any answers to that. Personally, I don't know what I would do in that situation. I guess that is where faith comes in. I hope you find the answers to your questions.