you see your bf/gf killing someone, would you tell the police?O_O

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Portugal
September 24, 2010 1:05pm CST
hi guys^^ imagine that you see your bf/gf killing someone. you love him/her so would you tell the police what you saw? would you? about me i dont think i would have courage to do that i mean i love that person. even sure he is not like i thought and i didnt want put noone in danger :( but i dont know is a very complicated situation. i dont know if i could. if he was a good person and killed that person bcs he was a bad guy/girl? i didnt know his reasons :( i dont know what i would do. but talk with him would be dangerous he could be really bad and kill me too. is a very hard situation right? what would you guys do? please share^^
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Sep 10
That is one thing I desire happens to no one. If it does then definitely anyone would be in confusions and problems. But if that happens to me, I would tell the cops, if they inquired. If not, then there is no need. Wait. Here in India we do not have anything called FBI or things as active and capable as the FBI or 911. It might take ages for the cops to trace out the murderer. Again, I know that if my gf is reported and caught, I can hire a lawyer who can get her out on parole and the court cases take ages to produce judgements. So that would keep things easy. Of course it would be like living with a sword hanging on top of your head but that is what would happen and over the period of time, things would become familiar and a daily routine. Just for adding up the complications on your discussion - How would it be if you found your b/f or g/f murdering someone who is next of importance to you(after your b/f or g/f). Take that... I bet you would get torn apart!!!!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Sep 10
I know you might consider me insane but I am a guy who is ruled by his heart and rarely by his brains. Yes, I would still be with my gf (though I should have been using wife coz I am married, but just using the gf word as you put it in the discussion). Reason is quite simple. I definitely would not fall in love with a serial killer or a psycho who just kills to satisfy herself. So if the gf has murdered (anyone for that matter), I would definitely know that there must be a reason behind this and would try finding this out from her. If she is honest with me, I would have no problems staying with her all throughout my life. After all, I selected her (maybe as a gf or a wife) to share all ups and downs of life. So why leave her out in such a case. She too would have undergone a hell before and after the murder.
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• Portugal
27 Sep 10
if killed someone important to me like someone from my family? sure i would be completely out of my mind. but i didnt mean someone i knew. just someone i didnt know he was killing. so i would investigate first before just go accuse him. but you would tell police about your gf and then take her out of jail and live normally with her like nothing happened? i could never do that. i would need to know what happened. imagine that you are living with a serial killer? i for sure would investigate all and see then what i would do. thanks for your answer.
@jaijaye (168)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
Depends on why he/she killed somebody. If he/she do it in a defensive way or he/she doesn't do it intentionally, that way I could never leave him/her behind. Perhaps if he do it intentionally will there is nothing I can do but I should be the first one to report it into the police. But first before the decision of reporting it to the police I should try to talk to him/her in a gently manner and listen to his/her side, I need his/her explanation too. In case he/she has a reason why he/she do it, maybe I could give him/her another chances.
• Portugal
27 Sep 10
aw you are a very sweet person^^ yes i agree with you totally^^ we should listen to the person first^^ but talk could be dangerous if person was a serial killer. we might run when see something like that with afraid we be the next right?^^ anyway i guess i would talk with my bf too and try to see why he did so. but i would also try to investigate without he knows bcs maybe he wasnt saying the truth. you know is a bit hard to trust completely after what we saw. anyway i wouldnt report to police while i didnt know the reason^^ thanks for your answer^^
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
24 Sep 10
Yes, absolutely, because killing is a big ting. But here are the conditions. First, if she kills someone in order to protect the one she loves, I will report her with good intention. But if she kills someone because of negative values, then I will report her with bad values, either.
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• Portugal
24 Sep 10
well about report if she killed to protect a dear one why would you report her? better dont say nothing. that way she isnt even accused. maybe they cant connect her name to the crime but if you report her that will happen for sure. and you know that if you kill someone even if is for defense some people go to jail anyway. so better to dont report. and about see and she was guilty then if you wanted report i can understand but if she killed to defend someone you shouldnt. anyway thanks for your opinion^^
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Sep 10
i think we must separate love and to do a bad...killing someone else off course break the law...we must report him or her to police
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 10
so before we report to police, we must know the root of problems.ask her or him from heart to heart whats going on...
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
yes thats what i meant^^ bcs your gf could have good reasons to do that. is not easy to just go and kill someone. so if she did that maybe that person was very bad so yes you should talk first with her and ask and say that you wont say nothing so the person can trust you. anyway if you didnt want to say you saw what happened you could not say anything and try to investigate who that person was and how was related to your gf^^ anyway this wont happen i wish so^^
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• Portugal
24 Sep 10
yes but i said you see him/her killing someone but you dont know the reasons why. imagine that he was threatening your gf saying that he would kill you and she killed him to protect you? or killed that person bcs that person was very very bad and was always after your gf threatening her and she couldnt take it anymore? without know someone reasons we cant judge. so i wouldnt report the person. thanks for your answer^^
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@luxlyangels (1286)
24 Sep 10
Go straght to the police k. If you dont and they find out you were aware they will charge you with conspiracy to commit murder and you would be in for 20 to life just like the bf or gf. if i see that kinda thing,911 would be my first call. After all you said a bf or gf. remember you can wake up anymorning and it can all be over btw both of you.lol so its not worth the risk
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• Portugal
24 Sep 10
yes i understand your point^^ but i couldnt turn my bf in^^ i just couldnt. bcs i dont know if he was doing that to defend himself or something. and he would go to prison and maybe he was acting like that bcs that person was too bad to him and he couldnt take it. i couldnt report someone without be sure of his intentions but without be sure of him being a bad guy i couldnt. thanks for your answer^^
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@SinRealm (558)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
The way my current relationship is going, I might just do that. She's taking me for granted so why would I cover up for her?
• Portugal
24 Sep 10
aww she is taking you for granted? so you mean she is using your feelings to do what she wants of you? so if you know that why dont you leave her? if she uses you is bcs she doesnt love you. but if you continue with her is bcs you have feelings for her right? anyway i understand your pain but if you feel bad you should just talk with her^^ why be with someone that loves us less than what we do?
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@SinRealm (558)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
More like she would rather spend time with her friends than spend time with me. And I know her friends backstab me.
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
aw really? thats so sad that she prefers to spend time with them than with you :( you are her bf she should want to spend more time with you. sure she could also hang out with friends but you are also important. also if they say bad about you, you should talk with her. they are not being good friends saying bad about you to her. also if you say she spends more time with them she might believe what they say :( you should talk with her and tell what you are feeling^^
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• Philippines
25 Sep 10
If I was a witness to everything? Of course, I'd tell the cops. She might end up killing me because I witnessed everything.
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
Ah, I see... thanks for clarifying that up. I thought you were asking if I was to be a witness to it. I wouldn't want to see blood, you know. Lol. Hmmm... this one's a toughie. I guess I need to know what really happened. And I don't even know if could think calmly if something like this comes up. Because frankly, this is psychological nightmare.
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• Portugal
27 Sep 10
aw sure^^ maybe i should had explain better^^ and yes you are right we couldnt be calm if saw that. actually i get scared so easy that if i saw that i guess i would scream and he might find me and if is bad guy kill me so i shut about what i saw. anyway sure we would need to investigate bcs our bf/gf in your case maybe did that to protect someone or himself :) thanks for agree with me^^
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• Portugal
25 Sep 10
yes but like the person doesnt know you saw everything. thats what i meant. i mean i wouldnt go to police right away. i wouldnt say nothing and would try to investigate on my own without say nothing. bcs i mean is not easy to just go accuse someone bcs we dont know his/her reasons^^ first we needed know why and after it we could decide what to do^^ thanks for your answer^^
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Sep 10
Even if i had a relationship with someone, i could not let a crime slip by. i would feel compelled to go to the authorities. A life is more precious than any romance.
• Portugal
27 Sep 10
yes i understand you^^ i just meant that sometimes we see things and things are not what they seem. like imagine he killed that person bcs he/she said that would kill you? and was like following you and sending your bf pics or something and saying he knows where you go and all and would kill you one of those days? and he killed him to protect you? thats why i said i would investigate first^^ so wouldnt make any mistake^^
• Kolkata, India
25 Sep 10
of course friend ---i must call the police . couse i do not want a criminal lover 4 my life.i can not take a criminal as my life partner happy mylotting
• Portugal
27 Sep 10
sure not^^ but i meant imagine he killed someone that was threatening to kill you or his family? and said he is going to kill all your family tomorrow or something? imagine that that is the reason why your bf did that. i couldnt accuse him. bcs i would also protect my family and my bf too if i was him. so i would see why he killed first before go accuse him. thanks for your answer^^
• India
25 Sep 10
i wont complaint.....i'll make my maximum efforts to save her.....
• Portugal
27 Sep 10
aw i see^^ you would just shut about what you saw. is ok that you want to protect her but imagine that she was a serial killer? i mean maybe she killed that person for protection of herself or someone else but imagine that she killed bcs she liked to kill like some people do? sometimes we dont know people completely. so i wouldnt tell police till i investigate what happened first. but if was really a serial killer i would have to tell police. or more people would die. but if killed for protection of himself or someone else i wouldnt tell nothing^^ thanks for your answer^^
@misheli (552)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
That's a very difficult question and difficult to answer. I don't know if I'm going to tell the police because I love him so much. I just hope it wont happen to my husband.
• Portugal
24 Sep 10
yes misheli^^ i agree with you^^ i also wish it doesnt happen to my bf^^ you are right would be very bad to report someone we love. we would feel guilty even more bcs we didnt know his reasons^^ anyway i wouldnt report my bf bcs i know he is a good person so if he killed someone is bcs he had a big reason^^ anyway sure wish it doesnt happen neither to you neither to noone^^ thanks for your answer^^
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• Philippines
25 Sep 10
for me its hard to tell the police that your bf/girlfriend that he/she killed someone.But it is wrong he/did so you need to tell the police.If you really love him you do whats good in his life.So you need to tell the police as well as soon.
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
yes sure is hard to do that^^ and i know you mean we want the person good and thats why we send him to prison but i mean imagine that he killed to protect someone or to protect himself? we didnt know what that person was doing. we just saw our bf killing the person but why we dont know. thats what i mean. so we should investigate first the reasons dont you think?^^ thanks for your answer^^
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• Indonesia
25 Sep 10
emm for me i will report it to the police even that you bf/gf will really mad to you because you're the people who set your bf/gf to jail,but it's for your bf/gf goods because they can learn for the past what they did
• Portugal
25 Sep 10
i understand what you mean^^ but imagine that the person did that bcs that person she killed was very bad? i mean sometimes people do things bcs they didnt have other choice. so first we should see what reasons our bf/gf had to do that and see what to do^^ at least thats what i would do. i couldnt just go report to police bcs imagine he did that to protect someone or even himself? we never know so^^ thanks for your answer^^
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• Portugal
27 Sep 10
aw no :) i mean i wouldnt just say ohh you did right thing. of course i would be very scared bcs imagine he killed bcs was a mean guy? sometimes people are not as we think. i just meant that i would investigate first to try to find out his reasons for that. but sure wouldnt be easy to just ignore what i saw and investigate alone. but i didnt want to just go accuse without know exactly why he did that.
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• Indonesia
25 Sep 10
yeah i see you will take a peace way altough he/she ever killed people :) nice reason,maybe i can change my thinking like you,and i think it will be a sin :D
• India
25 Sep 10
Probably I would not tell d police.. but if my bf has been a bad guy recently I would definately report it to the police HA HA HA
• Portugal
27 Sep 10
aww i see^^ so you mean bcs your bf is a good guy now you wouldnt report to the police bcs it meant he is good and just killed bcs he had too?^^ i understand your point^^ but sometimes people are not as they seem^^ so better you investigate why he did that and then decide what to do^^ bcs if this happened really for sure you would be scared to be around him without know his true reasons. thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
10 Jun 11
It doesnt matter who the person was... I dont care if it was my boyfriend or my kids or my parents if I saw one of them murder someone else I would report them. Killing is wrong no matter what and I would never hide what I saw. Thats just wrong. If I didnt report it what kind of person would I be! If I was the one who was killed I would want that witness to come forward and report it so the murderer wouldnt continue to walk around and possibly harm someone else.
@IoanaBI (494)
• Romania
24 Sep 10
Leave the country, get a new phone and number, change name. to bad good things don't last for ever, but am i surprized? a sacrifice must be done, not a humman sacrifice especialy, but there are thing to be lost
• Portugal
24 Sep 10
so you would leave him behind? so he wouldnt go after you? or you mean you would help him find a new phone and change his name? i didnt understand if you would leave him behind or just help him. anyway sure we must not do a human sacrifice but he did that already he killed someone but you dont know why. so you would just leave him without want know the truth? well i think would be the best actually. that way you are out of danger. trying to know why he did that could be worse :) thanks for your answer^^
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