Is it right to leave your kids to work abroad?
By cyatibarra
@cyatibarra (123)
Philippines
September 24, 2010 5:20am CST
My visa just arrived, and im leaving very soon for CANADA. I dont know what to feel right now, im not sad neither excited. I love my kiddos so much to leave them at a very young age. They're 6 years olds twins (a boy and a girl). I sure gonna miss them very much.. but i have to leave to be able to provide their needs especially in their studies. I need to work outside the country because my compensation here is not enough. Their dad and I are divorced already and agreed to pay half of the expenses for the kids. I know its hard but i know my kids would understand that everything I do is for them. we actually talked already and they understand but they will surely miss me too. I only told them that technology right now is easier so a webcam and a 24 hours access thru the internet is a good idea to maintain our closeness, but still... being able to hug and kiss them for real is way better than online loving. sigh :(
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9 responses
@garneta (185)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
im planning to work abroad too, to support the needs of my son and give him a
brighter future but to think that i will be leaving him on a relative makes
me feel sad.i want to be with him as he grow up but what will happen with us
here in the philippines. My mother left us when we were kids to work as a dh
abroad and that was the saddest moment of my life and dont want my kid to feel
that too..im so confuse at the moment...sigh
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@cyatibarra (123)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
if youre not sure about where or whom your going to leave your kid, then it would be hard, because you'll not feel secure about them. with me, i now ive got the right person to take care of them and to think they are not my family also, i grew up without parents too but i know im better than my parents, because im leaving for a purpose and it will be in a short time only, they will follow as soon as im settled there.
and you're right, where going nowhere here in our country, even if im working in a prestigious company, still its not enough. the tuition fees, school, house rentals and the things they need are really hard to give if we stick to our jobs here. really a poor country :(
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
That is true leaving with them is really sad for you. And sure they 'll gonna miss you. At their young age so painful to be away from them but your reason is valid. You need to sacrifice that way for them to provide their needs now and in the future especially education. It is much harder to see them starving or they cannot get what are for them like clothing and right foods. See them they are not attending school as being out of school youth although you are professional and has the capacity to work for them and give them the descent lifestyle. Being sick away from them is just in the beginning. Just think of their needs and future and you will get stronger and be inspired by their needs materially. You can still with them by means of frequent communication through internet and phone. Be happy for them and you are much lucky for you have your visa now. Many are longing for that...
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 10
Hi,
When I was reading your post, I feel so sad and feel like
want to cry. Although your children are still small,but you really
have to go out for work in order to earn better life for them especially
for their studies.
As long as you have get someone can be trusted to takecare of them well,
then it should be fine. Try to chat with them everyday via phone or msn.
Nowadays technology is so advanced and by using webcam and video call, you can
see and hear their voices.
I believe you will miss them alot too. and try to spend time to visit both
of them.
Although you will be far away from them, you have to let them know that you
always have them in your heart.
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
hello cyatibarra!
i think it's not a matter of whether it is right for you or not to leave your kids to work abroad. you're doing it for them and deciding to be away from them for a long time is sacrifice indeed. However, you should always be ready for the consequences of your actions. I mean, that's your call, your choice which you have to face the consequences of.
if your top priority is to earn big to provide better for your kids then go.. but you should also bear in mind that it is at the expense of leaving your kids for sometime. yeah, you're right about being able to communicate still through internet and cellphone, but that would never replace the hugs and kisses you could give them when you're with them. oh, well, that's part of life isn't it? we always sacrifice something in order to achieve something..you just have to accept the consequences.
@diogz22 (516)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
That's great you having your visa. You should be somewhat proud. However there are things that we need to sacrifice such as that of you leaving your children behind. For sure that will be just temporary since sooner or later you can petition them to join you especially at that very young age you can easily petition them.
@mariacecilia13 (490)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
If we think of their future, the answer is definitely yes! Most parents will do the same just to ensure their kids bright future especially today that everything is expensive. Of course as parents, they are willing to sacrifice their own happiness just to send their kids to school and to give them almost everything that they'd like to have. You are right, luckily the technology helps us to keep in touch with our loved ones as if they are just beside us. I admire people like you, just like my parents who did everything to send us to school. Good luck to you.
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
hmmmm! sighs! its hard for a mother to leave her children really. thats the reason why also i didnt work abroad yet. i mean my youngest is still four year old. so i told myself not to work abroad till their big already. the time that they can understand things out. they can picture it out why will do such thing.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
24 Sep 10
I think there is no harm to go your kids abroad for working. I think every person want to getting successful in their life. So it is a way of getting success. I think in abroad your kids getting good salary than present time. So I always prefer to send kids to abroad for working.
@Echocool (29)
• China
24 Sep 10
You leaving for their future,I think it's right ,maybe now they can not understand, but when they are older, they will thank for you, it's not easy for you, but you do it and choose it, when someday you will gather together with them, you will feel more happies. Good luck for your work.
