Can you be friends with an ex?

Yes, I have invited my ex from college to be one of my son's godfather, and I'll make sure my husband will understand. After breaking with my exs I always ask them if we can we be friends? if the answer is yes then I shake their hands, call and text each other, after wards we make some reunions, we can get together, and until now most of my exs who always keep in touch is now our family best friends, together with their wives and children. There is nothing wrong of making friends whether it's your ex lover, the important is you accept the fact that after a love relationship there is always an open friend relationships. That's based to my experience.

in first i fell awkward.... but but when time past i already feel comfortable because it is better that your x will be your friend rather than your x will be your enemy.....But maybe if you still have feelings for your x you cannot make friends with her/him......

hhmhmhm, i think yes ,, but i think it is AWKWARd also to me.,,and i think there's always something there,.,,..., and i think i should accept the real one,..,

It depends on how you broke up. There's a painful break up like when the other partner cheated and it's a difficult thing to accept. My ex and I were able to chat like casual friends when we met after 4 years. He works at the Department of Foreign Affairs and even helped me out when I applied for a passport there.

hmmm...its hard to be friend with your ex because maybe you will fall in love again with him/her... its really hard...i swear...its hard to pretend that your ok if you were together...

Of course i can. why not ? It's simple forgive him... if the GOD could to be forgiven, why you not ?

Yes, because I value relationship as high as love itself, and my maturity and acceptance can guide me to be friend with everyone, including my ex. That does not sound very difficult to me, because usually I broke up with my ex not because of emotion or something stupid, but because we felt we were not suitable for each other, and we made it through good talk.

Hello, I really don't think so. If the break up was a normal and mutual one, then there is a feeble possibility that things may get back to normal. But this is hardly what happens in real life. I personally don't recommend seeing your ex immediately after a break up. I think there was something bitter related to your break up, may be some sense of humiliation or something like that. But it is really important that you heal yourself first, completely. May be you're still having some resentment about that relationship. Sometimes these feelings are not apparent as they lie deep into our subconscious mind. Anyways, I don't think its time yet for you to mix up with him again. Thanks. God bless you.

I am with you on this honey, and perhaps for me it is because my past relationships ended badly for me, but somehow I figure if we can be really good friends after a relationship is over why the heck are we still not together. Some of my friends can remain friends with their exes, God Bless, but I always say the same as you, I can't

it certainly depends upon how was your ex.. ? if the break up was mutual then its ok to be friends if its other way around then .. parting ways seems to be a better option...

aw i see ^^ but still i could accept his request^^ maybe he is a different person now^^ i mean it has been 11 years already since you broke up so^^ people change much in one year so in all those for sure he is different^^ why dont you give him a chance?^^ sure you are not obligated to but maybe he wants to talk to you and say sorry for hurt you in the past and be friends^^ you should give him a chance^^ has been a long time^^ and if he wants talk to you you can just listen and see ^^

It is all depends. Some will feel awkward and some we just can easily maintain the relationship. I have been there before. I don't know why, but it just the feelings. Maybe it the chemistry of the two personnel have to do with it. My last ex, I can easily talk to her. I even visit her last time, that was before we get married of course. Become friend, yes there is possibility. But if become our partner back, then it is a hard part.

I certainly agree with that. It's really awkward. Plus, your current relationship maybe somehow affected getting in touch with an ex. It would only bring out a lot of issues. Whatever the break up is all about, building connection with them wouldn't do you any good. A simple hi and hello when you bump into each other is okay, but it should end up there, hi hello and goodbye. lol.

Actually, maybe this seems weird, but my ex and I are best friends! Haha. And I love his new girlfriend! I think my family is strange in this way. My cousin got divorced, but she and her new fiancee go and visit him all the time... I think it's important to maintain relationships, because if it was valuable once, it can be valuable again, just in a different way :)

I used to be able to do that, but that was long ago when all the ex-persons were just ex boyfriends. After being married, it has become near damn impossible lol. I have an ex husband and when fb 'suggested' him as a friend I felt like smashing the screen lol.

I haven't been in that situation before. But if ever that happens to me, I think it would be like an acquaintance and not really friends because as you say it'll be awkward. He'll just bring back memories that is best left forgotten.