Why is it so hard to be positive?

yeah there are times when it's really the hardest thing to do --- to be positive and optimistic..... but i think it's just a phase. it should be...because if it's more than "just a phase", then it has to be something serious like a major depression....

..hi.. that's also my struggle.. I always try my best to stay positive.. however, when things starts to fall, I sometimes become negative.. although I believe so much on the law of attraction but somehow, I need someone to remind me always of the importance of keeping calm in every situation and staying positive..

Well, I am sure there are many times when it might feel like every time that you are trying to be positive and hopeful something happens and then you feel like you have lost all hope, and you have to start all over. You might even feel like giving up, or that you are a failure and nothing good will ever come. These are always some natural things, and something I think we all have to deal with. The thing is what we do or allow ourselves or others to do is part of the key that can help us or hurt us the most. When we have someone who is there encouraging us and Praying for us, and helping us it helps to show we are needed and brings us out to be more positive and happier for sure.

Hello pinoycity, My mother always told me that you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. We must keep the faith no matter what, and be content in all happenings in our life. I have found that staying positive keeps you healthier too. :)

it is quite hard specially if quite used to it. In order to break the bondage of negativism you need to associate with positive people, lots of positive people. This will give you a lots of positive rub. If you observe a bum fire the fire keeps going and becomes big if you fed fuel on it. It is the same with us if we want to be positive only the time so we need to associate to positive people all the time. And, lasly, give your cares unto the LORD GOD who created you for He cares for you and me.

Congratulations on your efforts to become a positive person. But, it is not going to happen overnight. The way to combat negativeity is to see yourself as a positive person and concentrate on that image as often as possible. If you are slammed with negative experiences when you try to be positive it is because, deep inside your subconcious, wheher you want to admit it or not, you still want to be negative. You are used to it. It is your lifestyle. You have not yet had enough positive thoughts to imbed the message into your brain. It can take a long time. But, if you keep it up, it will happen. Good luck.

well i think it is hard because the world is already full of negative thoughts, things, vibes, deeds, and people. We try hard to stay away from vices, but our friends are so much into them.. we cannot seem to fight for the good cause alone... tendency is more of us go with the flow... But you see, when you are able to fight one negative thing in your life and you have stuck yourself firmly and know you would be able to stay positive... you'll find the rest of the challenges even if there are people who thinks so negatively around you - you would be able to even convince them... as they see you grow, succeed and become better.

Hello, What differentiates a positive person from a negative person is the level of expectations. If you have a high level of expectations from the world then you'll definitely suffer and end up in having more negative frame of mind. Being too much attached to things also increases expectations. The transition from a negative to a positive mentality doesn't take place overnight. You first analyze your self. You evaluate what is essential and what is not. You do this for days or even months. Then suddenly you realize that all those things that you used to consider essential were actually dispensable. This realization gives you the ability to detach yourself at your own will. You become wise enough to learn where to attach and where not to. Go to my myLot profile. There are a few articles that would definitely help you in building a positive frame of mind. Humor is also an essential part of positivity. One must be able to laugh at oneself wherever necessary. Reducing your ego factor will also help. Be humble, expect less, learn to let go. These are the key to a positive and optimistic life. Thanks. God bless you.

Well i had the same problem. And it took me 5 years for me to develop this attitude, and also i encouraged myself in all my best rather than my worst. And today yes i have a positive attitude.

All agree i am a very sucessful person, i give the credit of this to my positive way of thinking, positive attitute to every ascept of life, take the worst thing lightly.. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

Keep in mind if you have depression,you are simply more susceptible to negative stressors and perceived negative triggers. Since your cognition's are distorted your feelings and behaviors are also impacted negatively. Have you seen a professional as to learning more productive ways to cope with your depression? Are you taking any meds? What about therapy? Please let us know. Kindest regards, Dave