On the topic of EXES: to ask or not to ask?

Normally I do not ask unless we have encountered the ex while together than it may spark my curiosity. I figure what happen in my past really does not matter to me. it is while I am present that does though.

It's definitely normal to ask your bf/gf about his past, but you shouldn't pressure them. Give them hints, if your mate isn't a very open person, that you really want to know about his past relationships, and tell him/her that you don't mean to judge or criticize. You just want to know what to avoid so that you two can stay on the same page longer. Besides, your present gf/bf deserves the right ask, since no one can avoid feeling jealous or slightly intimidated.

it's ok to ask. that would clear things between both of you. one can also ask why the relationship didnt work. it could help strengthening yours.

If you truely love your partner...never ask this unles she / he tell you. I dont know why but my wife is so open to me that she has told me everything of her past. We have so much of an understanding between us that never spoke anything about it after that. We have been loyal to each other and as its is said" forgivess does not change your past, But it does enlarge your future." We are having an healthy relationship. We trust and love each other. Our relation is full of faith, undersatnd and foirgiveness.

for me, it's fine if he tells me when i ask. in the first place, i asked because there are details i want to know. i believe a person's past made him what he's become in our relationship today. it's a means of understanding and appreciating him more. BUT, if i don't ask about his past relationship, he shouldn't tell anything. if he does that without me asking, it might mean he's not over her yet. being open and honest has its boundaries too and our respect for our partner would determine how much should be disclosed. info about exes are meant to serve as lessons, nothing more.

I think it is normal because your partner needs to know what has happen to the past so that your relationship will improve.